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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · 3d

Every purchase gets a free printable 2026 calendar to hang in your office or on your refrigerator, plus a free ebook of the I Know Why She Stayed memoir. Once purchased, your name is entered into a drawing for the chance to win a prize daily!
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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · 3d

Available now, you can purchase one (or both!) of the prize calendars for our Authors Against Abuse fundraiser. Calendars are $10 each for November or December. Or you can purchase both for $20! (1/2)

Prize Calendar – Fall 2025 – I Know Why She Stayed Initiative

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K. J. Harrowick @kjharrowick.bsky.social · 7d

I've been a bit silent on socials lately so it's time to introduce myself again for all my new followers. ❤️

I'm K. J. Harrowick (Kat), a SFF author who also lingers in nonfiction. By day I'm the co-founder and CTO of @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social - at night I roam the dark halls of strange worlds.

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · 10d

In honor of National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we would like to share our workshop at @writehive.bsky.social ‘s annual writing conference about how Writing to Heal helped us in surviving and coping with our trauma and how you can use it to help you.   www.youtube.com/watch?v=ghz3...

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · 10d

We talk about financial abuse of spouses often, but elder financial abuse is such a terrible crime. Learn more here:

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Elder financial abuse | Combat red flags | Fidelity

Combatting elder fraud and financial abuse takes education, monitoring, and a careful plan for trusting the right people.

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · 19d

We heard a rumor…that there’s an awesome new event coming to the Berkshires!   Join musician Lita Williams and The Berkshire Medium, Pam Ellis, for Music and Messages! All proceeds will go to our I Know Why She Stayed Initiative.

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · 24d

Self-Care is so important to rebuilding your life, finding your strength, and helping to lift the effects of gaslighting and coercive control. You can’t stand up against an abuser if you haven’t taken care of yourself. Find little ways, quiet ways to take care of yourself. You deserve it.

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Sep 15

Join Survivor Voices and I Know Why She Stayed for the #Hearourvoices campaign started by the Survivor Voices team! Your voice is essential to this fight. Learn more @survivor_voices on the picture app!

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Sep 9

She saved hundreds of women in that space and her work eventually led to the creation of Refuge, one of the largest domestic abuse charity in the UK. (2/2)

I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Sep 9

Trailblazers Against Domestic Abuse: Erin Pizzey founded the first women’s refuge shelter, Chiswick Women’s Refuge in 1971. She had no resources beyond a run-down derelict house she was able to get from the city with four rooms, a galley kitchen, and a toilet. (1/2)

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Sep 7

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Sep 6

One day, one day 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Sep 6

Still on the fence on whether or not that’s a real thing.

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Sep 1

Neo-Soul today with Gas Light by Kianja.

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Aug 31

If you’re not already subscribed to our newsletter, sign up! It contains monthly insights to help you tackle your trauma and move forward. This month, we’re sharing Tips for Effective Grounding.
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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Aug 28

I Know Why She Stayed and Authors Against Abuse are currently gathering donations for use in an upcoming prize raffle calendar. Do you have something that you think would be a good prize that you’d like to donate? DM me here, and thank you in advance!
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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Aug 27

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Domestic violence is leading cause of homicide in Utah amid Trump cuts — Guardian US

US president cuts funding for victims as state faces more than a third of killings from partner or familial violence

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Aug 26

Excited to share that our co-founder, Kasey Rogers, will be speaking at SheIsMe at Sea, October 11–15, 2025. This women’s leadership retreat brings together visionaries and
changemakers to rise, heal, and lead — stronger together. 🌊✨

Join her onboard: www.SheIsMeAtSea.com

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Aug 23

Your phone always knows where you are---but there's no reason for anyone else to. If you are or have been in an abusive relationship, it's not enough to be careful what you post online. Apps can also share your location when you post. Some apps even have mapping software where you can find people in your area, and some of them default to basic settings whenever there's an update. Check your privacy settings regularly and always turn off location sharing.

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Aug 17

It posits that society’s promoted methods of intimacy and care for one of other are inadequate and equating sickness to brokenness is inherently wrong.  
It is true that what abuse does to us can make us feel broken, but what is broken can be rebuilt, differently, but better.
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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Aug 17

This book discusses the intersection between trauma and chronic illness, and the things that are wrong with our world that nurtures that trauma and wrongness. (2/3)

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Aug 17

Diving into this read, acquired during our recent trip to ALA 2025, Touch Me, I’m Sick: A Memoir in Essays by Margeaux Feldman. I’m only just starting it, but it is incredibly intriguing and has so much to do with our mission.

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I Know Why She Stayed @iknowwhyshestayed.bsky.social · Aug 6

Control is abuse. Abuse comes in many forms. Staying informed is essential.

Did You Know? If your partner tries to take control over where you can go, who you can see, what you can wear, and when you can eat and sleep, you are abused.

If your partner threatens your well-being by controlling your basic needs such as medical services, food, housing, and access to various methods of communication, you are abused.

Abuse can come in many different forms. But nobody should control you to the point where they keep you from doing things you enjoy, and they certainly shouldn’t control your access to your needs.

THAT IS ABUSE. And calling it out is essential.

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Lucy Gray @lucymaygray.bsky.social · Aug 6

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Rebecca Solnit @rebeccasolnit.bsky.social · Aug 3

Yep--the stranger leaps out of the bushes is a way to ignore how in a way it takes a village to rape a person, all the enablers, excusers, cover-up aides, defense lawyers, NDA laws, indifferent legal system, clueless journalists treating each act as isolated rather than part of a pattern....

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