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Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb

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Recovering mind + body from the effects of childhood trauma. NS, parts work, EMDR 🌿 Neuroaffirming, abuse-informed. Accepting clients worldwide ✨️🌏 https://flourishtherapy.co/

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Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Sep 15

I am estranged from my entire family of origin.

They hold my history, but I got out with myself.

An incredibly costly trade, but one I would make over and over again.

Saving myself against all odds is my greatest achievement. 🤍✨️🕊

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Aug 25

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Neurodivergent Support Group

Neurodivergent Support Group Virtual

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Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Aug 25

Recognizing this is an powerful doorway to seeing yourself accurately and finding the freedom you've always wanted.

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Aug 25

Internalized ableism can look like a neurodivergent person that has absorbed + applied societal beliefs and stereotypes that devalue disability, to themselves.

This internalized bias can keep a neurodivergent person from seeing accurately + acknowledging their specific brain pattern and neurotype.

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Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Aug 24

In narcissistic family systems hierarchy takes the place of balanced, honoring, reciprocating relationships.

This is by design. It's the only way to create "stability" in the absence of what relationships actually require.

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Aug 19

The longing for tenderness and care from our parents never goes away. ❤️‍🩹

Grief is the only way to live in the world as it shouldn't be.

🌼Lauren Smallcomb
@goldenchildbook
@flourish_therapy

#nocontact #estrangement #goldenchild #scapegoatchild #dysfunctionalfamily

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Aug 15

Awareness of this added layer helps clear the confusion and opens the door to restoring your dignity and honor, allowing you to fully embrace your complex grief. ❤️‍🩹

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Aug 15

Stigmatized grief really complicates one's grief journey.

There are so many types of grief that are stigmatized...bringing a sense of shame and isolation.

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Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Aug 12

An unhealthy parent creates a whole system of dysfunctional dynamics beneath them.

Read more about this is my upcoming memoir Golden Child: My Descent to Scapegoat and Rise to Freedom. 🤍✨️🕊

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Aug 7

Golden Child is available for pre-order! 🤍✨️🕊

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Aug 3

Sending so much care and honor for the collective of cycle-breakers doing the hard and meaningful work of creating family cultures of belonging, safety and care.

Every single step of this matters. 🤍

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 29

Don't give up believing that you too can be known and loved.

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 29

Wanting to be seen, known and held in the places of your greatest pain is one of the deepest human longings there are.

As much as you've maybe not experienced this, we want to encourage you that those benevolent witnesses await you, and you are altogether deserving of that space.

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 27

I heard “Wide Open Spaces” by Dixie Chick's when I was a young teen unknowingly stuck in my golden child role and thought why would anyone want room to make a big mistake?

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 24

Seriously.

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 24

It goes against every single instinct to name your parent as unsafe, unprotective or unloving.

Every. Single. Instinct.

If someone has done the hard work to get to this point of naming a more accurate narrative....listen to them. Consider their pain. And please do not judge them.

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 23

Neurodivergent awareness is so important as its easy to misinterpret someone's words and actions as threatening, when really they're simply neurodivergent.

(We're not talking about innately abusive behaviors like aggression, lying, blame-shifting or gaslighting...)

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 22

Letting go is a continual process- and invitation.

No need to feel shame that your pain keeps showing up. This is entirely normal.

🌿Luke + Lauren Smallcomb
@flourish_therapy

Quote: @yung_pueblo

#griefawareness #betrayaltrauma #traumaticloss #childhoodtraumarecovery #cptsdawareness

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 10

Loved this interaction so much. ♡

May you find "mom" and "dads" and any other family you've had to create distance from- in many other, more loving places.

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 9

Estrangement is a brutal path that no one wants to be their story...and yet IS the way forward to a whole, safe and fulfilling life for so many of us.

I can't wait for you to see yourself on the pages of my memoir, Golden Child. 🤍✨️🕊

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 5

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Neurodiverse Relationship Immersive

STRENGTHEN YOUR NEURODIVERSE RELATIONSHIP WITH THE GENTLE GUIDANCE OF AN EXPERIENCED NEURODIVERGENT PRACTITIONER

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Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 5

If you're in a Neurodivergent relationship we have a special offer for you:

Neurodiverse Relationship Immersive

2 months of couples sessions with Luke exploring the elements of neurodiverse relationships that are challenging- bringing more safety, peace and connection into your relationship.

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 5

When you've gone years being misunderstood, and having shame and confusion about parts of yourself....

Getting a neurodivergent diagnosis can make a W O R L D of difference. 🌏🤍✨️

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Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 4

Some observations on the vulnerability of new growth...

Flourish Therapy | Luke and Lauren Smallcomb @flourishtherapy.bsky.social · Jul 4

You're doing such meaningful work that honors the past, and greatly benefits the present and future.

Onward 🤍✨️🕊

🌼Lauren + Luke Smallcomb
@flourish_therapy
@goldenchildbook