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· Nov 5
Moral Schemas and the Death of Empathy - Transiness
When social schemas meant to safeguard identity turn into barriers to empathy — a psychological and deeply human reflection.
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Our schemas of “them” and “us” are what keep us apart.
Beyond the Schema - new blog post on Transiness.
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Beyond the Schema - new blog post on Transiness.
transiness.com/?p=195
Stay with me here.
Transition touches everyone: infant to toddler, student to academic, lover to carer.
And that’s the tragedy of gender-critical ideology - watching people subconsciously transition into the very thing that once wounded them.
Isn’t that what most survivors fear?
Transition touches everyone: infant to toddler, student to academic, lover to carer.
And that’s the tragedy of gender-critical ideology - watching people subconsciously transition into the very thing that once wounded them.
Isn’t that what most survivors fear?
December 4, 2025 at 11:47 PM
Stay with me here.
Transition touches everyone: infant to toddler, student to academic, lover to carer.
And that’s the tragedy of gender-critical ideology - watching people subconsciously transition into the very thing that once wounded them.
Isn’t that what most survivors fear?
Transition touches everyone: infant to toddler, student to academic, lover to carer.
And that’s the tragedy of gender-critical ideology - watching people subconsciously transition into the very thing that once wounded them.
Isn’t that what most survivors fear?
I finally realised why GC interactions felt like dealing with blokes: masculine-coded dominance wrapped in feminine-coded moral virtue.
When someone shifts into dominance mode, my instincts treat them like the men they’re performing.
Real women, real connection, real safety feel nothing like this.
When someone shifts into dominance mode, my instincts treat them like the men they’re performing.
Real women, real connection, real safety feel nothing like this.
December 4, 2025 at 11:19 PM
I finally realised why GC interactions felt like dealing with blokes: masculine-coded dominance wrapped in feminine-coded moral virtue.
When someone shifts into dominance mode, my instincts treat them like the men they’re performing.
Real women, real connection, real safety feel nothing like this.
When someone shifts into dominance mode, my instincts treat them like the men they’re performing.
Real women, real connection, real safety feel nothing like this.
Gender critics: “biological male!”
My bloodwork: “sweetie… where? Be specific.”
Endocrine profile? Female.
Cardiometabolic profile? Female.
Liver, kidney, RBC indices? Female.
Testosterone: Undetectable
Amazing how “biology is immutable” collapses the moment you look at, you know… biology.
My bloodwork: “sweetie… where? Be specific.”
Endocrine profile? Female.
Cardiometabolic profile? Female.
Liver, kidney, RBC indices? Female.
Testosterone: Undetectable
Amazing how “biology is immutable” collapses the moment you look at, you know… biology.
December 4, 2025 at 10:53 PM
Gender critics: “biological male!”
My bloodwork: “sweetie… where? Be specific.”
Endocrine profile? Female.
Cardiometabolic profile? Female.
Liver, kidney, RBC indices? Female.
Testosterone: Undetectable
Amazing how “biology is immutable” collapses the moment you look at, you know… biology.
My bloodwork: “sweetie… where? Be specific.”
Endocrine profile? Female.
Cardiometabolic profile? Female.
Liver, kidney, RBC indices? Female.
Testosterone: Undetectable
Amazing how “biology is immutable” collapses the moment you look at, you know… biology.
It's always a relief to see my local phlebotomist, he's a guy, and is also really lovely.
I had a weigh in, he said "I'm so sorry you've put on 5kg". I said, my face was too thin so I put a bit on.
To that he says "well, you have a figure many women would die for".
😉😁
I had a weigh in, he said "I'm so sorry you've put on 5kg". I said, my face was too thin so I put a bit on.
To that he says "well, you have a figure many women would die for".
😉😁
December 4, 2025 at 6:55 PM
It's always a relief to see my local phlebotomist, he's a guy, and is also really lovely.
I had a weigh in, he said "I'm so sorry you've put on 5kg". I said, my face was too thin so I put a bit on.
To that he says "well, you have a figure many women would die for".
😉😁
I had a weigh in, he said "I'm so sorry you've put on 5kg". I said, my face was too thin so I put a bit on.
To that he says "well, you have a figure many women would die for".
😉😁
The trouble with attacking trans girls is that for everyone who has met them, they have a higher vulnerability and *emotional status* than overweight middle-aged women with a beef against men.
