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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈

@kathleendeplume.bsky.social

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Wife, mother, author, teacher, gamer, nerd. Gayer than a tree full of mo- argh. [expletive]. EXTREMELY gay. 🌈She/Her🌈

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Nov 27

Ooooh, were able to pin posts here, now!

Hello, everyone, here is my book - available in KU, paperback, hard cover, and audio! Dragons and rescuing the princess and happily ever after with as much smut as I thought I could get away with 😆🥰🐉👑

Universal link: mybook.to/DragonQueens

My hand holding a hard cover version of my book, Dragon Queens. You can’t see it, but I’m bursting with pride for having made this thing exist 🥰

Tropes:
• Heroine Saves The Princess
• Sword and Sorcery
• Dragons! Ogres! Semi-controllable Prophecies!
• Fake Engagement
• Only One Bed
• Clueless Protagonist
• Happily Ever After

Dragons fly again...

With her betrothal imminent, the beautiful Princess Ava has gone missing. Where has she fled to? Why has she gone? And why is the dragon stirring?

Enter our hero. Gwen has been hunting wanted criminals for years, collecting bounties to provide for her mother and brother since the death of their father. The promise of an armful of gold for bringing the Princess home is too good to ignore.

But bringing her home doesn't solve anyone's problems. Gwen still has family to support, and Ava still has a miserable marriage to look forward to. How will they get over these hurdles? And what new ones will they create along the way?

Cover art for my novel, Dragon Queens.

Art is by StarsColdNight

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 1d

This reads like an example quote, like "Women totally agree with me! Why, my [roommate/ex/sister's friend/etc] will never admit it but she thinks [insert screed from OP in quotation marks]".

It doesn't read like it was *meant* to be in character, but rather a paraphrase by a white guy. Fascinating🤣

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 1d

And it's not just "perform likeability on top of competence" - to a LOT of men, a woman displaying her competence is doing the most unlikeable thing imaginable, so she's never going to be able to do both at the same time no matter how much she tries.

There is no winning, here.

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 2d

"The lack of sex in our relationship is an enormous problem to me and I'm not coming up with many good ideas on how to fix it. Can you help? What would you suggest we do?"

Intimacy is important, and should be discussed. Asking permission to cheat should never be the first broaching of this subject.

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 7d

Hey there right-side-unilateral-mastectomy buddy! 🥰

I'm so glad I'm gay. My wife called me a "one-tit wonder" and I'm still giggling over it - but she still finds me hot, too.

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 7d

I mean, until I re-read and saw "monthly" attached to other figures I assumed it was a fortnightly figure. $26k/year would actually be helpful to the primary parent; I'm not sure $13k makes a dent in the costs of a kid (let alone more than one!)

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 9d

Child support of $1100 - per month? That’s $13,200 a year. That’s less than the after-tax portion of the $30,000 more he makes than she does - he should be paying a little over half the rent ($900-$1000, not $1300 or anything lopsided like that!)

Ditch the cheap-arse jerk. Gah.

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 16d

Hardly fair. Cary Grant would look better than Pete Hegseth even if he were wearing a hessian bag.

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 17d

Lost the word "not", but you get what I mean lol

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 17d

...says she can't remember), but I never thought it that odd to have parents not want to tell their kid about their early dating days.

Is it weirder than I thought? I haven't told my 6yo any details about how my wife and I met (though she knows we met at school); should I be telling her more?

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 17d

You're the second person I've seen state this as a red flag, and I'm curious why?

I don't know how my parents met. I know from my older (half) siblings that they were still in their first marriages at the time, which might be why they always ducked my questions about it (and mum now straight up...

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 17d

Yes. The simplest answer is that being alone is glorified - it's simply that all women should have a baseline of "what life would be like if I left" to compare against.

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · 17d

Yep. My first response was "why is this an issue? If she's his best friend and you're marrying him surely you're close enough with her to discuss this with her and know where she's at?"

My wife has friends who I'm not so close to. But everyone she's close to I know pretty well, and can talk to.

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Sep 6

Looked at his hand holding the cup: AI is getting better at hands, it seems
Next looked at her sleeve blending into her leg: Oh, wait, no it isn't

(I'm not bothering with the content of the "meme", which is clearly nonsense)

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Sep 4

These men need to look at actual escort pricing before they make such ridiculously lowball offers for sex work. $500/month is insulting - standard rate is around $500/hour.

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 30

When I played tennis I learned that good players *never* double fault against weaker players - they almost never fault in the first place if a safe serve has a decent chance of acing.

I couldn’t take a point off her because I’m not good enough to put pressure on her to serve close to the lines.

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 30

The quote says “people” when it’s pretty clear it means “men”.

Yet again: “Feminism is the radical notion that women are people”

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 30

Women tend to find another person attractive for the sum total of who they are, rather than purely on appearance. If you show a woman a photo, that photo would need to be *incredible* to be rated as “hot” without any of the other attractive factors coming into play.

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 30

lol - this feels like the opposite of the usual response: “surely there are no ADULTS born this century!!!”

Someone told me Aladdin (1992) came out closer to the moon landing than to today, and - NO! Can’t be true. Definitely can’t have been true for 10 years, deary deary me 🤦‍♀️

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 29

I think that's a fair position to take for yourself. I think her position is also perfectly reasonable though - why did he pick Monday if he wasn't planning to be in town that day anyway? Her heebies were jeebied and that's completely fair.

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 28

…but my brother actually said he respected that objection more (but still thinks there’s no contradiction in the bible).

He also thinks my issue with Omnimax has to do with my “human” definition of “good”, but it’s actually “powerful” that breaks - why is an Omnimax deity restricted to causality?

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 28

I have a brother who claims there’s no contradictions in the bible. When I pointed out direct contradictions, chapter and verse, he accused me of focusing on the small shit that doesn’t matter. So I pointed out the bigger stuff (God loves everyone but hated Esau), which is harder to chapter & verse

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 26

I’m confused - what are they upset about? I thought they knew their idol was a conman and a rapist. I thought they liked that about him.

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 23

I’m 41 and my wife is 38. We’ve been together 21 years. I personally don’t think 20 to 17 is that bad - but maybe I just have a vested interest in that being the case? The 2 1/2 yr age gap is certainly nothing *now* (and I’m also not a violent misogynist - the actual issue here, imo)

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Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 22

They gave that question to a bunch of British kids about a decade back and the answers had changed to things like “maybe the boy has two gay dads?”. I remember feeling a bit hollow that progress in one area (queer rights) didn’t translate to others… (“maybe the surgeon is his mum?” was still absent)

Kathleen de Plume 🏳️‍🌈 @kathleendeplume.bsky.social · Aug 21

Reminds me a lot of “The only moral abortion is my abortion”:

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“The Only Moral Abortion is My Abortion”

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