Emily
@emilybynight.bsky.social
writer, biker, dancer in the bay. editor at The Ick
emilybynight.substack.com
emilybynight.substack.com
If anyone can teach us about the real-world consequences of cancel culture, it's @lydialaurenson.bsky.social
For the season finale of The Ick, her essay brings down the house: www.emilybynight.com/p/how-i-got-...
For the season finale of The Ick, her essay brings down the house: www.emilybynight.com/p/how-i-got-...
How I Got Canceled by the Left and Right
What cancel culture reveals and conceals about redemption
www.emilybynight.com
September 6, 2025 at 5:35 PM
If anyone can teach us about the real-world consequences of cancel culture, it's @lydialaurenson.bsky.social
For the season finale of The Ick, her essay brings down the house: www.emilybynight.com/p/how-i-got-...
For the season finale of The Ick, her essay brings down the house: www.emilybynight.com/p/how-i-got-...
what happens with the radical left kicks you out for being too radical?
on The Ick: Kit reflects on fighting for sex worker rights in New Orleans, and the Marxists who turned their backs on her www.emilybynight.com/p/the-left-g...
on The Ick: Kit reflects on fighting for sex worker rights in New Orleans, and the Marxists who turned their backs on her www.emilybynight.com/p/the-left-g...
How the Left Gagged on Sex Work
And dismantled a revolution
www.emilybynight.com
August 20, 2025 at 4:05 PM
what happens with the radical left kicks you out for being too radical?
on The Ick: Kit reflects on fighting for sex worker rights in New Orleans, and the Marxists who turned their backs on her www.emilybynight.com/p/the-left-g...
on The Ick: Kit reflects on fighting for sex worker rights in New Orleans, and the Marxists who turned their backs on her www.emilybynight.com/p/the-left-g...
"hot girls have tummy issues" is a funny meme, sure...but when you learn that 90% of women with IBS also have an eating disorder the meme seems morbidly twisted
You Don’t Have IBS, You Have An Eating Disorder
But why not both?
www.emilybynight.com
August 6, 2025 at 7:59 PM
"hot girls have tummy issues" is a funny meme, sure...but when you learn that 90% of women with IBS also have an eating disorder the meme seems morbidly twisted
what happens when a sidewalk fortune teller performs ego death on stage during an improv occult play?
one of the greatest disaster stories of our time!
New on The Ick: a story from @joetforhire.com that smashes the gas and doesn't let up
www.emilybynight.com/p/the-idiots...
one of the greatest disaster stories of our time!
New on The Ick: a story from @joetforhire.com that smashes the gas and doesn't let up
www.emilybynight.com/p/the-idiots...
The Idiot’s Guide to Mystical Interactive Theater
A fortune teller's attempt at dramaturgy
www.emilybynight.com
July 24, 2025 at 6:24 PM
what happens when a sidewalk fortune teller performs ego death on stage during an improv occult play?
one of the greatest disaster stories of our time!
New on The Ick: a story from @joetforhire.com that smashes the gas and doesn't let up
www.emilybynight.com/p/the-idiots...
one of the greatest disaster stories of our time!
New on The Ick: a story from @joetforhire.com that smashes the gas and doesn't let up
www.emilybynight.com/p/the-idiots...
Why do you hate the word "moist"? why do wet sounds like teeth-sucking, slurping, and swallowing evoke a sense of disgust and rage?
@jakee.bsky.social explains in dazzling detail on The Ick...
emilybynight.substack.com/p/the-moist-...
@jakee.bsky.social explains in dazzling detail on The Ick...
emilybynight.substack.com/p/the-moist-...
The 'Moist' Mind Virus: Why We Hate Wet Sounds
On misophonia and socially transmitted disgust
emilybynight.substack.com
July 13, 2025 at 8:41 PM
Why do you hate the word "moist"? why do wet sounds like teeth-sucking, slurping, and swallowing evoke a sense of disgust and rage?
@jakee.bsky.social explains in dazzling detail on The Ick...
emilybynight.substack.com/p/the-moist-...
@jakee.bsky.social explains in dazzling detail on The Ick...
emilybynight.substack.com/p/the-moist-...
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I lived at an anarchist commune for 3 years and learned a lot about “going viral”. Here's a story in three plagues.
Read my new piece in The Ick:
open.substack.com/pub/emilybyn...
Read my new piece in The Ick:
open.substack.com/pub/emilybyn...
The Politics of Contagion
Dispatches from the immune system of a failed utopia
open.substack.com
July 2, 2025 at 3:34 PM
I lived at an anarchist commune for 3 years and learned a lot about “going viral”. Here's a story in three plagues.
