I really mean I dont mind be fetishized because I am so much of a whore it's a core part of my personality. It only becomes demeaning to my sense of self when people don't recognize how important my body is to me but view it only as some guilty pleasure for themselves

Ill probably want to delete this later

I'm not talking about the guy I actually sleep with anyway. Just long time friends that now use me as masturbation material

I might just be neurotic as fuck. That's not how anybody actually thinks of me, i hope. But odd comments here and there get under my skin and send me spiralling

It's not even like the fetishization that bothers me. It's that I know he wouldn't so much as a pop a boner to me if I did look like a woke carricature of a man in a dress, but that i am now actually feminine/androgynous is just some plus for *him* to get off to but not actually important for me

There's something especially degrading about a chaser downplaying my physical dysphoria and grief over years of repression

Some people freak out about shit being "tranny coded" the same way dudes worry about enjoying things that might make them look gay

Personally, I find it pretty easy to not like something and move on instead of talking like "look at this demographic of people who like x thing, theyre so disgusting! What is wrong with these people?!"

It is very much the same as how dudes and pick me girls would make a point out of hating Twilight or anything somewhat popular with women to vent their misogyny

It's supposed to be a bit more nuanced, but most of the time it comes across as "let's shame women who want consequences for their abusers through the criminal justice system"

So I disregard it completely