Escaping a Religious Cult, Gay Activism and Addiction: Ben Appel on Identity, Recovery and Belonging
In this episode, Ben Appel shares his transformative journey from a conservative and cult-like upbringing into LGBTQ activism and writing. We discuss the psychological toll of growing up within a coercive community, the impact of leaving that space, addiction and recovery, and how writing became a vehicle for healing and self-expression. We also dig into the evolution of marriage equality, current debates within LGBTQ activism, and what community really means in a shifting cultural landscape.
📌 Takeaways
Ben Appel discusses his journey from a conservative background into LGBTQ activism.
The conversation explores the complexities of identity and the role of community.
Appel reflects on the cultural shift after marriage equality.
The psychological consequences of leaving a controlling environment are unpacked.
Addiction, recovery, and writing as a coping mechanism play central roles.
The episode examines how LGBTQ activism has changed—particularly around trans rights.
The importance of self-acceptance and belonging is emphasised.
Chapters
00:00 Intro / Pre-Conversation
03:27 Navigating Political Landscapes
04:37 The Evolution of Activism
05:07 Assimilation vs. Radicalism
05:51 Personal Reflections on Activism
06:59 Language and Identity
09:18 Growing Up in a Cult
12:19 Covenant Communities Explained
14:22 The Psychological Toll
16:28 Freedom and Control
18:45 Community Life and Pressure
21:27 Leaving the Community
23:01 Struggling With Identity
28:12 Scrupulosity and Self-Judgement
33:04 A Turning Point in New Orleans
36:51 Descent Into Addiction
41:53 Finding Recovery and New Community
47:56 The Journey of Self-Discovery
48:08 How Marriage Changed Things
52:33 Love and Activism
54:43 Awakening of a New Activist
58:25 Navigating New Orthodoxy
01:02:17 Breaking Point at Columbia
01:05:29 Community, Belonging & Identity
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