Thriving In Engineering
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➡️25+ years in every part of the industry
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Performance reviews don’t kill motivation — bad performance reviews do.
If you’re heading into review season, avoid these 6 traps that quietly destroy trust and morale.
Each one has a simple fix. 👉Subscribe to Thriving In Engineering to read the full guide 🔗Link in bio.
If you’re heading into review season, avoid these 6 traps that quietly destroy trust and morale.
Each one has a simple fix. 👉Subscribe to Thriving In Engineering to read the full guide 🔗Link in bio.
November 10, 2025 at 3:06 PM
Performance reviews don’t kill motivation — bad performance reviews do.
If you’re heading into review season, avoid these 6 traps that quietly destroy trust and morale.
Each one has a simple fix. 👉Subscribe to Thriving In Engineering to read the full guide 🔗Link in bio.
If you’re heading into review season, avoid these 6 traps that quietly destroy trust and morale.
Each one has a simple fix. 👉Subscribe to Thriving In Engineering to read the full guide 🔗Link in bio.
Every Friday, I dig through Substack, Medium, X, and the rest of the internet so you don't have to.
The Thriving In Engineering Digest delivers the highest-signal reads on leadership, AI, feedback, strategy, and team dynamics - all in one place.
🔗Link in bio.
The Thriving In Engineering Digest delivers the highest-signal reads on leadership, AI, feedback, strategy, and team dynamics - all in one place.
🔗Link in bio.
November 7, 2025 at 3:29 PM
Every Friday, I dig through Substack, Medium, X, and the rest of the internet so you don't have to.
The Thriving In Engineering Digest delivers the highest-signal reads on leadership, AI, feedback, strategy, and team dynamics - all in one place.
🔗Link in bio.
The Thriving In Engineering Digest delivers the highest-signal reads on leadership, AI, feedback, strategy, and team dynamics - all in one place.
🔗Link in bio.
Your real impact shows up in your absence.
If things fall apart the moment you leave, you haven’t built a strong team – you’ve built dependency.
Empowerment > control. Every time.
If things fall apart the moment you leave, you haven’t built a strong team – you’ve built dependency.
Empowerment > control. Every time.
November 5, 2025 at 3:38 PM
Your real impact shows up in your absence.
If things fall apart the moment you leave, you haven’t built a strong team – you’ve built dependency.
Empowerment > control. Every time.
If things fall apart the moment you leave, you haven’t built a strong team – you’ve built dependency.
Empowerment > control. Every time.
💡 This week’s edition dives into a hot debate: Are managers useless—or just used wrong?
👉 Read the full newsletter to explore what thoughtful leadership really looks like. Link in bio.
👉 Read the full newsletter to explore what thoughtful leadership really looks like. Link in bio.
November 3, 2025 at 5:38 PM
💡 This week’s edition dives into a hot debate: Are managers useless—or just used wrong?
👉 Read the full newsletter to explore what thoughtful leadership really looks like. Link in bio.
👉 Read the full newsletter to explore what thoughtful leadership really looks like. Link in bio.
Each week, I dig through Substack, Medium, X, and other corners of the internet to bring you the highest-signal reads on leadership, AI, feedback, strategy, team dynamics, and more.
If you’re short on time but want to keep growing, this roundup is for you.
If you’re short on time but want to keep growing, this roundup is for you.
October 31, 2025 at 3:40 PM
Each week, I dig through Substack, Medium, X, and other corners of the internet to bring you the highest-signal reads on leadership, AI, feedback, strategy, team dynamics, and more.
If you’re short on time but want to keep growing, this roundup is for you.
If you’re short on time but want to keep growing, this roundup is for you.
Anyone can give directions.
Leaders give purpose. 🌟
Being in charge is about control.
Being a leader is about connection – helping people see why their work matters, not just what to do next.
Real leadership shows up when people feel trusted, not managed.
#techleadership
Leaders give purpose. 🌟
Being in charge is about control.
Being a leader is about connection – helping people see why their work matters, not just what to do next.
Real leadership shows up when people feel trusted, not managed.
#techleadership
October 22, 2025 at 4:10 PM
Anyone can give directions.
Leaders give purpose. 🌟
Being in charge is about control.
