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We're Sonay, James and Sylvie. Sonay is an AuDHD coach, lawyer, and professional speaker, whilst James is a techie and part-time geology student. Sylvie is a dog. Dedicated to raising awareness and providing support for the neurodivergent community.

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Jan 19

Social media and podcast links:

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Apple Music: podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/d...

Blog:
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Divergently Married

Podcast · James Carter & Sonay Erten · Join Sonay and James as they invite us into their unique world as an autistic and ADHD married couple. Using their lived experiences of ADHD and autism, they tal...

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Mothin Ali @mothinali.bsky.social · 13d

All the different shades, all the races, all the religions, all the cultures added together, mixed in a melting pot, to make this beautiful land, even more beautiful! This is what makes me proud to be British!

Zack Polanski @zackpolanski.bsky.social · 13d

British.

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · 11d

I see the chancellor is having another crack at making disabled people's lives worse again.

Why should we have to pay for their financial mismanagement?

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/poli...

Reeves plots £1bn cut to Motability scheme for disability benefit claimants cars

The scheme provides cars and tax breaks to more than 800,000 users

www.independent.co.uk

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Sonay Erten @sonay27.bsky.social · 11d

Had a great time attending Bromley Disability Pride this afternoon - a lovely afternoon of poems, songs, dances (including one where I joined in!) and an allotment talk.

Also got to meet the Mayor of Bromley (a fellow neurodivergent lawyer) and chat about neurodiversity and disability inclusion.

Two people standing indoors against a green wall. The person on the left is wearing a green coat over a black outfit and white trainers. The person on the right is wearing ceremonial red and black robes with a white lace collar and a gold chain of office. Both are smiling at the camera.

A woman wearing a green coat and black top stands smiling in front of a banner for “Bromley Experts by Experience,” a Deaf and Disabled People’s Organisation. The banner lists types of disabilities and lived experiences supported, and there is a table in front with plates of apples and various packets of crisps

A group of people are dancing inside a hall with green walls and a wooden floor. Several people wear matching light blue hoodies, while others wear casual clothes including a pink top and black dungarees, and a green hoodie

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · 17d

Happy 2nd birthday to the hairiest member of our team, Sylvie!

Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · 19d

We here at Divergently Being support #WorldMentalHealthDay 2025 and would encourage anyone who needs help to reach out, and for the rest of us to help and #BeKind.

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · 23d

We will be talking about this in our next episode.

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wolfstirfry @wolfstirfry.bsky.social · 23d

Just watched this, and it really is enraging how much of a non-answer the government gave on improving #SEND provision for #Neurodivergent children. Absolutely infuriating. My wife and I are both #AuDHD with a baby on the way, and I worry what it will be like for us.

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Sep 24

So the Orange Wrecking Ball (thanks @scaramucci.bsky.social) says #Paracetamol causes #Autism.

The MHRA, NICE, NHS, and anyone with a functioning brain says otherwise.

We all know what causes autism. #Autistic parents.

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Sep 17

We've got a new episode up! It's been a while again, but when there's a baby on the way, and everything else, well, we try our best. In the meantime though...

Listen here on Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/4RF9...

#AuDHD #Podcast #NewEpisode #DivergentlyMarried

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Sep 16

Two years to the day since our first podcast episode!

The time flies by. For now, we're just working on our next episode which will be out soon!

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wolfstirfry @wolfstirfry.bsky.social · Sep 12

Absolute nonsense these new rules.

www.bbc.com/news/article...

Not ND-friendly in the slightest.

New Lowestoft school rules are overly strict, says parent

The rules around classroom behaviour include a countdown from three to one.

www.bbc.com

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Jul 31

We've got a new episode up! Sorry it's been a while, life got in the way a lot, but in this episode, we sort of explain why.

Listen here on Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/5Ga8...

#AuDHD #Podcast #NewEpisode #DivergentlyMarried

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Jun 21

Sorry it's been a while, life sort of took over. Have a listen to our latest episode as to why...

open.spotify.com/episode/0QBj...

We have an announcement - huge, the biggest!

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Jun 16

New episode coming soon!

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Jun 2

"News article headline reads: 'Chris Packham says autism does not need a cure: ‘We are not broken’.' Subheading explains that Packham opposes curing autism, responding to US Health Secretary RFK Jr’s pledge to find its causes. The article is by Lauren Del Fabbro, published May 12 and updated May 13. Below is a photo of Chris Packham wearing a camouflage jacket, bright red zip-up top, and colourful checked scarf, standing in front of a blurred architectural background."

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · May 26

Watching Walking with Dinosaurs. Interrupted by the dog growling at the carcharodontosaurus.

#gooddog

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · May 15

NEW EPISODE!
RFK Jr’s terrifying autism registry plans, Amnesty exposes DWP cruelty, RSD when others are hurt, and finding small joys (like rhubarb!) in tough times.

🎧 Listen now: open.spotify.com/episode/4NfE...

#Podcast #ADHD #Autism #DisabilityJustice

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · May 2

A bright yellow road sign with the text “No eye contact at any time.” The image humorously represents a common autistic or neurodivergent experience of discomfort with eye contact.

Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · May 2

📹 Trusting Intuition: When to Dislike Someone
In this reel from the latest episode, we talk about that gut feeling — and how neurodivergent folks often spot things others miss.
🎧 Listen on Spotify: buff.ly/RConpYX
#Intuition #NeurodivergentWisdom #TrustYourself #DivergentlyBeing

Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · May 1

Two people stand in a music performance setting. The person in the foreground smiles and is captioned, “me thinking it’s normal to Listen on Spotify to the same song 272 times.” Behind them stands a shadowy figure with a mask labelled “autism,” suggesting the behaviour is connected to autistic traits like repetition and routine.

Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · May 1

📹 Sonay’s PIP Update
This clip from the episode shares Sonay’s personal PIP journey.
🎧 Listen on Spotify: buff.ly/RConpYX
#PersonalIndependencePayment #DisabilitySupport #ADHDAwareness #DivergentlyBeing

Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Apr 30

A chaotic battle scene inspired by the video game DOOM. A powerful armored character labelled “HIGH MASKING AUTISM” fights off many enemies, each labelled with life tasks like “Managing depression,” “Household chores,” “Being a loving, supportive parent,” “40h workweek,” “Personal hygiene,” “Managing family budget,” and “Maintaining relationships.” The image shows the effort required to function while masking.

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Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Apr 30

📹 MP’s Disappointing Response
In this reel from our latest episode, we talk the disheartening reply to Sonay's email about the upcoming benefit changes, and what it reflects.
🎧 Listen on Spotify: buff.ly/RConpYX
#PIP #DisabilityRights #NeurodivergentVoices #DivergentlyBeing

Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Apr 29

A quote graphic with a pastel yellow and teal background. The quote reads: “The diagnosis isn’t the end – it’s the missing piece that helps us thrive, not just survive.” Hashtags: #DiagnosisJourney #SelfDiscovery

Divergently Married @divergentlymarried.bsky.social · Apr 29

Two cartoon characters stand in front of tall platforms with ladders. The left character is labelled “Allistic” and has a full ladder, making it easy to climb. The right character is labelled “Autistic” and has only a partial ladder, making it impossible to climb. The allistic character says, “Don’t be lazy, just do it,” highlighting the lack of understanding of different challenges.

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