North of Becoming
@northofbecoming.bsky.social
Trauma-informed, neuro-affirming platform that guides parents, educators, and leaders toward healing-centered, relationship-based practices - grounded in safety, growth, and inner wisdom.
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What if the problem isn’t how the child is acting—
…but how we’ve been taught to see?
Soft eyes don’t ignore the behavior.
They see through it.
Into it.
Toward the need.
Toward the child.
Toward the human.
This week, we begin again.
#SoftEyes #NorthOfBecoming
…but how we’ve been taught to see?
Soft eyes don’t ignore the behavior.
They see through it.
Into it.
Toward the need.
Toward the child.
Toward the human.
This week, we begin again.
#SoftEyes #NorthOfBecoming
May 5, 2025 at 1:02 AM
What if the problem isn’t how the child is acting—
…but how we’ve been taught to see?
Soft eyes don’t ignore the behavior.
They see through it.
Into it.
Toward the need.
Toward the child.
Toward the human.
This week, we begin again.
#SoftEyes #NorthOfBecoming
…but how we’ve been taught to see?
Soft eyes don’t ignore the behavior.
They see through it.
Into it.
Toward the need.
Toward the child.
Toward the human.
This week, we begin again.
#SoftEyes #NorthOfBecoming
You don’t have to do this alone.
We learn repair in relationship.
And when we model it, others learn too.
That’s how healing spreads.
Learn more at Substack. Link in bio.
We learn repair in relationship.
And when we model it, others learn too.
That’s how healing spreads.
Learn more at Substack. Link in bio.
May 3, 2025 at 3:51 PM
You don’t have to do this alone.
We learn repair in relationship.
And when we model it, others learn too.
That’s how healing spreads.
Learn more at Substack. Link in bio.
We learn repair in relationship.
And when we model it, others learn too.
That’s how healing spreads.
Learn more at Substack. Link in bio.
Repair doesn’t need fancy words.
Try:
“I care about you.”
"I want to understand.”
“I’m sorry.”
That’s enough.
Try:
“I care about you.”
"I want to understand.”
“I’m sorry.”
That’s enough.
May 2, 2025 at 10:20 PM
Repair doesn’t need fancy words.
Try:
“I care about you.”
"I want to understand.”
“I’m sorry.”
That’s enough.
Try:
“I care about you.”
"I want to understand.”
“I’m sorry.”
That’s enough.
“I missed my chance to repair.”
Not true.
Repair isn’t time-limited.
It’s presence-limited.
And you can always return to presence.
Not true.
Repair isn’t time-limited.
It’s presence-limited.
And you can always return to presence.
May 1, 2025 at 10:20 PM
“I missed my chance to repair.”
Not true.
Repair isn’t time-limited.
It’s presence-limited.
And you can always return to presence.
Not true.
Repair isn’t time-limited.
It’s presence-limited.
And you can always return to presence.
Unpopular take:
Seclusion and restraint aren’t “last resorts.”⬇️
Seclusion and restraint aren’t “last resorts.”⬇️
May 1, 2025 at 12:52 AM
Unpopular take:
Seclusion and restraint aren’t “last resorts.”⬇️
Seclusion and restraint aren’t “last resorts.”⬇️
The body must feel safe before it can connect.
Regulation is step zero in repair.
Breathe. Ground. Then come back.
Regulation is step zero in repair.
Breathe. Ground. Then come back.
April 30, 2025 at 3:51 PM
The body must feel safe before it can connect.
Regulation is step zero in repair.
Breathe. Ground. Then come back.
Regulation is step zero in repair.
Breathe. Ground. Then come back.
Repair is a bridge.
It doesn’t erase the break — it crosses it.
The words don’t have to be polished. They just need to say, “I still care.”
It doesn’t erase the break — it crosses it.
The words don’t have to be polished. They just need to say, “I still care.”
April 29, 2025 at 3:51 PM
Repair is a bridge.
It doesn’t erase the break — it crosses it.
The words don’t have to be polished. They just need to say, “I still care.”
It doesn’t erase the break — it crosses it.
The words don’t have to be polished. They just need to say, “I still care.”
Most rupture isn’t dramatic.
It’s the small moments.
A sharp glance.
An ignored need.
A disconnect that nobody names.
But even small ruptures need care.
Repair begins with noticing.
Subscribe to receive the weekly reflection journal. Link in bio.
It’s the small moments.
A sharp glance.
An ignored need.
A disconnect that nobody names.
But even small ruptures need care.
Repair begins with noticing.
Subscribe to receive the weekly reflection journal. Link in bio.