Being a leader is about connection – helping people see why their work matters, not just what to do next.
Real leadership shows up when people feel trusted, not managed.
#techleadership
Leaders give purpose. 🌟
Being in charge is about control.
Being a leader is about connection – helping people see why their work matters, not just what to do next.
Real leadership shows up when people feel trusted, not managed.
#techleadership
Just became an engineering manager?
Start strong by learning the mindset, systems, and habits that build trust and clarity fast
🚀 read “From Engineer to Manager Part 1” on Substack #engineeringmanagers
Start strong by learning the mindset, systems, and habits that build trust and clarity fast
🚀 read “From Engineer to Manager Part 1” on Substack #engineeringmanagers
October 20, 2025 at 2:35 PM
Just became an engineering manager?
Start strong by learning the mindset, systems, and habits that build trust and clarity fast
🚀 read “From Engineer to Manager Part 1” on Substack #engineeringmanagers
Start strong by learning the mindset, systems, and habits that build trust and clarity fast
🚀 read “From Engineer to Manager Part 1” on Substack #engineeringmanagers
🔇Friday Digest 🔇
Your weekly roundup to help you lead and live better in tech — from feedback to team growth.
📖 Read more → link in bio
#FridayDigest #TechLeadership #LeadershipGrowth #WorkCulture
Your weekly roundup to help you lead and live better in tech — from feedback to team growth.
📖 Read more → link in bio
#FridayDigest #TechLeadership #LeadershipGrowth #WorkCulture
October 17, 2025 at 4:11 PM
🔇Friday Digest 🔇
Your weekly roundup to help you lead and live better in tech — from feedback to team growth.
📖 Read more → link in bio
#FridayDigest #TechLeadership #LeadershipGrowth #WorkCulture
Your weekly roundup to help you lead and live better in tech — from feedback to team growth.
📖 Read more → link in bio
#FridayDigest #TechLeadership #LeadershipGrowth #WorkCulture
Most managers avoid giving feedback to spare feelings—but honest, caring feedback is the key to growth.
I break down how to move past guilt and have real, productive convos in my latest post:
📖 Read it → link in bio
#Leadership #Feedback #TechLeadership #ManagerTips
I break down how to move past guilt and have real, productive convos in my latest post:
📖 Read it → link in bio
#Leadership #Feedback #TechLeadership #ManagerTips
October 13, 2025 at 9:26 PM
Most managers avoid giving feedback to spare feelings—but honest, caring feedback is the key to growth.
I break down how to move past guilt and have real, productive convos in my latest post:
📖 Read it → link in bio
#Leadership #Feedback #TechLeadership #ManagerTips
I break down how to move past guilt and have real, productive convos in my latest post:
📖 Read it → link in bio
#Leadership #Feedback #TechLeadership #ManagerTips
💡 After 25+ years in software engineering & leadership, I’ve learned it’s not about working more — it’s about working smarter. Get practical insights & real strategies to grow as an engineering leader. 📬 Join my newsletter — link in bio.
#TechLeadership #EngineeringManager
#TechLeadership #EngineeringManager
October 10, 2025 at 8:03 PM
💡 After 25+ years in software engineering & leadership, I’ve learned it’s not about working more — it’s about working smarter. Get practical insights & real strategies to grow as an engineering leader. 📬 Join my newsletter — link in bio.
#TechLeadership #EngineeringManager
#TechLeadership #EngineeringManager
🚩 Not all features are wins. Some are red flags that drain time, budget & momentum. Spot them early before they sink your team.
👉 Full breakdown in the newsletter.
👉 Full breakdown in the newsletter.
September 29, 2025 at 5:30 PM
🚩 Not all features are wins. Some are red flags that drain time, budget & momentum. Spot them early before they sink your team.
👉 Full breakdown in the newsletter.
👉 Full breakdown in the newsletter.
📬 Join my newsletter for straight-talking advice and proven strategies
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September 26, 2025 at 6:02 PM
📬 Join my newsletter for straight-talking advice and proven strategies
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Dashboards can tell the numbers. Stories connect those numbers to impact.
When you put them together, your team’s work actually lands with the people who matter. 📊 Save this as a reminder for your next update.