That's why every woman who has interacted with trans girls wants to resign from Guides.
That's why every woman who has interacted with trans girls wants to resign from Guides.
December 4, 2025 at 5:56 PM
The trouble with attacking trans girls is that for everyone who has met them, they have a higher vulnerability and *emotional status* than overweight middle-aged women with a beef against men.
That's why every woman who has interacted with trans girls wants to resign from Guides.
That's why every woman who has interacted with trans girls wants to resign from Guides.
This is, like, so the UK right now.
Self-ID for left handed to be ended.
Will now require a ten year wait and the opinion of three psychologists.
Firstline treatments to include breaking all the fingers on the left hand with a mallet.
NHS to offer sinister hand amputation to persistent cases.
Move praised by charity Right Matters
Will now require a ten year wait and the opinion of three psychologists.
Firstline treatments to include breaking all the fingers on the left hand with a mallet.
NHS to offer sinister hand amputation to persistent cases.
Move praised by charity Right Matters
December 4, 2025 at 5:51 PM
This is, like, so the UK right now.
While this kind of thing is absolutely necessary, I feel a sense of sadness that we're put in the position of having to address it before moving on to the wider issues that affect people who need to/have transitioned. There is so much we could be exploring rather than fighting fires all the time 💔💜
Girlguiding and the WI have announced new policies that exclude trans women and girls.
GIRES has set out why this approach is not required by law and why exclusion harms those already facing the greatest barriers to belonging. Read our full statement here:
👉 tinyurl.com/GIRESGGWI
GIRES has set out why this approach is not required by law and why exclusion harms those already facing the greatest barriers to belonging. Read our full statement here:
👉 tinyurl.com/GIRESGGWI
December 4, 2025 at 5:17 PM
While this kind of thing is absolutely necessary, I feel a sense of sadness that we're put in the position of having to address it before moving on to the wider issues that affect people who need to/have transitioned. There is so much we could be exploring rather than fighting fires all the time 💔💜
The thing I love about baby trans guys is vibing with them about how awful the forced socialisation process is, and comparing notes on what different hormones do 😆
December 4, 2025 at 4:54 PM
The thing I love about baby trans guys is vibing with them about how awful the forced socialisation process is, and comparing notes on what different hormones do 😆
www.youtube.com/watch?v=szYf...
I love this channel, she talks about those things that used to really hurt and how trauma responses interact with those experiences. I'm so glad to be in a safer, and more discerning space now.
I love this channel, she talks about those things that used to really hurt and how trauma responses interact with those experiences. I'm so glad to be in a safer, and more discerning space now.
The Silent Aggression Between Women No One Talks About
YouTube video by Crappy Childhood Fairy
www.youtube.com
December 4, 2025 at 11:33 AM
www.youtube.com/watch?v=szYf...
I love this channel, she talks about those things that used to really hurt and how trauma responses interact with those experiences. I'm so glad to be in a safer, and more discerning space now.
I love this channel, she talks about those things that used to really hurt and how trauma responses interact with those experiences. I'm so glad to be in a safer, and more discerning space now.
Some of the most vocal anti-trans women were hurt deeply by how society treated them.
Instead, they chose to project that pain onto people they don’t know, and call it “feminism.”
The greatest challenge for any oppressed class is not to pass the trauma on. I take that responsibility seriously.
Instead, they chose to project that pain onto people they don’t know, and call it “feminism.”
The greatest challenge for any oppressed class is not to pass the trauma on. I take that responsibility seriously.
December 4, 2025 at 2:45 AM
Some of the most vocal anti-trans women were hurt deeply by how society treated them.
Instead, they chose to project that pain onto people they don’t know, and call it “feminism.”
The greatest challenge for any oppressed class is not to pass the trauma on. I take that responsibility seriously.
Instead, they chose to project that pain onto people they don’t know, and call it “feminism.”
The greatest challenge for any oppressed class is not to pass the trauma on. I take that responsibility seriously.
I don't know many transitioned women without this finely tuned sense of self preservation. And the ones that don't are just wildly brave XD
I said I was nervous about joining anything like WI for fear of the eventually public humiliation of being ousted and outed in my community. I prefer my anonymous face in a crowd existence. It's easier. More bearable.