Read my new piece in The Ick:
open.substack.com/pub/emilybyn...
Read my new piece in The Ick:
open.substack.com/pub/emilybyn...
Is "the ick" real? @etirabys.bsky.social investigated and found that women's icks fall into 3 main categories:
1. Raw fitness icks
- manual dexterity, tool use (e.g. rolling dice off table, running into screen door)
- cognitive inability (e.g. bad at spelling)
1. Raw fitness icks
- manual dexterity, tool use (e.g. rolling dice off table, running into screen door)
- cognitive inability (e.g. bad at spelling)
June 18, 2025 at 3:42 PM
Is "the ick" real? @etirabys.bsky.social investigated and found that women's icks fall into 3 main categories:
1. Raw fitness icks
- manual dexterity, tool use (e.g. rolling dice off table, running into screen door)
- cognitive inability (e.g. bad at spelling)
1. Raw fitness icks
- manual dexterity, tool use (e.g. rolling dice off table, running into screen door)
- cognitive inability (e.g. bad at spelling)
Why do men's feelings about motherhood often feel so idealistic and rigid? Why do they thought police the image of motherhood? what's going on? are men ok?
Season 4 of The Ick kicks off today with an absolute banger from
@eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev -> www.emilybynight.com/p/men-want-t...
Season 4 of The Ick kicks off today with an absolute banger from
@eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev -> www.emilybynight.com/p/men-want-t...
Men Want to Be Sons, Not Parents
Your assumptions about motherhood give me the ick
www.emilybynight.com
June 11, 2025 at 5:17 PM
Why do men's feelings about motherhood often feel so idealistic and rigid? Why do they thought police the image of motherhood? what's going on? are men ok?
Season 4 of The Ick kicks off today with an absolute banger from
@eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev -> www.emilybynight.com/p/men-want-t...
Season 4 of The Ick kicks off today with an absolute banger from
@eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev -> www.emilybynight.com/p/men-want-t...
my non-gardener friends never ask about my bone meal or NKP ratio - like do you even care about me
June 6, 2025 at 4:27 PM
my non-gardener friends never ask about my bone meal or NKP ratio - like do you even care about me
Thrilled to announce Season 4 of The Ick, featuring writing from @eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev, @jakee.bsky.social, @lydialaurenson.bsky.social, @ninatummyache.bsky.social, @deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com + more surprise guests TBA!
June 4, 2025 at 8:28 PM
Thrilled to announce Season 4 of The Ick, featuring writing from @eurydicelives.blogsky.venki.dev, @jakee.bsky.social, @lydialaurenson.bsky.social, @ninatummyache.bsky.social, @deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com.deepfates.com + more surprise guests TBA!
starting a burlesque career in my late 30s, you can just do things
May 21, 2025 at 6:13 PM
starting a burlesque career in my late 30s, you can just do things
do you put your elbows on the table, heathen? www.emilybynight.com/p/why-no-elb...
Why No Elbows on the Table?
History of a not-so-arbitrary rule, plus updated guidance
www.emilybynight.com
February 6, 2025 at 2:39 AM
do you put your elbows on the table, heathen? www.emilybynight.com/p/why-no-elb...
Compliments you should give to strangers:
Specific ✅ “Your tie and vest are so well-coordinated.”
Related to taste/style ✅ “That book is my favorite—great choice.”
No strings attached ✅ "You have such a warm smile!" said as you pass walking the opposite direction
Specific ✅ “Your tie and vest are so well-coordinated.”
Related to taste/style ✅ “That book is my favorite—great choice.”
No strings attached ✅ "You have such a warm smile!" said as you pass walking the opposite direction
December 11, 2024 at 7:49 PM
Compliments you should give to strangers:
Specific ✅ “Your tie and vest are so well-coordinated.”
Related to taste/style ✅ “That book is my favorite—great choice.”
No strings attached ✅ "You have such a warm smile!" said as you pass walking the opposite direction
Specific ✅ “Your tie and vest are so well-coordinated.”
Related to taste/style ✅ “That book is my favorite—great choice.”
No strings attached ✅ "You have such a warm smile!" said as you pass walking the opposite direction
We have tiny rocks (otoliths) in our inner ear canals that perceive acceleration and gravity
They're literally rolling around in our heads helping us understand where the ground is!!
They're literally rolling around in our heads helping us understand where the ground is!!
