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Kelly J. Baker (she/her)
@kellyjbaker.bsky.social
writer. mother. little gremlin. PhD. MFA student. author of Gospel According to the Klan, The Zombies Are Coming, Grace Period, Final Girl, etc. co-host of @podonlyknows.bsky.social newsletter: https://www.kellyjbaker.com/newsletter/
"But you still want a glass of wine, right?"

No, beloved, I still don't drink just like last year and the year before that and well you get the point. And yes, that includes wine.
November 23, 2025 at 8:56 PM
If they just dropped it, yes exactly!

I often ruin it for them too because they pressed me into a corner about it.
November 23, 2025 at 8:20 PM
Anyway, how did you know that I am gearing up for Thanksgiving and inevitable questions about "Why doesn't Kelly drink?"

People, I haven't drank in five years, and yet...
November 23, 2025 at 8:19 PM
My sobriety is my business, and I share it with the people I want to share it with.

So, I should be able to decline alcohol without dealing with the loads of questions about why.
November 23, 2025 at 8:16 PM
For example, I have a relative who insists on offering me alcohol, even though he knows I don't drink, and he wants a reason every time I decline.

It's an, at best, awkward exchange and, at worst, a hostile one.

I don't interact with him anymore.
November 23, 2025 at 8:14 PM
I have had people be really lovely about me not drinking and I've had people be really not nice.

I cherish the lovely people.
November 23, 2025 at 8:11 PM
It's weird how aggressive some folks can be when you decline alcohol. Like they need you to justify why you aren't drinking.

Please don't be that person.
November 23, 2025 at 8:09 PM
Exactly as I thought.
November 22, 2025 at 3:16 PM
Parent life.
November 22, 2025 at 1:34 PM
Yay!
November 21, 2025 at 10:27 PM
Y'all, all I have to do is edit and revise a draft of a thing.

And my brain is like, "NOPE."
November 21, 2025 at 4:11 PM
Mine is so, so bad.

Like, I am not sure how I am going to finish my last semester of MFA with this brain.
November 21, 2025 at 4:10 PM
Yep.
November 21, 2025 at 4:09 PM
The executive dysfunction has been so real this week.
November 21, 2025 at 4:07 PM