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Samantha Billingham

@strongerbeginnings.bsky.social

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Coercive Control Consultant driving change around coercive control. https://www.bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-i-would-rather-have-had-a-beating-every-day-for-those-three-years-than-the-coercive-control/

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 10

I'm a survivor of domestic abuse, an advocate for Survivors of Domestic Abuse, a lived experienced speaker and a Coercive Control Consultant.

Based in the Black Country but travel to have a coffee and conversation creating change around coercive control and its impact.

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Oct 2

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 24

Coercive control escalates overtime leading to severe psychological harm. Without early intervention those experiencing it will become increasingly entrapped & isolated.

My ABC framework enables early detection of red flags, allowing timely support before the abuse intensifies.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 23

Early intervention is critical in addressing coercive control due to its progression and cumulative impact. My ABC framework facilitates early recognition and response by raising awareness and reducing stigma.

A: Appearance
B: Behaviour
C: Conversation

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 19

Coercive control subtly starts off as care, charm charismatic, making you feel special, making you feel safe, warm and loved.

It puts you on a pedestal for the whole world to see how lovely the perpetrator is.

Telling a completely different story behind closed doors.

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 19

Good morning world 🌎

3 things about coercive control 👇

❌ It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse

❌ It carries on even when the person has left the situation

❌ It is also used against professionals and practitioners

❌ It's a subtle incidious crime

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 14

I support @naturewatch.org and their Protect Animals. Protect People Campaign.

The perpetrator I existed with stabbed our pet bird as a consequence for me - because I went to bed without him.

Perpetrators hurt pets in order to gain power and control 🚩

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 11

Being safe in an abusive situation is when we are still in the situation seeing exactly what the perpetrator is doing.

Feeling unsafe in an abusive situation is when we've found the strength & courage to escape & we can't see what's coming next.

#coercivecontrol #domesticabuse

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 11

They aren't your abuser/perpetrator.

They are abusers. They are perpetrators. They don't belong to you, you don't own them and you owe them nothing.

Let's change the script. Let's change the narrative. Let's change the language.

#coercivecontrol #domesticabuse

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 10

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 3

Hiya, here's the link to his LinkedIn account

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 3

Do you work in social care, education or law enforcement and want to enhance your understanding and knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact?

I deliver bespoke training packages. Let's chat!

💻 [email protected]

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Sep 3

Today I spoke to Justin Brooker, Australian Advocate for Domestic & Family Violence & Coercive Control

I shared my lived experience & we spoke about coercive control, domestic abuse its impact

Please share, so together we can raise awareness for others

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Episode 57 - Samantha Billingham, Coercive Control Expert & Consultant

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Aug 28

If you are a business, company or organisation looking to enhance your understanding of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact email me at [email protected] to discuss your bespoke training package.

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Aug 9

🛑 The Government are testing the UK's emergency alerts system on Sunday 7th September at 3pm.

✔️ You can opt out of the emergency alerts if you are experiencing domestic abuse and have a concealed phone

👇 Here's how

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Opting out of emergency alerts

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Aug 9

Remember, EVERYONE falls in love with the charming and caring partner and EVERYONE can never believe they are a cold and controlling perpetrator.

#coercivecontrol #awareness #impact

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Aug 8

I need your help please 🙏

Please share this post ❤️

If you are looking to enhance your understanding & knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse & its impact please email me at [email protected] to discuss your bespoke training package.

Thank you 😊

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Aug 7

Coercive control can manifest through isolation, where the perpetrator restricts the victims access to friends, family and support networks leading to feelings of loneliness and helplessness.

#CoerciveControl #Awareness #impact

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Aug 4

My passion is raising awareness of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact, in the hope to equip, enhance and empower others.

Thank you and your team @cateccles.bsky.social for your ongoing support 😁

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Aug 4

What do you mean it's Monday already 🐔🤣

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Aug 3

If we aren't talking about coercive control we aren't talking about domestic abuse, it's there at the beginning & it's there at the end . It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse.

My passion is raising awareness of coercive control & its impact.

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Samantha Billingham | Navigating Coercive Control (PODCAST)

YouTube video by Beyond Four Walls - With Jodie Fraser

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Jul 23

If we aren't talking about coercive control we aren't talking about domestic abuse, it's there at the beginning and it's there at the end. It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse.

💻 [email protected]

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Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Jul 17

Remember coercive control & domestic abuse doesn't stop for the summer.

Think of all the children & young people who will be exposed to & experiencing coercive control & domestic abuse during the holidays.

Summer holidays do not cause domestic abuse 🚩

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Jul 17

Most of the people wanting to create change in the domestic abuse sector are people with lived experience of the abhorrent crime.

The people with the power to create change don't have lived experience of domestic abuse.

To create real change, the two must come together.

Samantha Billingham @strongerbeginnings.bsky.social · Jul 17

Societies lack of acknowledgement to coercive control will never allow a resolution.