December 10, 2024 at 12:06 AM
We have tiny rocks (otoliths) in our inner ear canals that perceive acceleration and gravity
They're literally rolling around in our heads helping us understand where the ground is!!
They're literally rolling around in our heads helping us understand where the ground is!!
Can you ghost someone while also respecting their dignity?
Here's my take: emilybynight.substack.com/p/how-to-ghost
Here's my take: emilybynight.substack.com/p/how-to-ghost
How to Ghost
The modern break-up protocol
emilybynight.substack.com
December 4, 2024 at 6:16 PM
Can you ghost someone while also respecting their dignity?
Here's my take: emilybynight.substack.com/p/how-to-ghost
Here's my take: emilybynight.substack.com/p/how-to-ghost
I learned recently about the 5 dimensions of curiosity. It's a really interesting constellation of behaviors, not just the flat trait of "high openness" ->
November 26, 2024 at 11:34 PM
I learned recently about the 5 dimensions of curiosity. It's a really interesting constellation of behaviors, not just the flat trait of "high openness" ->
My current beat: the intersection of AI and taste. Really fascinating insights came out this past week, here's what I've been reading:
November 25, 2024 at 4:39 PM
My current beat: the intersection of AI and taste. Really fascinating insights came out this past week, here's what I've been reading:
Think you're "not good" at conversation? 4 findings from psychology studies you should know about:
1. "liking gap" illusion: most people are liked more than they know
2. we reliably *over* estimate the awkwardness & *under* estimate the happiness we'll feel after deep conversations w strangers
1. "liking gap" illusion: most people are liked more than they know
2. we reliably *over* estimate the awkwardness & *under* estimate the happiness we'll feel after deep conversations w strangers
November 22, 2024 at 6:31 PM
Think you're "not good" at conversation? 4 findings from psychology studies you should know about:
1. "liking gap" illusion: most people are liked more than they know
2. we reliably *over* estimate the awkwardness & *under* estimate the happiness we'll feel after deep conversations w strangers
1. "liking gap" illusion: most people are liked more than they know
2. we reliably *over* estimate the awkwardness & *under* estimate the happiness we'll feel after deep conversations w strangers
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me, an apex predator, wearing a little raincoat? so humiliating
November 20, 2024 at 7:32 PM
me, an apex predator, wearing a little raincoat? so humiliating
Conversation advice from Emily Post:
"The joy of joys is the person of light but unmalicious humor"
"but the man who has been led to believe that he is a brilliant and interesting talker has been led to make himself a rapacious pest"
"The joy of joys is the person of light but unmalicious humor"
"but the man who has been led to believe that he is a brilliant and interesting talker has been led to make himself a rapacious pest"
November 17, 2024 at 7:51 PM
Conversation advice from Emily Post:
"The joy of joys is the person of light but unmalicious humor"
"but the man who has been led to believe that he is a brilliant and interesting talker has been led to make himself a rapacious pest"
"The joy of joys is the person of light but unmalicious humor"
"but the man who has been led to believe that he is a brilliant and interesting talker has been led to make himself a rapacious pest"
Reposted by Emily
This is very interesting, about the gaps we leave (or don't) when in conversation, and how that's a whole cultural thing, with big differences from one place to the next.
Starting a new season about hidden social rules, starting with how to be better at conversation. Check it out:
emilybynight.substack.com/p/how-to-be-...
emilybynight.substack.com/p/how-to-be-...
November 16, 2024 at 7:53 PM
This is very interesting, about the gaps we leave (or don't) when in conversation, and how that's a whole cultural thing, with big differences from one place to the next.
tbh I would pay way more than a dollar and a half to go to the tree museum
November 16, 2024 at 6:21 PM
tbh I would pay way more than a dollar and a half to go to the tree museum
If you're talking to someone who is loud, interrupts you, and never asks you questions - are they the asshole?
Not necessarily. They were likely raised in an "interrupt" and "declarative" linguistic culture.
Had a lot of fun researching and mapping different conversation styles for this article->
Not necessarily. They were likely raised in an "interrupt" and "declarative" linguistic culture.
Had a lot of fun researching and mapping different conversation styles for this article->
November 14, 2024 at 5:05 AM
If you're talking to someone who is loud, interrupts you, and never asks you questions - are they the asshole?
Not necessarily. They were likely raised in an "interrupt" and "declarative" linguistic culture.
Had a lot of fun researching and mapping different conversation styles for this article->
Not necessarily. They were likely raised in an "interrupt" and "declarative" linguistic culture.
Had a lot of fun researching and mapping different conversation styles for this article->