TheMerMolly- she/her/mer
@mollyandthecat.bsky.social
I am a nonbinary xenogender AuDHD published poet, essayist, bookworm & mermaid!
I 🩵 books, cats, candles, piano, gardening, skiing, hiking, baking, embroidery, coffee, trauma recovery & growing my hair.
I 🩵 books, cats, candles, piano, gardening, skiing, hiking, baking, embroidery, coffee, trauma recovery & growing my hair.
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Seeing & acknowledging the "good" in someone or their progress is not inconsistent w/ being realistic about their red flags or limitations. In fact, one of the most loving, supportive things we can do for someone is to be real about those red flags & limitations.
Do both.
Do both.
December 9, 2025 at 4:47 AM
Seeing & acknowledging the "good" in someone or their progress is not inconsistent w/ being realistic about their red flags or limitations. In fact, one of the most loving, supportive things we can do for someone is to be real about those red flags & limitations.
Do both.
Do both.
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You are worth so much more than half assed effort in relationships. Don't let your trauma history convince you otherwise.
"Their" inability to step up has zero to do w/ whether you deserve high effort. "Their" effort issue is a "them" issue -- which WILL catch up to them.
"Their" inability to step up has zero to do w/ whether you deserve high effort. "Their" effort issue is a "them" issue -- which WILL catch up to them.
December 9, 2025 at 4:46 AM
You are worth so much more than half assed effort in relationships. Don't let your trauma history convince you otherwise.
"Their" inability to step up has zero to do w/ whether you deserve high effort. "Their" effort issue is a "them" issue -- which WILL catch up to them.
"Their" inability to step up has zero to do w/ whether you deserve high effort. "Their" effort issue is a "them" issue -- which WILL catch up to them.
I have had this nearly overwhelming undercurrent of sadness all day and it just sucks. But I’m feeling it rather than shoving it down.
I really hoped vestibular PT would fix my tinnitus but it didn’t and I also wish I didn’t HAVE to advocate for myself so extremely but I do because I rock.
I really hoped vestibular PT would fix my tinnitus but it didn’t and I also wish I didn’t HAVE to advocate for myself so extremely but I do because I rock.
December 9, 2025 at 4:42 AM
I have had this nearly overwhelming undercurrent of sadness all day and it just sucks. But I’m feeling it rather than shoving it down.
I really hoped vestibular PT would fix my tinnitus but it didn’t and I also wish I didn’t HAVE to advocate for myself so extremely but I do because I rock.
I really hoped vestibular PT would fix my tinnitus but it didn’t and I also wish I didn’t HAVE to advocate for myself so extremely but I do because I rock.
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Many trauma survivors have been conditioned to believe we have to keep it to ourselves when a comment or "joke" hurts us-- but something survivors in recovery often find is we're much less willing (or able!) to tolerate passive verbal abuse in the guise of "just kidding."
December 9, 2025 at 4:21 AM
Many trauma survivors have been conditioned to believe we have to keep it to ourselves when a comment or "joke" hurts us-- but something survivors in recovery often find is we're much less willing (or able!) to tolerate passive verbal abuse in the guise of "just kidding."
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The "fawn" response will have us running around trying to fix problems we didn't create, & couldn't fix even if we wanted to-- but recovery is going to ask us to let some peoples' problems be THEIR problems, not ours. Which is harder than it sounds, for formerly parentified kids.
December 9, 2025 at 4:20 AM
The "fawn" response will have us running around trying to fix problems we didn't create, & couldn't fix even if we wanted to-- but recovery is going to ask us to let some peoples' problems be THEIR problems, not ours. Which is harder than it sounds, for formerly parentified kids.
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We have instinctive wisdom inside us that CPTSD has worked hard to muffle, make us distrust, & make us doubt the existence of. An every day trauma recovery discipline is listening to our gut & heart w/ respect & patience-- which isn't easy, w/ all the noise & bullsh* t out there.