I'm glad my gut continues to never steer me wrong.
2/2
I'm glad my gut continues to never steer me wrong.
2/2
December 4, 2025 at 2:20 AM
I don't know many transitioned women without this finely tuned sense of self preservation. And the ones that don't are just wildly brave XD
Life is wild. I transitioned, and now I blush at boys and avoid the women’s Facebook group.
December 4, 2025 at 1:47 AM
Life is wild. I transitioned, and now I blush at boys and avoid the women’s Facebook group.
Exclusion-induced distress is not a return of dysphoria; it is a socially-triggered reactivation of previous survival responses. The inner incongruence is gone - but the outer world recreates the conditions that once made dysphoria necessary.
The gender-critical aim is to enact harm, not protect.
The gender-critical aim is to enact harm, not protect.
December 3, 2025 at 10:54 PM
Exclusion-induced distress is not a return of dysphoria; it is a socially-triggered reactivation of previous survival responses. The inner incongruence is gone - but the outer world recreates the conditions that once made dysphoria necessary.
The gender-critical aim is to enact harm, not protect.
The gender-critical aim is to enact harm, not protect.
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UK Supreme Court: You're allowed to discriminate against trans people, but you don't have to
cis people: "well, our hands are tied"
cis people: "well, our hands are tied"
December 3, 2025 at 12:43 PM
UK Supreme Court: You're allowed to discriminate against trans people, but you don't have to
cis people: "well, our hands are tied"
cis people: "well, our hands are tied"
Things like this remind me that there are *some* women out there who aren't (yet) radicalised into thinking we're some malevolant force out to hurt "biological women".
Most of us are deeply hurt and wouldn't want to inflict harm on anyone.
So it's hard to work out who is safe(r).
Most of us are deeply hurt and wouldn't want to inflict harm on anyone.
So it's hard to work out who is safe(r).
As a cis women in the UK I do not understand this, why is there this obsession with marginalising an already marginalised section of society. How in the ever loving fuck do trans people affect these bigots lives in any way, shape or form. I am so depressed at the direction my country is heading in.
December 3, 2025 at 8:36 PM
Things like this remind me that there are *some* women out there who aren't (yet) radicalised into thinking we're some malevolant force out to hurt "biological women".
Most of us are deeply hurt and wouldn't want to inflict harm on anyone.
So it's hard to work out who is safe(r).
Most of us are deeply hurt and wouldn't want to inflict harm on anyone.
So it's hard to work out who is safe(r).
Totes. Also, who wants to vibe with duiplicitous people who spout platitudes while stabbing you in the back. No thanks. Like, I don't need that kind of "validation".
"“My hope is that the message that the transgender community gets from this is not one of betrayal, but is one of our desire to continue to maintain those friendships and that support,...when that anger subsides the transgender community will know that we stand with them."
Nope, it's betrayal.
Nope, it's betrayal.
“I spoke to one 80-year-old woman who has been in our organisation for decades, who said it was one of the greatest experiences of her life, and the only place in her 80 years where she’s been treated as a woman with respect.”
www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2025...
www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2025...
December 3, 2025 at 8:27 PM
Totes. Also, who wants to vibe with duiplicitous people who spout platitudes while stabbing you in the back. No thanks. Like, I don't need that kind of "validation".
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I think this is my favourite part. Judge taking absolutely no shit here. Tears apart the idea that she can't distinguish between trans women and cross dressers, and calls her out on making unevidenced claims,and on still using the toilets anyway after claiming they degrade her!
December 3, 2025 at 3:44 PM
I think this is my favourite part. Judge taking absolutely no shit here. Tears apart the idea that she can't distinguish between trans women and cross dressers, and calls her out on making unevidenced claims,and on still using the toilets anyway after claiming they degrade her!
If cis people really want to fight stuff, fight this. Or, carry on torturing a tiny minority of transitioned women and send all your confidential info to Trump and Musk, who will absolutely do everything to drain your cash, or kill you.
Wes Streeting insists that NHS health records are not for sale. But handing them to a company like Palantir shatters any chance of public trust, warns our data lead Duncan McCann:
https://goodlaw.social/i1o0
https://goodlaw.social/i1o0
December 2, 2025 at 8:05 PM
If cis people really want to fight stuff, fight this. Or, carry on torturing a tiny minority of transitioned women and send all your confidential info to Trump and Musk, who will absolutely do everything to drain your cash, or kill you.
growinguptransgender.com/2018/04/14/g...
