Eli Finkel
@elijfinkel.bsky.social
Professor at Northwestern/Kellogg • Author of THE ALL-OR-NOTHING MARRIAGE • Co-host of the LOVE FACTUALLY podcast • Co-director of the CENTER FOR ENLIGHTENED DISAGREEMENT • Post about relationships (sex, marriage) and politics (polarization, free speech).
The second batch encompasses 12 interpersonal tendencies that we can cultivate to strengthen our relationships, including constructive patterns of thought and behavior.
May 21, 2025 at 2:17 PM
The second batch encompasses 12 interpersonal tendencies that we can cultivate to strengthen our relationships, including constructive patterns of thought and behavior.
Then the chapter gets into the field's major ideas and findings, discussing them in two batches. The first batch encompasses seven exogenous constraints that impinge upon our relationships, including the nature of human psychology, human sociality, and time itself.
May 21, 2025 at 2:17 PM
Then the chapter gets into the field's major ideas and findings, discussing them in two batches. The first batch encompasses seven exogenous constraints that impinge upon our relationships, including the nature of human psychology, human sociality, and time itself.
While you're browsing The Handbook (www.the-HSP.com), make sure to read the story of how the 1968 edition of the Handbook changed Mahzarin @banaji's life.
Mahzarin contributed this STUNNING artwork as the "cover" for the 2025 edition.
Mahzarin contributed this STUNNING artwork as the "cover" for the 2025 edition.
May 19, 2025 at 3:48 PM
While you're browsing The Handbook (www.the-HSP.com), make sure to read the story of how the 1968 edition of the Handbook changed Mahzarin @banaji's life.
Mahzarin contributed this STUNNING artwork as the "cover" for the 2025 edition.
Mahzarin contributed this STUNNING artwork as the "cover" for the 2025 edition.
🎇It's #PubDay for THE HANDBOOK OF SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY (6e)!🎇
This is the latest edition of the most venerated institution in social psychology, dating back to 1954. Fifty definitive chapters, over 8,000 manuscript pages. (The TOC appears below.)
And: IT'S 100% OPEN-ACCESS: www.the-HSP.com.🧵
This is the latest edition of the most venerated institution in social psychology, dating back to 1954. Fifty definitive chapters, over 8,000 manuscript pages. (The TOC appears below.)
And: IT'S 100% OPEN-ACCESS: www.the-HSP.com.🧵
May 19, 2025 at 3:48 PM
🎇It's #PubDay for THE HANDBOOK OF SOCIAL PSYCHOLOGY (6e)!🎇
This is the latest edition of the most venerated institution in social psychology, dating back to 1954. Fifty definitive chapters, over 8,000 manuscript pages. (The TOC appears below.)
And: IT'S 100% OPEN-ACCESS: www.the-HSP.com.🧵
This is the latest edition of the most venerated institution in social psychology, dating back to 1954. Fifty definitive chapters, over 8,000 manuscript pages. (The TOC appears below.)
And: IT'S 100% OPEN-ACCESS: www.the-HSP.com.🧵
I've been waiting years for this book!
My friend and collaborator Greg Walton (professor at Stanford) has pioneered a new paradigm for achieving big change. As he explains in ORDINARY MAGIC, it starts with small acts.
The book is powerful and a pleasure to read. Check it out!
My friend and collaborator Greg Walton (professor at Stanford) has pioneered a new paradigm for achieving big change. As he explains in ORDINARY MAGIC, it starts with small acts.
The book is powerful and a pleasure to read. Check it out!
April 21, 2025 at 10:18 PM
I've been waiting years for this book!
My friend and collaborator Greg Walton (professor at Stanford) has pioneered a new paradigm for achieving big change. As he explains in ORDINARY MAGIC, it starts with small acts.
The book is powerful and a pleasure to read. Check it out!
My friend and collaborator Greg Walton (professor at Stanford) has pioneered a new paradigm for achieving big change. As he explains in ORDINARY MAGIC, it starts with small acts.
The book is powerful and a pleasure to read. Check it out!
Check out this profound visual essay from the brilliant @lianafinck.bsky.social. It's equally wise about equality and relationships, and especially about tensions therein.
I Quit the Patriarchy and Rescued My Marriage www.nytimes.com/2025/02/01/o...
I Quit the Patriarchy and Rescued My Marriage www.nytimes.com/2025/02/01/o...
