At the end of the day what they want is proof on how we can contribute to the system if we're not making new cogs for the machines, will my partner bring in enough tax revenue to make this worthwhile

1 bitty thing off and bam, that's 11k gone, and my partner asked to leave the country, then we have to try again offshore months later. We face bigger challenges because queer couples "have to prove they're in a relationship more so than het couples because they look more like friends, not partners"

Like to super condense this down; in order for my partner to stay here with me, we need to show everything about our relationship prior to the visa app, then continue to document during the FIRST STAGE of processing, pay 11k for the privilege and if we fuck it up even a tiny bit it gets declined