When you put them together, your team’s work actually lands with the people who matter. 📊 Save this as a reminder for your next update.
September 24, 2025 at 5:42 PM
Dashboards can tell the numbers. Stories connect those numbers to impact.
When you put them together, your team’s work actually lands with the people who matter. 📊 Save this as a reminder for your next update.
When you put them together, your team’s work actually lands with the people who matter. 📊 Save this as a reminder for your next update.
👋 I’m Alex, founder & engineering leader with 25+ years in tech.
I’ve seen every side of this industry — and my mission is to help you take back control of your work and life.
💌 Get practical insights & hard-earned lessons, straight to your inbox.
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I’ve seen every side of this industry — and my mission is to help you take back control of your work and life.
💌 Get practical insights & hard-earned lessons, straight to your inbox.
📍 Link in bio
September 19, 2025 at 1:05 PM
👋 I’m Alex, founder & engineering leader with 25+ years in tech.
I’ve seen every side of this industry — and my mission is to help you take back control of your work and life.
💌 Get practical insights & hard-earned lessons, straight to your inbox.
📍 Link in bio
I’ve seen every side of this industry — and my mission is to help you take back control of your work and life.
💌 Get practical insights & hard-earned lessons, straight to your inbox.
📍 Link in bio
In crisis, people don’t look for miracles. They look for steadiness.
If you can stay calm, clear, and present, your team can keep moving — even when everything else feels chaotic.
🌊 Share this with a manager who needs the reminder today.
If you can stay calm, clear, and present, your team can keep moving — even when everything else feels chaotic.
🌊 Share this with a manager who needs the reminder today.
September 17, 2025 at 5:07 PM
In crisis, people don’t look for miracles. They look for steadiness.
If you can stay calm, clear, and present, your team can keep moving — even when everything else feels chaotic.
🌊 Share this with a manager who needs the reminder today.
If you can stay calm, clear, and present, your team can keep moving — even when everything else feels chaotic.
🌊 Share this with a manager who needs the reminder today.
🌱 Confidence doesn’t just appear overnight. Even the best managers doubt themselves.
The good news? Confidence is a skill you can grow.
Learn 4 ways to build it. Link in bio.
The good news? Confidence is a skill you can grow.
Learn 4 ways to build it. Link in bio.
September 15, 2025 at 4:21 PM
🌱 Confidence doesn’t just appear overnight. Even the best managers doubt themselves.
The good news? Confidence is a skill you can grow.
Learn 4 ways to build it. Link in bio.
The good news? Confidence is a skill you can grow.
Learn 4 ways to build it. Link in bio.
🧠 Fuel for engineering leaders: AI, habits, careers, and craft.
Dive into this week’s Digest.
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Dive into this week’s Digest.
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September 12, 2025 at 5:25 PM
🧠 Fuel for engineering leaders: AI, habits, careers, and craft.
Dive into this week’s Digest.
🔗 Link in bio
Dive into this week’s Digest.
🔗 Link in bio
Silence can hide in plain sight — a muted Zoom square, an empty Slack thread. Lean in when voices go quiet — that’s often when support is needed most.
📌 Share this with another remote leader.
📌 Share this with another remote leader.
September 11, 2025 at 5:18 PM
Silence can hide in plain sight — a muted Zoom square, an empty Slack thread. Lean in when voices go quiet — that’s often when support is needed most.
📌 Share this with another remote leader.
📌 Share this with another remote leader.
If you’re waiting to feel confident before deciding, you’ll wait forever.
💡 Confidence doesn’t come first — it comes from deciding.
Every call, big or small, builds the muscle you’ll need for the next one. 💪
👉 5 ways to train it: link in bio.
💡 Confidence doesn’t come first — it comes from deciding.
Every call, big or small, builds the muscle you’ll need for the next one. 💪
👉 5 ways to train it: link in bio.
September 8, 2025 at 4:42 PM
If you’re waiting to feel confident before deciding, you’ll wait forever.
💡 Confidence doesn’t come first — it comes from deciding.
Every call, big or small, builds the muscle you’ll need for the next one. 💪
👉 5 ways to train it: link in bio.
💡 Confidence doesn’t come first — it comes from deciding.
