TheMerMolly- she/her/mer
@mollyandthecat.bsky.social
I am a nonbinary xenogender AuDHD published poet, essayist, bookworm & mermaid!
I 🩵 books, cats, candles, piano, gardening, skiing, hiking, baking, embroidery, coffee, trauma recovery & growing my hair.
I 🩵 books, cats, candles, piano, gardening, skiing, hiking, baking, embroidery, coffee, trauma recovery & growing my hair.
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Between August and December, I keep my eye out for my favorite tea company’s holiday teas. The only ones I found around town were the few I’m either allergic to or find too sweet. This morning I remembered there’s this thing called online ordering. 😂
I’ve found NEW flavors and have #tea for a year!
I’ve found NEW flavors and have #tea for a year!
December 7, 2025 at 5:13 PM
Between August and December, I keep my eye out for my favorite tea company’s holiday teas. The only ones I found around town were the few I’m either allergic to or find too sweet. This morning I remembered there’s this thing called online ordering. 😂
I’ve found NEW flavors and have #tea for a year!
I’ve found NEW flavors and have #tea for a year!
I love making #waffles but hate cleaning the waffle maker. I’ve learned I clean it way too well. My sister makes a “sacrificial waffle” each time that “cleans” it. In-laws pop a damp paper towel in there to gather up all the stuff with the lowest heat setting. I go at it like an archaeologist. Oops!
December 7, 2025 at 4:25 PM
I love making #waffles but hate cleaning the waffle maker. I’ve learned I clean it way too well. My sister makes a “sacrificial waffle” each time that “cleans” it. In-laws pop a damp paper towel in there to gather up all the stuff with the lowest heat setting. I go at it like an archaeologist. Oops!
December 7, 2025 at 3:56 PM
Cinnamon waffle batter is resting.
#Cat is sillying.
Holiday decor is sparkling.
Pumpkin chai candle is filling the room.
Sunday Baroque public radio is soft.
These things fill my heart.
Time to read Aspergirls and sip my espresso made lovingly by Ross before the waffles cook!
#BookSky #baking
#Cat is sillying.
Holiday decor is sparkling.
Pumpkin chai candle is filling the room.
Sunday Baroque public radio is soft.
These things fill my heart.
Time to read Aspergirls and sip my espresso made lovingly by Ross before the waffles cook!
#BookSky #baking
December 7, 2025 at 3:45 PM
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I did too much. Now I have tonsillitis.
December 7, 2025 at 2:39 PM
I did too much. Now I have tonsillitis.
This will be our new Christmas tree! A smaller tree with no lights (what we had decided we preferred for our next tree earlier this year). At least we got 6 years out of our first tree! It was a great tree!
Our new tree should arrive the 12th-16th. Then, I can decorate the it!!
🎄✨🎄
Our new tree should arrive the 12th-16th. Then, I can decorate the it!!
🎄✨🎄
December 7, 2025 at 5:55 AM
This will be our new Christmas tree! A smaller tree with no lights (what we had decided we preferred for our next tree earlier this year). At least we got 6 years out of our first tree! It was a great tree!
Our new tree should arrive the 12th-16th. Then, I can decorate the it!!
🎄✨🎄
Our new tree should arrive the 12th-16th. Then, I can decorate the it!!
🎄✨🎄
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That voice in your head telling you you need to be "perfect" to "deserve" love or safety isn't especially interested in you being loved or safe-- it's just trying to discourage you. You are as worthy of love & safety on your worst day as you are on your best.
Really.
Really.
December 7, 2025 at 4:07 AM
That voice in your head telling you you need to be "perfect" to "deserve" love or safety isn't especially interested in you being loved or safe-- it's just trying to discourage you. You are as worthy of love & safety on your worst day as you are on your best.
Really.
Really.
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The fact that life has been sh*t so far has zero to do w/ what life will be like going forward. I know that's hard to wrap your head around, but it's true. Do not let your bullies & abusers convince you you have nothing left to give or receive. Your real life hasn't even started.
December 7, 2025 at 4:08 AM
The fact that life has been sh*t so far has zero to do w/ what life will be like going forward. I know that's hard to wrap your head around, but it's true. Do not let your bullies & abusers convince you you have nothing left to give or receive. Your real life hasn't even started.
