Being an international/transracial adoptee. But yeah. I don’t really have a definitive point for this. More just to get the thoughts out of my brain (3/3)

Good relationship with my adoptive parents. And over the years they’ve gotten better about being able to hold space for my adoption related anger and grief. And they’ve slowly accepted that they can love life with me in it while also acknowledging the problematic circumstances of (2/?)

Was scrolling through this thread to see if anyone else mentioned this site. I’ve also had positive experiences using their service and getting swatches 😊

Once you decide one group can go under the bus, you've decided all of the groups can go under the bus.

At that point you're just negotiating preferred order.