academics, policy ppl, hr departments, feminists, cis gays etc all think they know what the right way to conceptualize our existence is. we cant let them have that

buried lede: despite self-protective cultural myths about interest in csa(m) being rare, "deviant," an outlier, an exception, it is in fact common, widespread, & normalized because that is what happens when you have a group of people defined by their powerlessness in a culture where sex = power