"I write an anonymous blog. I have no power, no influence. I can count upon a tiny handful of allies willing to stand up for trans girls like my daughter."
Same, and I won't stop fighting for trans women & girls, & talk about the issues that truly matter.
"I write an anonymous blog. I have no power, no influence. I can count upon a tiny handful of allies willing to stand up for trans girls like my daughter."
Same, and I won't stop fighting for trans women & girls, & talk about the issues that truly matter.
Girl Guides: How to radicalise hate against trans children in 10 easy steps
Tomorrow, following a short but successful propaganda campaign, a UK Newspaper will publish an open letter asking Girl Guiding UK to suspend their policy of inclusion for All Girls, including those…
growinguptransgender.com
December 2, 2025 at 7:32 PM
growinguptransgender.com/2018/04/14/g...
"I write an anonymous blog. I have no power, no influence. I can count upon a tiny handful of allies willing to stand up for trans girls like my daughter."
Same, and I won't stop fighting for trans women & girls, & talk about the issues that truly matter.
"I write an anonymous blog. I have no power, no influence. I can count upon a tiny handful of allies willing to stand up for trans girls like my daughter."
Same, and I won't stop fighting for trans women & girls, & talk about the issues that truly matter.
"Transgender to me means to be outside the gender norm - what you perceive as the norm for being male or female. "
There's so much confusion because people confuse binary transition (trans-man / trans-woman) with transgender, because they both start the same, when it's really about nonconformity. 💜
There's so much confusion because people confuse binary transition (trans-man / trans-woman) with transgender, because they both start the same, when it's really about nonconformity. 💜
During my life I have been subjected to several different definitions of what being a transgender person is supposed to be. This is my own personal take on this definition - it is a definition of what it isn’t.
boea.substack.com/p/the-right-...
boea.substack.com/p/the-right-...
The “Right” Way to be Transgender
Does anyone have a “right” way to be transgender? What is “imposter syndrome” for a transgender person? Are these questions based on an assumption that being transgender is based on a definition? And
boea.substack.com
November 23, 2025 at 9:11 PM
"Transgender to me means to be outside the gender norm - what you perceive as the norm for being male or female. "
There's so much confusion because people confuse binary transition (trans-man / trans-woman) with transgender, because they both start the same, when it's really about nonconformity. 💜
There's so much confusion because people confuse binary transition (trans-man / trans-woman) with transgender, because they both start the same, when it's really about nonconformity. 💜
Funny thing about GC debates: I keep offering real connection, but the replies are pure script.
That contrast just reminds me how much I love actual humans - the ones who can feel, laugh, wonder, and hold a moment with you.
Ideology performs. 🤡
People connect. 💜
That contrast just reminds me how much I love actual humans - the ones who can feel, laugh, wonder, and hold a moment with you.
Ideology performs. 🤡
People connect. 💜
November 23, 2025 at 8:58 PM
Funny thing about GC debates: I keep offering real connection, but the replies are pure script.
That contrast just reminds me how much I love actual humans - the ones who can feel, laugh, wonder, and hold a moment with you.
Ideology performs. 🤡
People connect. 💜
That contrast just reminds me how much I love actual humans - the ones who can feel, laugh, wonder, and hold a moment with you.
Ideology performs. 🤡
People connect. 💜
A cis woman tried to run me over today. She was stopped at a junction, I chose to cross. I was a quarter way across and she drove into me - directly central to her car. She wanted to kill me.
Apparently, she owned that road and was entitled to run me over, she said.
The fucking entitlement.
Apparently, she owned that road and was entitled to run me over, she said.
The fucking entitlement.
November 22, 2025 at 12:15 AM
A cis woman tried to run me over today. She was stopped at a junction, I chose to cross. I was a quarter way across and she drove into me - directly central to her car. She wanted to kill me.
Apparently, she owned that road and was entitled to run me over, she said.
The fucking entitlement.
Apparently, she owned that road and was entitled to run me over, she said.
The fucking entitlement.
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GC discourse is an ideology with cruelty as a core binding practice.
November 22, 2025 at 12:00 AM
GC discourse is an ideology with cruelty as a core binding practice.