Baked potatoes with puréed centers topped with gravy and some of the turkey from Thanksgiving made a delicious dinner. I think I’ll always purée the potatoes when baking them AND boiling!
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December 7, 2025 at 2:34 AM
Baked potatoes with puréed centers topped with gravy and some of the turkey from Thanksgiving made a delicious dinner. I think I’ll always purée the potatoes when baking them AND boiling!
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At the end of the day, don’t we all just want a humble cottage in the middle of the forest, a vintage mystery novel, the sound of a pouring rain, a crackling fire, a kettle on the stove, and a basket of freshly-baked croissants?
February 27, 2025 at 12:22 PM
At the end of the day, don’t we all just want a humble cottage in the middle of the forest, a vintage mystery novel, the sound of a pouring rain, a crackling fire, a kettle on the stove, and a basket of freshly-baked croissants?
December 7, 2025 at 12:07 AM
I beat one of the bosses in Silk Song today! It took about two hours and I was so proud of myself! It’s a challenge!
🎮
#VideoGames #SilkSong
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#VideoGames #SilkSong
December 7, 2025 at 12:04 AM
I beat one of the bosses in Silk Song today! It took about two hours and I was so proud of myself! It’s a challenge!
🎮
#VideoGames #SilkSong
🎮
#VideoGames #SilkSong
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Don't let anyone tell you who you are or aren't. I often times label myself Transmasculine. I won't be transitioning. But it's still how I feel and who I am. I've known since I was 6 years old. We should ALL be allowed to live our truths. And feel safe to do so. 💙🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
December 6, 2025 at 7:30 PM
Don't let anyone tell you who you are or aren't. I often times label myself Transmasculine. I won't be transitioning. But it's still how I feel and who I am. I've known since I was 6 years old. We should ALL be allowed to live our truths. And feel safe to do so. 💙🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
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There are absolutely situations we don't have the luxury of "just leaving." That's reality. The name of the game in those situations is leveraging the skills & tools we DO have access to-- even in those sh*tty situations-- to not abandon ourselves.
December 6, 2025 at 4:59 PM
There are absolutely situations we don't have the luxury of "just leaving." That's reality. The name of the game in those situations is leveraging the skills & tools we DO have access to-- even in those sh*tty situations-- to not abandon ourselves.
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One reason why trauma recovery can feel so weird for survivors is, we've been convinced we don't "deserve" to feel or function better. That "who do you think you are?" voice can be very loud.
Who do you think you are? You're a survivor who deserves recovery-- that's EXACTLY who.
Who do you think you are? You're a survivor who deserves recovery-- that's EXACTLY who.
December 6, 2025 at 5:00 PM
One reason why trauma recovery can feel so weird for survivors is, we've been convinced we don't "deserve" to feel or function better. That "who do you think you are?" voice can be very loud.
Who do you think you are? You're a survivor who deserves recovery-- that's EXACTLY who.
Who do you think you are? You're a survivor who deserves recovery-- that's EXACTLY who.
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It's not "fragile" to admit we've been victimized-- it's incredibly brave. The world is full of people not brave enough to acknowledge their vulnerability. Accepting you're a survivor puts you in rare company-- of warriors who deserve more respect than the world ever gives them.
December 6, 2025 at 7:29 PM
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Kicking the sh*t out of ourselves comes easily to many trauma survivors due to our upbringing. Self-aggression is not a flex.
The real flex is relating to ourselves w/ compassion & patience, when every scrap of our programming is calling us "weak" & telling us to "get over it."
The real flex is relating to ourselves w/ compassion & patience, when every scrap of our programming is calling us "weak" & telling us to "get over it."
December 6, 2025 at 7:00 PM
Kicking the sh*t out of ourselves comes easily to many trauma survivors due to our upbringing. Self-aggression is not a flex.
The real flex is relating to ourselves w/ compassion & patience, when every scrap of our programming is calling us "weak" & telling us to "get over it."
The real flex is relating to ourselves w/ compassion & patience, when every scrap of our programming is calling us "weak" & telling us to "get over it."