April 28, 2025 at 10:20 PM
Most rupture isn’t dramatic.
It’s the small moments.
A sharp glance.
An ignored need.
A disconnect that nobody names.
But even small ruptures need care.
Repair begins with noticing.
Subscribe to receive the weekly reflection journal. Link in bio.
It’s the small moments.
A sharp glance.
An ignored need.
A disconnect that nobody names.
But even small ruptures need care.
Repair begins with noticing.
Subscribe to receive the weekly reflection journal. Link in bio.
Rupture is the moment disconnection happens.
Repair is the way we say, “I still care.”
This week I’m exploring the power of coming back after the break — with stories, reflections, and gentle tools.
🧭 Read the full post on Substack: What is Rupture and Repair? Link in bio.
Repair is the way we say, “I still care.”
This week I’m exploring the power of coming back after the break — with stories, reflections, and gentle tools.
🧭 Read the full post on Substack: What is Rupture and Repair? Link in bio.
April 27, 2025 at 3:51 PM
Rupture is the moment disconnection happens.
Repair is the way we say, “I still care.”
This week I’m exploring the power of coming back after the break — with stories, reflections, and gentle tools.
🧭 Read the full post on Substack: What is Rupture and Repair? Link in bio.
Repair is the way we say, “I still care.”
This week I’m exploring the power of coming back after the break — with stories, reflections, and gentle tools.
🧭 Read the full post on Substack: What is Rupture and Repair? Link in bio.
If all you did this week was offer one moment of calm in chaos...that matters.
Safety isn't loud.
It's consistent. Felt. Remembered.
Download the free reflection journal. Link in bio.
Safety isn't loud.
It's consistent. Felt. Remembered.
Download the free reflection journal. Link in bio.
April 26, 2025 at 10:20 PM
If all you did this week was offer one moment of calm in chaos...that matters.
Safety isn't loud.
It's consistent. Felt. Remembered.
Download the free reflection journal. Link in bio.
Safety isn't loud.
It's consistent. Felt. Remembered.
Download the free reflection journal. Link in bio.
Safety is not something we enforce.
It's something we embody.
It lives in rhythm, breath, voice, and presence.
Let's start there.
It's something we embody.
It lives in rhythm, breath, voice, and presence.
Let's start there.
April 25, 2025 at 10:20 PM
Safety is not something we enforce.
It's something we embody.
It lives in rhythm, breath, voice, and presence.
Let's start there.
It's something we embody.
It lives in rhythm, breath, voice, and presence.
Let's start there.
✨ There are two ways to walk with us.
🌿 Choose your path —
Receive the newsletter.
Begin the course.
Or both.
Link in bio.
🌿 Choose your path —
Receive the newsletter.
Begin the course.
Or both.
Link in bio.
April 24, 2025 at 11:52 PM
✨ There are two ways to walk with us.
🌿 Choose your path —
Receive the newsletter.
Begin the course.
Or both.
Link in bio.
🌿 Choose your path —
Receive the newsletter.
Begin the course.
Or both.
Link in bio.
We can't offer true safety if we're running on empty.
Start with what settles you.
Today's practice:
Make a list of what grounds you.
Choose one. Come back to it.
Start with what settles you.
Today's practice:
Make a list of what grounds you.
Choose one. Come back to it.
April 24, 2025 at 3:51 PM
We can't offer true safety if we're running on empty.
Start with what settles you.
Today's practice:
Make a list of what grounds you.
Choose one. Come back to it.
Start with what settles you.
Today's practice:
Make a list of what grounds you.
Choose one. Come back to it.
Children don't regulate because we tell them to.
They regulate because we give them something to co-regulate with.
Safety isn't a strategy. It's how we begin.
They regulate because we give them something to co-regulate with.
Safety isn't a strategy. It's how we begin.
April 23, 2025 at 10:20 PM
Children don't regulate because we tell them to.
They regulate because we give them something to co-regulate with.
Safety isn't a strategy. It's how we begin.
They regulate because we give them something to co-regulate with.
Safety isn't a strategy. It's how we begin.
We say: "Calm down and I'll help you." But the truth is - they calm down because we help them.
Safety comes first.
It's the calm before the calm.
Safety comes first.
It's the calm before the calm.
April 22, 2025 at 3:51 PM
We say: "Calm down and I'll help you." But the truth is - they calm down because we help them.
Safety comes first.
It's the calm before the calm.
Safety comes first.
It's the calm before the calm.
Before behavior shifts, before learning, before growth - there's one thing every child needs first:
Safety.
Not enforced.
Offered. Gently. Consistently.