December 9, 2025 at 4:19 AM
We have instinctive wisdom inside us that CPTSD has worked hard to muffle, make us distrust, & make us doubt the existence of. An every day trauma recovery discipline is listening to our gut & heart w/ respect & patience-- which isn't easy, w/ all the noise & bullsh* t out there.
Eeeeek! My book arrived…with mildew lurking between its pages. I would not call that a “good condition” used book. Would you?
I’ll be returning it and have already ordered a new (unused) copy.
I’m still SO excited to read this book, when my new copy arrives! ☺️
📚💜📚
#BookSky
I’ll be returning it and have already ordered a new (unused) copy.
I’m still SO excited to read this book, when my new copy arrives! ☺️
📚💜📚
#BookSky
December 9, 2025 at 2:46 AM
Eeeeek! My book arrived…with mildew lurking between its pages. I would not call that a “good condition” used book. Would you?
I’ll be returning it and have already ordered a new (unused) copy.
I’m still SO excited to read this book, when my new copy arrives! ☺️
📚💜📚
#BookSky
I’ll be returning it and have already ordered a new (unused) copy.
I’m still SO excited to read this book, when my new copy arrives! ☺️
📚💜📚
#BookSky
Edges are done. Next are the sparkly pieces!
🎄🧩✨🧩🎄
🎄🧩✨🧩🎄
December 8, 2025 at 10:06 PM
Edges are done. Next are the sparkly pieces!
🎄🧩✨🧩🎄
🎄🧩✨🧩🎄
Oh my goodness! So many natural waves today.
🧜♀️✨🌊
🧜♀️✨🌊
December 8, 2025 at 9:13 PM
Oh my goodness! So many natural waves today.
🧜♀️✨🌊
🧜♀️✨🌊
Such beautiful cookies!! I’m excited to see how the coffee flavor comes through after a night of resting the dough.
🍪👩🍳🍪
#baking #chocolatechipcookies
🍪👩🍳🍪
#baking #chocolatechipcookies
December 8, 2025 at 9:01 PM
Such beautiful cookies!! I’m excited to see how the coffee flavor comes through after a night of resting the dough.
🍪👩🍳🍪
#baking #chocolatechipcookies
🍪👩🍳🍪
#baking #chocolatechipcookies
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“You’re still hurt by that? That was a long time ago!”
Not to a nervous system. Abusive behavior puts a brain on constant alert to send warning so it doesn’t happen again. It was a long time ago for the perpetrators, but survivors remember & experience it like it was yesterday.
Not to a nervous system. Abusive behavior puts a brain on constant alert to send warning so it doesn’t happen again. It was a long time ago for the perpetrators, but survivors remember & experience it like it was yesterday.
December 8, 2025 at 7:25 PM
“You’re still hurt by that? That was a long time ago!”
Not to a nervous system. Abusive behavior puts a brain on constant alert to send warning so it doesn’t happen again. It was a long time ago for the perpetrators, but survivors remember & experience it like it was yesterday.
Not to a nervous system. Abusive behavior puts a brain on constant alert to send warning so it doesn’t happen again. It was a long time ago for the perpetrators, but survivors remember & experience it like it was yesterday.
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December 8, 2025 at 6:46 PM
AND the exercises they had me do in-appointment repeatedly pulled my sacrum, spine and hips out of alignment week after week. And they rarely had the harness snug enough for safety. And I was left unattended to do an eyes-closed exercise. I was vocal about my needed accommodations and few were met.
I am so thankful for vestibular PT and that it has improved my balance, decreasing my stumbles from 5-10 per day to 1-2 per day, and having made it so I am no longer dizzy 20-30 times a day.
BUT, the place I was referred to was disorganized, unsanitary, too bright and loud, and seemed money hungry.
BUT, the place I was referred to was disorganized, unsanitary, too bright and loud, and seemed money hungry.
Advocating for myself can be hard but I did it!
