Also, I was explicitly told in IFS training that there is no doctrine and we are welcome to believe whatever we want about the nature of parts and Self. There can of course be a coalescing of beliefs that can become like a hidden doctrine of course, but I remain open to different interpretations.

body that can see them all with compassion and curiosity.

by that. In non-plurals, the state of Self is not understood to be the “true” identity, but a way of being that naturally is curious, compassionate, connected, et cetera. That is what I am referring to by “meta-self.” A state of being that belongs to all of the personalities contained within the

For myself, as an autistic person as well, I’m not interested in normalization, but finding harmony. I’m curious, do you know for sure that plural people (I apologize for not knowing the correct terminology and feel free to fill me in) do not have access to a “meta-self?” I should state what I mean

That’s fair. Jobs are a cultural reality, not a fundamental one. I use it as shorthand for the notion of “repeated patterns of behavior, done for a specific purpose with a desired goal in mind.” I see your point of how the concept of job can carry more baggage than that.

I’m something of a pan-psychist, believing that consciousness exists in everything, so the distinction between souled and soul-less is an interesting one, but it’s not something I would claim to know.

I appreciate that correction. I was intending to convey “the plurals I met with” in a condensed way, but I can see how it became a slur by shortening it. I apologize.

That seemed to work for the plurals. I’m not trying to sell you on this, but I’m just curious to get feedback to inform my practice. Also a core trait of IFS is that jobs are not inherent and each “part” is a full personality that can change jobs. Curious to hear your thoughts?

I’m very curious about all this, and I can see how certain ways of viewing/doing IFS would be limiting for plurals. When I have done IFS with plurals, I view it as each plural having its own Self, with the potential that there *might* be a kind of meta-Self, but not assuming that there is.

Having a good relationship with my Self like part has been such a gift for helping clients recognize their self like parts without shame.

I haven’t gotten to read that one yet either but its in my holds

I loved this one too!!! All of the strange new worlds books have been really good imo. This one is my favorite

How sad that he thinks he is representing Jesus by spreading hate.

Thank you for what you’re doing

It takes a lot of energy to suppress the cognitive dissonance between believing yourself a “good Christian man” and committing despicable actions. I would genuinely consider that as a reason for his fatigue.

Question I would ask:
“Isn’t it true that the tiredness you mentioned on your face is because of the energy it takes to suppress the cognitive dissonance between wanting to see yourself as a “good Christian man” and your actions?