Every call, big or small, builds the muscle you’ll need for the next one. 💪
👉 5 ways to train it: link in bio.
🍂 September is here — and so is The Thriving In Engineering Digest!
From stepping into leadership ➡️ to navigating crises ➡️ to motivating beyond pizza parties, this week’s reads are all about leadership that lasts. Link in bio.
From stepping into leadership ➡️ to navigating crises ➡️ to motivating beyond pizza parties, this week’s reads are all about leadership that lasts. Link in bio.
September 5, 2025 at 3:50 PM
🍂 September is here — and so is The Thriving In Engineering Digest!
From stepping into leadership ➡️ to navigating crises ➡️ to motivating beyond pizza parties, this week’s reads are all about leadership that lasts. Link in bio.
From stepping into leadership ➡️ to navigating crises ➡️ to motivating beyond pizza parties, this week’s reads are all about leadership that lasts. Link in bio.
A one-on-one isn’t about the calendar slot — it’s about the relationship. 🤝 The best ones aren’t perfectly structured. They’re the ones where trust shows up.
September 3, 2025 at 4:18 PM
A one-on-one isn’t about the calendar slot — it’s about the relationship. 🤝 The best ones aren’t perfectly structured. They’re the ones where trust shows up.
The real measure of a manager isn’t how much they talk.
It’s how much their team feels heard.
Listening isn’t passive — it’s one of the most active skills you can practice as a leader.
I broke down 6 practical steps in my latest guide. Link in bio.
It’s how much their team feels heard.
Listening isn’t passive — it’s one of the most active skills you can practice as a leader.
I broke down 6 practical steps in my latest guide. Link in bio.
September 1, 2025 at 6:55 PM
The real measure of a manager isn’t how much they talk.
It’s how much their team feels heard.
Listening isn’t passive — it’s one of the most active skills you can practice as a leader.
I broke down 6 practical steps in my latest guide. Link in bio.
It’s how much their team feels heard.
Listening isn’t passive — it’s one of the most active skills you can practice as a leader.
I broke down 6 practical steps in my latest guide. Link in bio.
Every Friday, I send out The Thriving In Engineering Digest — a hand-picked roundup for engineering managers, tech leaders, and engineers looking to level up.
It’s designed to save you hours of scrolling and sharpen your leadership in 10 minutes or less.
It’s designed to save you hours of scrolling and sharpen your leadership in 10 minutes or less.
August 29, 2025 at 6:06 PM
Every Friday, I send out The Thriving In Engineering Digest — a hand-picked roundup for engineering managers, tech leaders, and engineers looking to level up.
It’s designed to save you hours of scrolling and sharpen your leadership in 10 minutes or less.
It’s designed to save you hours of scrolling and sharpen your leadership in 10 minutes or less.
Leadership isn’t about dominance. It’s about direction.
Strangely enough, I learned that from my dog. 🐾
📍 You can read the full guide through the newsletter link in bio.
Strangely enough, I learned that from my dog. 🐾
📍 You can read the full guide through the newsletter link in bio.
August 27, 2025 at 5:35 PM
Leadership isn’t about dominance. It’s about direction.
Strangely enough, I learned that from my dog. 🐾
📍 You can read the full guide through the newsletter link in bio.
Strangely enough, I learned that from my dog. 🐾
📍 You can read the full guide through the newsletter link in bio.
Introverted Engineering Managers: Other Managers Aren’t Your Enemies.
Your calm, thoughtful approach is your superpower. Use it to collaborate, advocate, and influence — and leadership gets easier for everyone.
👉 Full guide here: link in bio
Your calm, thoughtful approach is your superpower. Use it to collaborate, advocate, and influence — and leadership gets easier for everyone.
👉 Full guide here: link in bio
August 25, 2025 at 3:12 PM
Introverted Engineering Managers: Other Managers Aren’t Your Enemies.
Your calm, thoughtful approach is your superpower. Use it to collaborate, advocate, and influence — and leadership gets easier for everyone.
👉 Full guide here: link in bio
Your calm, thoughtful approach is your superpower. Use it to collaborate, advocate, and influence — and leadership gets easier for everyone.
👉 Full guide here: link in bio