uugggghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! At least it’s not dark capital-a Agile, but not having regular little-a agile is rouuuugh

Keep fighting the good fight, buddy. I hate when people act clueless about something you told them eons ago.

and do they all act this way in the spirit of “Agile” ? Is that a thing at your work?

as a ✨new mom✨ who also works full time, I only have 30-60 minutes of play time I can snatch here or there, but it’s refreshing as fuck to be able to play this again

That is downright scary. And for someone so young. Is she aware something is wrong, or is she in denial?

Oh no!!!!! I hope she feels better soon!

I’m still in the hair loss phase, but the worst of it is behind me - it felt like every time I touched my infant, three strands of hair got stuck on him!!!

Now that I’ve been on this whole thread rampage, I’m not even sure the point - just that when people getting mad at other people for making them feel bad about not breastfeeding, we’re infighting. We should collectively be pissed at the meager protections our government/society has for new parents.

So that gal almost certainly had to spend her hard-earned money to buy formula for her infant she had to leave at home or daycare, because she had to go to work so soon after giving birth to pay her bills. My husband and I were fortunate enough to have enough savings to live off for a few months.

(My parents help watch my son during my work days - the cost of daycare for infants is a whole other thing I won’t get into now)

My work didn’t offer maternity leave per se, but I had 12 weeks FMLA to use and 6 weeks disability insurance which amounted to 4 weeks of 60% of pay during that time. I also had 80 hours of unpaid time off I used to effectively work half-days for another 4 weeks. AND I get to work from home.

I was still so incontinent and really struggled to stay hydrated. I had a tear I was still recovering from. My husband and I were probably getting maybe 4 hours each of sleep in 24-hours. That gal’s baby was maybe three weeks older than mine.

When I was hugely pregnant, there was a gal who was also hugely pregnant who worked at my local Target.

I remember during my leave from work, when I was three weeks postpartum, I took my first outing away from baby which was a 30 minute Target run - and that gal was WORKING.

and if parents to new babies really COULD have, like, even three months where they didn’t have to worry about their jobs, or having the funds to pay their bills, and just focus on their families, I wonder if more parents may be able to pull of even a little breastfeeding (if they wanted to)

They get told they have to, that it’s the only responsible way to feed a baby; that formula is “inferior” and will damage their baby; that it should be painless and come naturally; that you WON’T be stuck on your ass for 5, 6, 7 hours a day feeding your baby event 90 minutes around the clock

if parents planned a c-section but went into labor and delivered vaginally, or wanted an epidural but didn’t get one

And I think the same thing happens to parents who may desire to breastfeed, even a little bit

It’s easy to say that the default “negative outcome” is someone who wanted a natural birth, but ended up with a c-section, perhaps after an induction and the “cascading interventions” as they call it.
But the negative outcomes happened the other way too

This was over ten years ago, so I’m not going to try to share any data - but! I remember one finding really stuck with me. People had difficulty recovering from childbirth when their experience didn’t match their expectations or hopes. This wasn’t just for those who didn’t want a c-section.

When I was in college I did a big research project on maternal mortality and morbidity rates in the US. It’s sad but the US has the worst maternal death or injury rates for our freshly postpartum citizens out of any first world nation.