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The revised and updated edition of our perennial classic, the Debrett’s Guide for the Modern Gentleman, is out today!
Purchase your copy today! And ensure that you are well-equipped to cut a gentlemanly, and thoroughly modern, dash.
#debrettsmoderngent #gentleman #manners
Purchase your copy today! And ensure that you are well-equipped to cut a gentlemanly, and thoroughly modern, dash.
#debrettsmoderngent #gentleman #manners
Do you still write thank you letters? Liz Wyse, editor of Debrett's Handbook, A-Z of Modern Manners and Guide for the Modern Gentleman (all available from our online store) spoke to @telegraphnews.bsky.social about how to write the perfect thank you letter (link in comments).
#thankyou #manners
#thankyou #manners
June 4, 2025 at 8:24 AM
Do you still write thank you letters? Liz Wyse, editor of Debrett's Handbook, A-Z of Modern Manners and Guide for the Modern Gentleman (all available from our online store) spoke to @telegraphnews.bsky.social about how to write the perfect thank you letter (link in comments).
#thankyou #manners
#thankyou #manners
British polite-ism #6
"As per my last email"
The universal cry of the person who has been ignored or overlooked and means “I already told you this”, with a clear frustrated subtext of “Have you even bothered to read what I said?”
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️)
#British #polite
"As per my last email"
The universal cry of the person who has been ignored or overlooked and means “I already told you this”, with a clear frustrated subtext of “Have you even bothered to read what I said?”
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️)
#British #polite
May 27, 2025 at 1:14 PM
British polite-ism #5
"With all due respect"
A great weapon used in arguments, which means “You’re completely wrong” and implies “I’m now going to tell you why.” This phrase is often wielded when respect for each other’s view is in short supply.
Read more in our blog (link ⤵️)
"With all due respect"
A great weapon used in arguments, which means “You’re completely wrong” and implies “I’m now going to tell you why.” This phrase is often wielded when respect for each other’s view is in short supply.
Read more in our blog (link ⤵️)
May 27, 2025 at 1:11 PM
British polite-ism #5
"With all due respect"
A great weapon used in arguments, which means “You’re completely wrong” and implies “I’m now going to tell you why.” This phrase is often wielded when respect for each other’s view is in short supply.
Read more in our blog (link ⤵️)
"With all due respect"
A great weapon used in arguments, which means “You’re completely wrong” and implies “I’m now going to tell you why.” This phrase is often wielded when respect for each other’s view is in short supply.
Read more in our blog (link ⤵️)
British polite-ism #4
"No rush, when you have a minute"
Translates as “Please hurry up” but carries a distinct undertone of “Haven’t you noticed that you’re keeping me waiting?”
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️)
#British #polite #passiveaggressive #debrettsblog
"No rush, when you have a minute"
Translates as “Please hurry up” but carries a distinct undertone of “Haven’t you noticed that you’re keeping me waiting?”
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️)
#British #polite #passiveaggressive #debrettsblog
May 27, 2025 at 11:36 AM
British polite-ism #4
"No rush, when you have a minute"
Translates as “Please hurry up” but carries a distinct undertone of “Haven’t you noticed that you’re keeping me waiting?”
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️)
#British #polite #passiveaggressive #debrettsblog
"No rush, when you have a minute"
Translates as “Please hurry up” but carries a distinct undertone of “Haven’t you noticed that you’re keeping me waiting?”
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️)
#British #polite #passiveaggressive #debrettsblog
British polite-ism #3
"Sorry, I’m a bit busy right now!"
A phrase that screams “Leave me alone!/Go away and leave me in peace!”
Read more in our lates blog (link ⤵️)
#British #polite #debrettsblog
"Sorry, I’m a bit busy right now!"
A phrase that screams “Leave me alone!/Go away and leave me in peace!”
Read more in our lates blog (link ⤵️)
#British #polite #debrettsblog
May 27, 2025 at 11:33 AM
British polite-ism #3
"Sorry, I’m a bit busy right now!"
A phrase that screams “Leave me alone!/Go away and leave me in peace!”
Read more in our lates blog (link ⤵️)
#British #polite #debrettsblog
"Sorry, I’m a bit busy right now!"
A phrase that screams “Leave me alone!/Go away and leave me in peace!”
Read more in our lates blog (link ⤵️)
#British #polite #debrettsblog
British polite-ism #2
“Sounds fun, I’ll let you know”
Means “I’m not coming” but also carries a distinct whiff of “and please leave me alone”.
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️).
#British #polite #passiveagressive #Debrettsblog
“Sounds fun, I’ll let you know”
Means “I’m not coming” but also carries a distinct whiff of “and please leave me alone”.
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️).
#British #polite #passiveagressive #Debrettsblog
May 27, 2025 at 9:50 AM
British polite-ism #2
“Sounds fun, I’ll let you know”
Means “I’m not coming” but also carries a distinct whiff of “and please leave me alone”.
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️).
#British #polite #passiveagressive #Debrettsblog
“Sounds fun, I’ll let you know”
Means “I’m not coming” but also carries a distinct whiff of “and please leave me alone”.
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️).
#British #polite #passiveagressive #Debrettsblog
British polite-ism #1
"I beg your pardon?”
Perhaps one of the most direct polite-isms, it generally means “I’m furious/What are you trying to say?/Did I hear you right?”. With the emphasis on ‘beg’, it is an unusually clear indication of annoyance.
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️)
"I beg your pardon?”