February 1, 2025 at 8:28 PM
Check out this profound visual essay from the brilliant @lianafinck.bsky.social. It's equally wise about equality and relationships, and especially about tensions therein.
I Quit the Patriarchy and Rescued My Marriage www.nytimes.com/2025/02/01/o...
I Quit the Patriarchy and Rescued My Marriage www.nytimes.com/2025/02/01/o...
🎉New Episode of the #LoveFactuallyPod: "EASY A" 🎉
Sex Guru Justin Lehmiller (@justinlehmiller.bsky.social) joins Paul and me for a deep dive into this Emma Stone classic.
This film is not as sex-positive as you remember.
Sex Guru Justin Lehmiller (@justinlehmiller.bsky.social) joins Paul and me for a deep dive into this Emma Stone classic.
This film is not as sex-positive as you remember.
January 7, 2025 at 4:19 PM
🎉New Episode of the #LoveFactuallyPod: "EASY A" 🎉
Sex Guru Justin Lehmiller (@justinlehmiller.bsky.social) joins Paul and me for a deep dive into this Emma Stone classic.
This film is not as sex-positive as you remember.
Sex Guru Justin Lehmiller (@justinlehmiller.bsky.social) joins Paul and me for a deep dive into this Emma Stone classic.
This film is not as sex-positive as you remember.
Is this the most romantic #NewYearsEve scene ever depicted?
"I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
Check it out on the #LoveFactuallyPod
open.spotify.com/episode/2RYJ...
"I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
Check it out on the #LoveFactuallyPod
open.spotify.com/episode/2RYJ...
December 30, 2024 at 2:12 PM
Is this the most romantic #NewYearsEve scene ever depicted?
"I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
Check it out on the #LoveFactuallyPod
open.spotify.com/episode/2RYJ...
"I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
Check it out on the #LoveFactuallyPod
open.spotify.com/episode/2RYJ...
One of my favorite parts of the episode is this excerpt, in which @petersagal.bsky.social talks about how men can feel threatened by women's sexuality.
December 26, 2024 at 6:23 PM
One of my favorite parts of the episode is this excerpt, in which @petersagal.bsky.social talks about how men can feel threatened by women's sexuality.
December 23, 2024 at 6:24 PM
CHRISTMAS DAY is the 3-month anniversary of the #LoveFactuallyPod.
As Paul Eastwick (@pauleastwick.bsky.social) and I debated which film represents the ideal holiday movie for the podcast, we realized that the clear winner is ...
🍿Stanley Kubrick's EYES WIDE SHUT🍿
🎵Baby did a bad bad thing🎵
As Paul Eastwick (@pauleastwick.bsky.social) and I debated which film represents the ideal holiday movie for the podcast, we realized that the clear winner is ...
🍿Stanley Kubrick's EYES WIDE SHUT🍿
🎵Baby did a bad bad thing🎵
December 23, 2024 at 1:59 PM
CHRISTMAS DAY is the 3-month anniversary of the #LoveFactuallyPod.
As Paul Eastwick (@pauleastwick.bsky.social) and I debated which film represents the ideal holiday movie for the podcast, we realized that the clear winner is ...
🍿Stanley Kubrick's EYES WIDE SHUT🍿
🎵Baby did a bad bad thing🎵
As Paul Eastwick (@pauleastwick.bsky.social) and I debated which film represents the ideal holiday movie for the podcast, we realized that the clear winner is ...
🍿Stanley Kubrick's EYES WIDE SHUT🍿
🎵Baby did a bad bad thing🎵
🎉New on the #LoveFactuallyPod: EYES WIDE SHUT🎥
Our guest is the great PETER SAGAL (@petersagal.bsky.social), host of @npr.org's WAIT WAIT DON'T TELL ME. His expertise as a screenwriter is crucial in helping us unpack & assess the relationship messages in the film.
open.spotify.com/episode/07Ch...
Our guest is the great PETER SAGAL (@petersagal.bsky.social), host of @npr.org's WAIT WAIT DON'T TELL ME. His expertise as a screenwriter is crucial in helping us unpack & assess the relationship messages in the film.
open.spotify.com/episode/07Ch...
December 23, 2024 at 1:07 PM
🎉New on the #LoveFactuallyPod: EYES WIDE SHUT🎥
Our guest is the great PETER SAGAL (@petersagal.bsky.social), host of @npr.org's WAIT WAIT DON'T TELL ME. His expertise as a screenwriter is crucial in helping us unpack & assess the relationship messages in the film.
open.spotify.com/episode/07Ch...
