Mrs M
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Mrs M
@mrsmhere.bsky.social
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Yorkshire lass now living in County Durham, UK, who loves dog walks, nature, The Archers, roses and gardening. 😊 Not here to talk about politics.
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Oh Ko… it’s just more of the same. I’m trying to get everyone in the family to unanimously support one solution, that of her moving into an assisted living flat, with staff and companionship on site. But it’s like herding cats.
She’s also just cancelled her three times a day care package so… 🤯🙄😬
Are you having to visit a lot? It’s not the easiest journey from where you are, having to go round London!
Your poor mum. Going home to an empty house after each CH visit must be so sad. xx
😊 I love the idea of a Christmas Eve tradition.
Have you taken your lads to #BeaurepairePriory ? If 9 likes Finchale then he might like there too - though the ruins are a lot smaller and not as close to the river.
Horses in the field next door and careful of a couple of steep drops in the ruins. xx
What a positive thing to say. 😊
Fingers crossed for the HRT. xx
It’s tricky once the garden starts to fill up isn’t it! 😊
Took an extended lunch break today to enjoy the #autumn colours before the coming winds and rain blow the foliage away.
The river Wear in the #Durham area is lovely in any season, but particularly so in elusive autumn sunshine. 😊

#FinchalePriory
Thanks Chris. Have you decided on your bare root choices yet? 😊
Apparently DA has ‘pre-announced’ a new rose for RHS Chelsea already. (Not too keen on whom they’ve decided to name it for!)
I’ve been meaning to ask how your folks are doing. It must be lonely for your mum, having your dad in a CH? xx
And without mine too, probably. Sorry. xx
An antidote to all the worry over elderly parent is planting a new rose. 😊

This is DA rose ‘Winchester Cathedral,’ now in a nice warm spot next to the veg beds. The rubble on top is temporary to prevent weeds growing until she’s settled in - one useful aspect of living on top of a building site.
I have every confidence in you. 😀
It’s not as clear cut as that I’m afraid. Parent has capacity but also has an abusive & unstable personality and poor mental health. She is making conflicting, poor, and self-harmful decisions. xx
Thanks. I am making one last push to try and change the status quo, in the hope of giving difficult parent a better quality of life, despite how vile she’s been to me all these years. For my own peace of mind, I have to know I did everything I reasonably could. xx
I feel strongly that parent ought to be encouraged to move into assisted living as she’s drinking to excess and committing other risky behaviours to get attention. I can’t get sister to agree or to support taking any action at all. She keeps saying parent must be allowed to make her own decisions.
Have written a long email to the more approachable of my aunts regarding difficult parent. I’m trying to counter the prevalent laissez-faire arguments being put out by my sister, who’s refusing to discuss a way forward with me despite doing the rounds to get other relatives on her side.
Sorry to hear your rabbit has died. 😔 Seems a weirdly specific comment by your colleague - as you say, why choking in particular?! Are rabbits particularly prone to that? If so, I’ve never heard of it.
Your dwarf nasturtiums are looking well. Which is perhaps quite significant for late October in the NE!
Difficult parent back in hospital for 3rd time since Thursday night. Sounds like another overdose.
I can’t face going down there again after last time. I simply can’t. Will have to leave it to sister and aunts.
Sister text: difficult parent now home from hospital with stitches in head wound. Parent said injury caused by “falling asleep with glasses on whilst reading.”
Does that seem likely to anyone? An injury caused by nodding off wearing glasses, bad enough to need stitches?

Seems odd. I’m worried.
Aww thanks. You’re probably right. I haven’t heard a word from difficult parent since she was discharged in July. On that occasion I’d rushed down to help - and she physically assaulted me on the ward and was foul. I think it’s probably for the best if I stay out of it this time, hard as it is. xx
Text at 11.30pm from sister, telling me that mutual difficult parent is in A&E after a fall. Head injury, but sounds as though walking wounded rather than anything bad.
I don’t feel able to respond. Still dealing with the MH fallout from previous episode.