John Ruark (he/him)
@johnruark.bsky.social
Father, #LGBTQ ally, software engineer, theater tech all-rounder, pet dad figuring out how to smash the patriarchy and make a safe, welcoming space for all.
Yes I'm deep in the "Where Is My Husband" fan club. I love this song, and I love the video. This moment hits true. After chasing him throughout, once she finds him she acknowledges the wisdom of the message with a simple nod and gets about it. Nothing sappy. Pure awesome #RAYE youtu.be/rK5TyISxZ_M
January 15, 2026 at 3:38 AM
Yes I'm deep in the "Where Is My Husband" fan club. I love this song, and I love the video. This moment hits true. After chasing him throughout, once she finds him she acknowledges the wisdom of the message with a simple nod and gets about it. Nothing sappy. Pure awesome #RAYE youtu.be/rK5TyISxZ_M
I am going to start responding with just this link when someone messages me just a “hey” or “hi” and nothing else. Rude of me? Maybe. But you can include the pleasantries and the meat of your message at the same time. nohello.net/en/
no hello
please don't say just hello in chat
nohello.net
January 14, 2026 at 2:22 AM
I am going to start responding with just this link when someone messages me just a “hey” or “hi” and nothing else. Rude of me? Maybe. But you can include the pleasantries and the meat of your message at the same time. nohello.net/en/
I mean, I’m not opposed to both of these actually. Certainly every cisman could stand to experience life from a woman’s perspective for a while. Vote BLUE! #transgender-for-everyone
www.lgbtqnation.com/2026/01/quic...
www.lgbtqnation.com/2026/01/quic...
Trump says "mean" Dems will impeach him & force "transgender for everyone" if they win midterms - LGBTQ Nation
Trump claimed kids are getting gender-affirming surgery without their parents knowing. "It's not believable," he said. He's right.
www.lgbtqnation.com
January 7, 2026 at 3:45 AM
I mean, I’m not opposed to both of these actually. Certainly every cisman could stand to experience life from a woman’s perspective for a while. Vote BLUE! #transgender-for-everyone
www.lgbtqnation.com/2026/01/quic...
www.lgbtqnation.com/2026/01/quic...
The world might be a better place if pharma companies started adding a little estrogen to Men's Daily multivitamins. On the sly, just slip some in. Maybe some T-blockers for the 50+ #LGBTQ #smashthepatriarchy
January 5, 2026 at 3:09 AM
The world might be a better place if pharma companies started adding a little estrogen to Men's Daily multivitamins. On the sly, just slip some in. Maybe some T-blockers for the 50+ #LGBTQ #smashthepatriarchy
I would like a Name That Tune with classical music. And then a celebrity serious with famous conductors and performers. I’m sure they could name many symphonies from one note; the orchestration and timbre giving it away. Bonus points to name the performer/orchestra.
November 26, 2025 at 10:16 PM
I would like a Name That Tune with classical music. And then a celebrity serious with famous conductors and performers. I’m sure they could name many symphonies from one note; the orchestration and timbre giving it away. Bonus points to name the performer/orchestra.
I think having transgender voice actors for AI/call-center agents and commercial voice-overs would help people be more aware, comfortable, and accepting of transgender folks. Can we get some company to take the lead on this? #LGBTQ #trans #transgender
September 21, 2025 at 3:30 AM
I think having transgender voice actors for AI/call-center agents and commercial voice-overs would help people be more aware, comfortable, and accepting of transgender folks. Can we get some company to take the lead on this? #LGBTQ #trans #transgender
My daughter and I were watching Alien (again) and in this scene, she blurted out, “I’m so glad I’m never going to space. Or Australia.” Yes this is how we imagine what living in Australia, where everything can kill you, must be like.
August 30, 2025 at 3:09 AM
My daughter and I were watching Alien (again) and in this scene, she blurted out, “I’m so glad I’m never going to space. Or Australia.” Yes this is how we imagine what living in Australia, where everything can kill you, must be like.
Congrats everyone: We have reached peak pickle.
July 27, 2025 at 8:50 PM
Congrats everyone: We have reached peak pickle.
Pride month might be over but let the pride rage on. This 🌈 is from drying off from an afternoon shower.
July 2, 2025 at 1:45 AM
Pride month might be over but let the pride rage on. This 🌈 is from drying off from an afternoon shower.
Trump is the Zaphod Beeblebrox of our time. He's a popular showman with no political interest or skills; all the action is driven by people behind the scenes; he's a criminal that steals from the people and is haunted by the ghost of his father. He needs some time in the Total Perspective Vortex.