Our guest is the great PETER SAGAL (@petersagal.bsky.social), host of @npr.org's WAIT WAIT DON'T TELL ME. His expertise as a screenwriter is crucial in helping us unpack & assess the relationship messages in the film.
open.spotify.com/episode/07Ch...
📢New episode of the #LoveFactuallyPod: BRIDGET JONES'S DIARY📢
Join @pauleastwick.bsky.social and me as we consider the nature of singlehood, whether playing-hard-to get is an effective dating strategy, & why it feels so good to be liked "just as we are."
lovefactually.substack.com/p/episode-12...
Join @pauleastwick.bsky.social and me as we consider the nature of singlehood, whether playing-hard-to get is an effective dating strategy, & why it feels so good to be liked "just as we are."
lovefactually.substack.com/p/episode-12...
December 12, 2024 at 12:39 PM
📢New episode of the #LoveFactuallyPod: BRIDGET JONES'S DIARY📢
Join @pauleastwick.bsky.social and me as we consider the nature of singlehood, whether playing-hard-to get is an effective dating strategy, & why it feels so good to be liked "just as we are."
lovefactually.substack.com/p/episode-12...
Join @pauleastwick.bsky.social and me as we consider the nature of singlehood, whether playing-hard-to get is an effective dating strategy, & why it feels so good to be liked "just as we are."
lovefactually.substack.com/p/episode-12...
In the latest episode of the #LoveFactually, @pauleastwick.bsky.social and I discuss **THE NOTEBOOK**.
What messages does this Gosling/McAdams showcase send viewers about the nature of love, and how well do this messages align with the evidence from relationship science?
lovefactually.substack.com
What messages does this Gosling/McAdams showcase send viewers about the nature of love, and how well do this messages align with the evidence from relationship science?
lovefactually.substack.com
December 2, 2024 at 12:48 PM
In the latest episode of the #LoveFactually, @pauleastwick.bsky.social and I discuss **THE NOTEBOOK**.
What messages does this Gosling/McAdams showcase send viewers about the nature of love, and how well do this messages align with the evidence from relationship science?
lovefactually.substack.com
What messages does this Gosling/McAdams showcase send viewers about the nature of love, and how well do this messages align with the evidence from relationship science?
lovefactually.substack.com
This new analysis from Nate Cohn distills one of the most shocking partisan trends over the past decade. Blacks and Hispanics have shifted massively Republican (Trump; ~24 points), whereas educated Whites have shifted massively Democrat (Harris; ~17 points).
www.nytimes.com/2024/11/25/u...
www.nytimes.com/2024/11/25/u...
November 25, 2024 at 3:27 PM
This new analysis from Nate Cohn distills one of the most shocking partisan trends over the past decade. Blacks and Hispanics have shifted massively Republican (Trump; ~24 points), whereas educated Whites have shifted massively Democrat (Harris; ~17 points).
www.nytimes.com/2024/11/25/u...
www.nytimes.com/2024/11/25/u...
Sleigh bells are ringing at Northwestern / Kellogg.
November 21, 2024 at 3:20 PM
Sleigh bells are ringing at Northwestern / Kellogg.
📢NEW EPISODE: THE LOVE FACTUALLY PODCAST📢
Spike Jonze's **HER**
@pauleastwick.bsky.social & I discuss the relationships implications of A.I., & more, in our analysis of “Her,” the 2013 boy-meets-operating-system romance starring Joaquin Phoenix and Scarlett Johansson.
lovefactually.substack.com
Spike Jonze's **HER**
@pauleastwick.bsky.social & I discuss the relationships implications of A.I., & more, in our analysis of “Her,” the 2013 boy-meets-operating-system romance starring Joaquin Phoenix and Scarlett Johansson.
lovefactually.substack.com
November 19, 2024 at 3:04 PM
📢NEW EPISODE: THE LOVE FACTUALLY PODCAST📢
Spike Jonze's **HER**
@pauleastwick.bsky.social & I discuss the relationships implications of A.I., & more, in our analysis of “Her,” the 2013 boy-meets-operating-system romance starring Joaquin Phoenix and Scarlett Johansson.
lovefactually.substack.com
Spike Jonze's **HER**
@pauleastwick.bsky.social & I discuss the relationships implications of A.I., & more, in our analysis of “Her,” the 2013 boy-meets-operating-system romance starring Joaquin Phoenix and Scarlett Johansson.
lovefactually.substack.com