I was anxious on my way to vestibular PT, so I sat on their floor reading a cookbook and breathing.
I asked for my discharge date to be next week instead of 12/30 (especially since the original discharge was supposed to be last week).
Good job me! 👏
I was anxious on my way to vestibular PT, so I sat on their floor reading a cookbook and breathing.
I asked for my discharge date to be next week instead of 12/30 (especially since the original discharge was supposed to be last week).
Good job me! 👏
December 8, 2025 at 6:41 PM
AND the exercises they had me do in-appointment repeatedly pulled my sacrum, spine and hips out of alignment week after week. And they rarely had the harness snug enough for safety. And I was left unattended to do an eyes-closed exercise. I was vocal about my needed accommodations and few were met.
I’m always going to do this with our Christmas trees. Too bad it took me six years to realize how helpful it was! 😂
🎄✨🎄
🎄✨🎄
December 8, 2025 at 6:24 PM
I’m always going to do this with our Christmas trees. Too bad it took me six years to realize how helpful it was! 😂
🎄✨🎄
🎄✨🎄
I am so thankful for vestibular PT and that it has improved my balance, decreasing my stumbles from 5-10 per day to 1-2 per day, and having made it so I am no longer dizzy 20-30 times a day.
BUT, the place I was referred to was disorganized, unsanitary, too bright and loud, and seemed money hungry.
BUT, the place I was referred to was disorganized, unsanitary, too bright and loud, and seemed money hungry.
Advocating for myself can be hard but I did it!
I was anxious on my way to vestibular PT, so I sat on their floor reading a cookbook and breathing.
I asked for my discharge date to be next week instead of 12/30 (especially since the original discharge was supposed to be last week).
Good job me! 👏
I was anxious on my way to vestibular PT, so I sat on their floor reading a cookbook and breathing.
I asked for my discharge date to be next week instead of 12/30 (especially since the original discharge was supposed to be last week).
Good job me! 👏
December 8, 2025 at 6:19 PM
I am so thankful for vestibular PT and that it has improved my balance, decreasing my stumbles from 5-10 per day to 1-2 per day, and having made it so I am no longer dizzy 20-30 times a day.
BUT, the place I was referred to was disorganized, unsanitary, too bright and loud, and seemed money hungry.
BUT, the place I was referred to was disorganized, unsanitary, too bright and loud, and seemed money hungry.
Little things that improve a difficult morning- an impromptu stop at the coffee shop for an overflowing Chestnut Praline Latte, reading cookbooks, and some excellent Floor Time with my kitty! Her fur is SO bright white! 🤭
🌰☕️🐈⬛
#FloorTime #cat #CatSky #coffee #CatsOfBlueSky #anxiety #selfadvocacy
🌰☕️🐈⬛
#FloorTime #cat #CatSky #coffee #CatsOfBlueSky #anxiety #selfadvocacy
December 8, 2025 at 6:01 PM
Little things that improve a difficult morning- an impromptu stop at the coffee shop for an overflowing Chestnut Praline Latte, reading cookbooks, and some excellent Floor Time with my kitty! Her fur is SO bright white! 🤭
🌰☕️🐈⬛
#FloorTime #cat #CatSky #coffee #CatsOfBlueSky #anxiety #selfadvocacy
🌰☕️🐈⬛
#FloorTime #cat #CatSky #coffee #CatsOfBlueSky #anxiety #selfadvocacy
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A new week, a new set of three all new episodes! ✨🎄
I’ve got three more true stories from Christmas history to share.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful Christmas season so far! ❤️❤️❤️
#christmashistory #christmasppdcast #christmasstorytime #christmasstory
I’ve got three more true stories from Christmas history to share.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful Christmas season so far! ❤️❤️❤️
#christmashistory #christmasppdcast #christmasstorytime #christmasstory
December 8, 2025 at 4:30 PM
A new week, a new set of three all new episodes! ✨🎄
I’ve got three more true stories from Christmas history to share.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful Christmas season so far! ❤️❤️❤️
#christmashistory #christmasppdcast #christmasstorytime #christmasstory
I’ve got three more true stories from Christmas history to share.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful Christmas season so far! ❤️❤️❤️
#christmashistory #christmasppdcast #christmasstorytime #christmasstory
Advocating for myself can be hard but I did it!