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We are not ourselves when we're triggered-- but that doesn't make us "bad" at those times. Triggered "us" is wounded "us"-- & that scared, activated person needs our compassion, patience & skills more than ever.
December 6, 2025 at 7:00 PM
We are not ourselves when we're triggered-- but that doesn't make us "bad" at those times. Triggered "us" is wounded "us"-- & that scared, activated person needs our compassion, patience & skills more than ever.
Giving my sister my empty egg cartons for our chickens’ eggs every time I see her is a little “I love you.”.
December 6, 2025 at 4:49 PM
Giving my sister my empty egg cartons for our chickens’ eggs every time I see her is a little “I love you.”.
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Certainly quite a bit of Kitsch, but I love my Christmas decor like this. And frankly: no this isn’t a contradiction to be a witch and still enjoy a bit of Christmas. To me this is nurturing my inner child while also escaping the crazy reality in the world for a moment💚
December 6, 2025 at 4:14 PM
Certainly quite a bit of Kitsch, but I love my Christmas decor like this. And frankly: no this isn’t a contradiction to be a witch and still enjoy a bit of Christmas. To me this is nurturing my inner child while also escaping the crazy reality in the world for a moment💚
I love my little wooden apple! I visited it at the antique shop for months and months and finally brought it home yesterday.
My mom used to have a kitchen twine dispenser shaped like an apple on her windowsill and this reminds me a bit of that. I love its dark, rich color. 🍎
My mom used to have a kitchen twine dispenser shaped like an apple on her windowsill and this reminds me a bit of that. I love its dark, rich color. 🍎
December 6, 2025 at 3:21 PM
I love my little wooden apple! I visited it at the antique shop for months and months and finally brought it home yesterday.
My mom used to have a kitchen twine dispenser shaped like an apple on her windowsill and this reminds me a bit of that. I love its dark, rich color. 🍎
My mom used to have a kitchen twine dispenser shaped like an apple on her windowsill and this reminds me a bit of that. I love its dark, rich color. 🍎
Her new favorite spot. It took a little while for Juniper to get comfortable with my big furry blanket, but now she snuggles up with me on top of it or underneath it! I’m off to bed and she’s still curled up there!
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December 6, 2025 at 6:07 AM
Her new favorite spot. It took a little while for Juniper to get comfortable with my big furry blanket, but now she snuggles up with me on top of it or underneath it! I’m off to bed and she’s still curled up there!
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The Only Good Indians-
This was a pretty good book. I enjoyed it as an audiobook and know it would have been a DNF as a book book. If another book by the author catches my eye, I’ll borrow it from the library but unfortunately I won’t add them to my READ ASAP list.
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#BookSky
The Only Good Indians-
This was a pretty good book. I enjoyed it as an audiobook and know it would have been a DNF as a book book. If another book by the author catches my eye, I’ll borrow it from the library but unfortunately I won’t add them to my READ ASAP list.
📚💜📚
#BookSky
December 6, 2025 at 4:41 AM
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The Only Good Indians-
This was a pretty good book. I enjoyed it as an audiobook and know it would have been a DNF as a book book. If another book by the author catches my eye, I’ll borrow it from the library but unfortunately I won’t add them to my READ ASAP list.
📚💜📚
#BookSky
The Only Good Indians-
This was a pretty good book. I enjoyed it as an audiobook and know it would have been a DNF as a book book. If another book by the author catches my eye, I’ll borrow it from the library but unfortunately I won’t add them to my READ ASAP list.
📚💜📚
#BookSky
I haven’t even fluffed the tree or put any decorations on it yet even though we put it up last weekend because so many of the lights are burnt out. It worked just fine last year. 😭
At least I have the cute little table decorations on the entryway table and the dining table and counter.
#Christmas
At least I have the cute little table decorations on the entryway table and the dining table and counter.
#Christmas
December 6, 2025 at 4:28 AM
I haven’t even fluffed the tree or put any decorations on it yet even though we put it up last weekend because so many of the lights are burnt out. It worked just fine last year. 😭
At least I have the cute little table decorations on the entryway table and the dining table and counter.
#Christmas
At least I have the cute little table decorations on the entryway table and the dining table and counter.
#Christmas