Happens all the time. Society assumes we adoptees know the truth of our origins and receive some sort of adoption file when we're 18. Truth is our birth certificates are altered and the original ones are legally hidden. We have no right to know our identities. Can't even annul our adoptions.
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Absolutely

So adoptive parents whine about being sold a lie, eh? That sounds right on par for #adoption. It's all one big flaming lie.

as with every tale the colonizer tells about the people they have vanquished, every adopter’s story is a variant on “it had to be this way; it was for the best.”

adoption cannot be understood without its underpinnings in colonization and conquest. it is strategic forgetting. an adopted child’s history begins at the point of acquisition; everything prior is set aside, obscured in myth.

there is no more blatant a stamp of ownership over a person’s identity than the “amended” birth certificate that erases a child’s genealogical history and substitutes a fictitious one for the benefit of the child’s adopters. this document is a property deed to the child’s identity.

Nowhere in this is the recognition of the fact that children become adults, who have rights. One of those rights should be to annul an adoption that happened without their consent and another is the right to access their original birth certificates and their adoption files. 🥚

Abolishing adoption means more families are supported and stay together. Children who need care outside of parental care can be kept in families through kinship care. We can choose to support systems that prioritize keeping families together. If that's not possible, legal guardianship exists

Not a crazy response at all. I encourage you to begin learning about #adoption as it's practiced in the US by reading Relinquished by Gretchen Sisson. Then dive into the world of the family policing system with Dorothy Robert's book Torn Apart. Both systems are coercive and oppressive.