I was anxious on my way to vestibular PT, so I sat on their floor reading a cookbook and breathing.
I asked for my discharge date to be next week instead of 12/30 (especially since the original discharge was supposed to be last week).
Good job me! 👏
I was anxious on my way to vestibular PT, so I sat on their floor reading a cookbook and breathing.
I asked for my discharge date to be next week instead of 12/30 (especially since the original discharge was supposed to be last week).
Good job me! 👏
December 8, 2025 at 4:26 PM
Advocating for myself can be hard but I did it!
I was anxious on my way to vestibular PT, so I sat on their floor reading a cookbook and breathing.
I asked for my discharge date to be next week instead of 12/30 (especially since the original discharge was supposed to be last week).
Good job me! 👏
I was anxious on my way to vestibular PT, so I sat on their floor reading a cookbook and breathing.
I asked for my discharge date to be next week instead of 12/30 (especially since the original discharge was supposed to be last week).
Good job me! 👏
A #DNF this morning after reading 1/4 of the book.
The use of AS instead of Asperger Syndrome (now ASD 1) tripped me up. I had to “translate” AS every time.
The wording was not inclusive nor allowing for fluidity of the vast SPECTRUM of #autistic traits.
(I know the book is dated.)
📚😞📚
#BookSky
The use of AS instead of Asperger Syndrome (now ASD 1) tripped me up. I had to “translate” AS every time.
The wording was not inclusive nor allowing for fluidity of the vast SPECTRUM of #autistic traits.
(I know the book is dated.)
📚😞📚
#BookSky
December 8, 2025 at 2:50 PM
December 8, 2025 at 2:27 PM
Time for a little bit of reading and sipping of coffee before heading off to vestibular PT!
I love starting my day off with coffee and a book in low light.
What are you reading today?
📚🧩📚
#BookSky
I think the VPT place is milking my insurance for money. We should have ended services already. 🤔
I love starting my day off with coffee and a book in low light.
What are you reading today?
📚🧩📚
#BookSky
I think the VPT place is milking my insurance for money. We should have ended services already. 🤔
December 8, 2025 at 2:20 PM
Time for a little bit of reading and sipping of coffee before heading off to vestibular PT!
I love starting my day off with coffee and a book in low light.
What are you reading today?
📚🧩📚
#BookSky
I think the VPT place is milking my insurance for money. We should have ended services already. 🤔
I love starting my day off with coffee and a book in low light.
What are you reading today?
📚🧩📚
#BookSky
I think the VPT place is milking my insurance for money. We should have ended services already. 🤔
The 9/11 one just gave me goosebumps.
I mention it rarely but I woke up on 9/11 knowing something awful would happen. The events occurred a few hours later.
My mom and I both knew/know when death is coming. For me it’s famous people and residents at my work. For her it was her dad and dorm mother.
I mention it rarely but I woke up on 9/11 knowing something awful would happen. The events occurred a few hours later.
My mom and I both knew/know when death is coming. For me it’s famous people and residents at my work. For her it was her dad and dorm mother.
December 8, 2025 at 4:37 AM
The 9/11 one just gave me goosebumps.
I mention it rarely but I woke up on 9/11 knowing something awful would happen. The events occurred a few hours later.
My mom and I both knew/know when death is coming. For me it’s famous people and residents at my work. For her it was her dad and dorm mother.
I mention it rarely but I woke up on 9/11 knowing something awful would happen. The events occurred a few hours later.
My mom and I both knew/know when death is coming. For me it’s famous people and residents at my work. For her it was her dad and dorm mother.
December 8, 2025 at 4:25 AM