The nervous system always listens first.
#thefoundationofsafety
#northofbecoming
#traumainformed
#connectionfirst
Safety.
Not enforced.
Offered. Gently. Consistently.
The nervous system always listens first.
#thefoundationofsafety
#northofbecoming
#traumainformed
#connectionfirst
April 21, 2025 at 4:22 PM
Before behavior shifts, before learning, before growth - there's one thing every child needs first:
Safety.
Not enforced.
Offered. Gently. Consistently.
The nervous system always listens first.
#thefoundationofsafety
#northofbecoming
#traumainformed
#connectionfirst
Safety.
Not enforced.
Offered. Gently. Consistently.
The nervous system always listens first.
#thefoundationofsafety
#northofbecoming
#traumainformed
#connectionfirst
✨ What’s Coming This Week on North of Becoming:
Theme: The Foundation of Safety
Because before regulation, before relationship — there’s one thing every nervous system needs first.
Theme: The Foundation of Safety
Because before regulation, before relationship — there’s one thing every nervous system needs first.
April 20, 2025 at 6:33 PM
✨ What’s Coming This Week on North of Becoming:
Theme: The Foundation of Safety
Because before regulation, before relationship — there’s one thing every nervous system needs first.
Theme: The Foundation of Safety
Because before regulation, before relationship — there’s one thing every nervous system needs first.
Coming soon on Substack:
✨ Before Anything Else, Safety
Before behavior.
Before regulation.
Before relationship.
✨ Before Anything Else, Safety
Before behavior.
Before regulation.
Before relationship.
April 19, 2025 at 9:01 PM
Coming soon on Substack:
✨ Before Anything Else, Safety
Before behavior.
Before regulation.
Before relationship.
✨ Before Anything Else, Safety
Before behavior.
Before regulation.
Before relationship.
New blog post: The Behavior Isn’t the Problem ✨
What if the outburst isn’t defiance—but a signal?
Let’s look beneath the surface.
🔗 Link in bio
What if the outburst isn’t defiance—but a signal?
Let’s look beneath the surface.
🔗 Link in bio
April 17, 2025 at 2:47 PM
New blog post: The Behavior Isn’t the Problem ✨
What if the outburst isn’t defiance—but a signal?
Let’s look beneath the surface.
🔗 Link in bio
What if the outburst isn’t defiance—but a signal?
Let’s look beneath the surface.
🔗 Link in bio
'The behavior isn’t the problem. It’s the message we weren’t taught to hear.' — North of Becoming
#BlueskyParents #GentleParenting #Neuroaffirming #SoftEyes #NorthOfBecoming
#BlueskyParents #GentleParenting #Neuroaffirming #SoftEyes #NorthOfBecoming
April 16, 2025 at 10:21 PM
'The behavior isn’t the problem. It’s the message we weren’t taught to hear.' — North of Becoming
#BlueskyParents #GentleParenting #Neuroaffirming #SoftEyes #NorthOfBecoming
#BlueskyParents #GentleParenting #Neuroaffirming #SoftEyes #NorthOfBecoming
We’re taught to 'manage' behavior. But connection doesn’t manage. It listens, softens, and makes space for what’s real.
April 16, 2025 at 6:20 PM
We’re taught to 'manage' behavior. But connection doesn’t manage. It listens, softens, and makes space for what’s real.
What if the meltdown isn’t the problem? What if it’s the echo of something unseen — asking for safety, not correction?
April 16, 2025 at 3:51 PM
What if the meltdown isn’t the problem? What if it’s the echo of something unseen — asking for safety, not correction?
Reposted by North of Becoming
Jillian Enright is presenting a session titled "Positive Behaviour Supports Are Compliance-Based" at our upcoming Beyond Behaviorism conference. Join us in understanding the controversy and exploring alternatives to approaches rooted in behaviorism. endseclusion.org/beyond-beh... #EndSeclusion
April 6, 2025 at 12:00 PM
Jillian Enright is presenting a session titled "Positive Behaviour Supports Are Compliance-Based" at our upcoming Beyond Behaviorism conference. Join us in understanding the controversy and exploring alternatives to approaches rooted in behaviorism. endseclusion.org/beyond-beh... #EndSeclusion
The child isn’t being defiant.
Their nervous system is overwhelmed.
Look beneath.
Always.
Their nervous system is overwhelmed.
Look beneath.
Always.
April 6, 2025 at 1:30 PM
The child isn’t being defiant.
Their nervous system is overwhelmed.
Look beneath.
Always.
Their nervous system is overwhelmed.
Look beneath.
Always.
