2. www.ucpress.edu/books/gender...

There’s moooooore. Angel x Paige. Reese’s x Oreo. #WNBA

Say I tell you, “I, however, do not choke my children for any reason. I believe it is wrong to choke your children.”

Abuse then, appears to be a cycle that can be broken. The trauma doesn’t have to be passed on. Another choice appears.

So you might observe that abuse involves choice.

Say I tell you, “My father is choking my brother because he learned that he can harm his children without consequence, because his children are seen as his property to control, and abuse is deemed an acceptable or even necessary response to any infraction.”

I think you’d believe this, too.

Say I tell you “My father is choking my brother because he was himself choked by his own father.” You’d likely be able to believe it. Those who abuse tend to abuse. Those who suffer trauma tend to traumatize.

Abuse, then, often appears in a continuum. A passing along of cost.