May 11, 2025 at 12:50 AM
Trump is the Zaphod Beeblebrox of our time. He's a popular showman with no political interest or skills; all the action is driven by people behind the scenes; he's a criminal that steals from the people and is haunted by the ghost of his father. He needs some time in the Total Perspective Vortex.
I believe everyone is their most beautiful self when they are their true self. And don't we all want to see beautiful people around us? Let people be their true selves, and celebrate them. #LGBTQIA #LGBT #trans
www.advocate.com/voices/trans... (2023)
www.advocate.com/voices/trans... (2023)
Here's a Message of Trans Joy in These Challenging Times
While it may sometimes seem like being trans means a life of hardship, we know that the reality is that being trans is beautiful, and that so many of us are living, surviving, and thriving.
www.advocate.com
April 11, 2025 at 1:36 AM
I believe everyone is their most beautiful self when they are their true self. And don't we all want to see beautiful people around us? Let people be their true selves, and celebrate them. #LGBTQIA #LGBT #trans
www.advocate.com/voices/trans... (2023)
www.advocate.com/voices/trans... (2023)
I very much doubt my posts get seen by anyone. But if anyone out there, especially #trans youth feeling alone, needs a virtual dad to talk to, who listens with empathy and compassion and without judgment, and who gives strong if virtual hugs, I'm available to chat. DM me. #lgbtq
April 5, 2025 at 2:41 AM
Being a man is not the same as being male is not the same as being masculine. You can be all three, two of them, any one of them, or none. And that's OK.
March 13, 2025 at 12:51 PM
Being a man is not the same as being male is not the same as being masculine. You can be all three, two of them, any one of them, or none. And that's OK.
I wonder, if Dante were alive today, how would he assign various members of the fascist administration to the circles of hell? Perhaps a new mouth for Satan would be needed for the fascist-in-chief, but really, I imagine Dante might encounter him on every circle, as the sins are manifold.
March 12, 2025 at 11:40 PM
I wonder, if Dante were alive today, how would he assign various members of the fascist administration to the circles of hell? Perhaps a new mouth for Satan would be needed for the fascist-in-chief, but really, I imagine Dante might encounter him on every circle, as the sins are manifold.
Confession time. I made a bolognese sauce. And I didn't use a bay leaf. It still tastes good! Shhh don't tell Big Bay Leaf.
February 21, 2025 at 2:09 AM
Confession time. I made a bolognese sauce. And I didn't use a bay leaf. It still tastes good! Shhh don't tell Big Bay Leaf.
February 16, 2025 at 11:07 PM
All of this. It's not hard. Be kind, be sympathetic and empathetic, be supportive. Witches are indeed wonderful. #Witchsky
It always pays to be nice to people we don’t know.
Yes, they could be a witch.
They could also be fighting a silent war against depression.
They could even be someone who could change your life for the better.
Be wise and kind always.
Love is the way.
Also, witches are wonderful. 🖤
#Witchsky
Yes, they could be a witch.
They could also be fighting a silent war against depression.
They could even be someone who could change your life for the better.
Be wise and kind always.
Love is the way.
Also, witches are wonderful. 🖤
#Witchsky
February 12, 2025 at 6:29 PM
All of this. It's not hard. Be kind, be sympathetic and empathetic, be supportive. Witches are indeed wonderful. #Witchsky
Despite their corporate PR babble speak, the timing is sus. www.thepinknews.com/2025/02/11/g...
Google Calendar removes Pride Month and Black History Month
Google Calendar has removed dates for Black History Month, Pride Month and Women’s History Month amid a wider diversity rollback.
www.thepinknews.com
February 12, 2025 at 4:57 PM
Despite their corporate PR babble speak, the timing is sus. www.thepinknews.com/2025/02/11/g...
Seems the US Govt not following its own guidelines from the Board of Geographic Names on name changes (d9-wret.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/palla...), especially with respect to local use. We should all submit requests to change back to Gulf of Mexico on the grounds of local use.
February 12, 2025 at 1:24 AM
Seems the US Govt not following its own guidelines from the Board of Geographic Names on name changes (d9-wret.s3.us-west-2.amazonaws.com/assets/palla...), especially with respect to local use. We should all submit requests to change back to Gulf of Mexico on the grounds of local use.
Disappointed to see that Google, Bing (Microsoft), and Apple all have the wrong name for the Gulf of Mexico. Seems like something that would need to be renamed by Congress, not a single orange one-brain-celled d*ck.
February 12, 2025 at 12:58 AM
Disappointed to see that Google, Bing (Microsoft), and Apple all have the wrong name for the Gulf of Mexico. Seems like something that would need to be renamed by Congress, not a single orange one-brain-celled d*ck.
February 12, 2025 at 12:42 AM
February 9, 2025 at 3:36 AM