Perhaps one of the most direct polite-isms, it generally means “I’m furious/What are you trying to say?/Did I hear you right?”. With the emphasis on ‘beg’, it is an unusually clear indication of annoyance.
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️)
May 27, 2025 at 9:46 AM
British polite-ism #1
"I beg your pardon?”
Perhaps one of the most direct polite-isms, it generally means “I’m furious/What are you trying to say?/Did I hear you right?”. With the emphasis on ‘beg’, it is an unusually clear indication of annoyance.
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️)
"I beg your pardon?”
Perhaps one of the most direct polite-isms, it generally means “I’m furious/What are you trying to say?/Did I hear you right?”. With the emphasis on ‘beg’, it is an unusually clear indication of annoyance.
Read more in our latest blog (link ⤵️)
Do you have your copy of our Guide for the Modern Gentleman yet?
Chapter 3, At Home, provides tips on how to make a statement with furniture and interior design, as well as expert knowledge on sleepwear; books, plays and poetry to impress; and the ultimate record collection.
#interiordesign
Chapter 3, At Home, provides tips on how to make a statement with furniture and interior design, as well as expert knowledge on sleepwear; books, plays and poetry to impress; and the ultimate record collection.
#interiordesign
May 23, 2025 at 10:35 AM
Do you have your copy of our Guide for the Modern Gentleman yet?
Chapter 3, At Home, provides tips on how to make a statement with furniture and interior design, as well as expert knowledge on sleepwear; books, plays and poetry to impress; and the ultimate record collection.
#interiordesign
Chapter 3, At Home, provides tips on how to make a statement with furniture and interior design, as well as expert knowledge on sleepwear; books, plays and poetry to impress; and the ultimate record collection.
#interiordesign
Tea should be poured into the cup first and any milk, lemon or honey added afterwards. In Victorian times hot tea was poured straight into the cup to test the quality of the bone china. Expensive china did not crack.
#InternationalTeaDay #tea
#InternationalTeaDay #tea
May 21, 2025 at 6:50 PM
Tea should be poured into the cup first and any milk, lemon or honey added afterwards. In Victorian times hot tea was poured straight into the cup to test the quality of the bone china. Expensive china did not crack.
#InternationalTeaDay #tea
#InternationalTeaDay #tea
If serving tea for a group, it is worth brewing a pot. Loose leaf tea will taste best but will need to be poured through a tea strainer. A second pot with hot water in it should be provided to dilute over-brewed tea if necessary.
#InternationalTeaDay #tea #etiquette
#InternationalTeaDay #tea #etiquette
May 21, 2025 at 6:48 PM
If serving tea for a group, it is worth brewing a pot. Loose leaf tea will taste best but will need to be poured through a tea strainer. A second pot with hot water in it should be provided to dilute over-brewed tea if necessary.
#InternationalTeaDay #tea #etiquette
#InternationalTeaDay #tea #etiquette
The British pub is a world-famous institution, and one that has its own unique rules of etiquette and behaviour. If a group of you are drinking together, it is usual for people to take it in turns to buy a round for the entire group.
#britishpub #manners #gentleman #debrettsmoderngent
#britishpub #manners #gentleman #debrettsmoderngent
May 14, 2025 at 9:10 AM
The British pub is a world-famous institution, and one that has its own unique rules of etiquette and behaviour. If a group of you are drinking together, it is usual for people to take it in turns to buy a round for the entire group.
#britishpub #manners #gentleman #debrettsmoderngent
#britishpub #manners #gentleman #debrettsmoderngent
It's World Cocktail Day! Our updated and revised Guide for the Modern Gentleman features everything you need to know about glassware and cocktail equipment, timeless cocktail recipes to try and 10 Cocktail Rules. Order now from our website.
#worldcocktailday #gentleman #DebrettsModernGent
#worldcocktailday #gentleman #DebrettsModernGent
May 13, 2025 at 1:27 PM
It's World Cocktail Day! Our updated and revised Guide for the Modern Gentleman features everything you need to know about glassware and cocktail equipment, timeless cocktail recipes to try and 10 Cocktail Rules. Order now from our website.
#worldcocktailday #gentleman #DebrettsModernGent
#worldcocktailday #gentleman #DebrettsModernGent
We've got a text! But should we reply to it at work?
#mobilephones #modernmanners #texting #professionalism #debrettsblog
#mobilephones #modernmanners #texting #professionalism #debrettsblog
May 12, 2025 at 11:10 AM
We've got a text! But should we reply to it at work?
#mobilephones #modernmanners #texting #professionalism #debrettsblog
#mobilephones #modernmanners #texting #professionalism #debrettsblog
Saying ‘thank you’ is an essential pillar of good manners. It is a fundamental act of recognition and acknowledgement, which shows our appreciation for any act of civility or generosity and has a powerful, positive impact on all social interactions.
#thankyou #manners #gratitude #debrettsblog
#thankyou #manners #gratitude #debrettsblog
May 9, 2025 at 10:59 AM
Saying ‘thank you’ is an essential pillar of good manners. It is a fundamental act of recognition and acknowledgement, which shows our appreciation for any act of civility or generosity and has a powerful, positive impact on all social interactions.
#thankyou #manners #gratitude #debrettsblog
#thankyou #manners #gratitude #debrettsblog
savoir-faire: the ability to act or speak appropriately in any social situation. It isn’t about following arcane or courtly rules of behaviour, but simply about being observant of the people around you and showing consideration.
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent
May 8, 2025 at 8:00 AM
savoir-faire: the ability to act or speak appropriately in any social situation. It isn’t about following arcane or courtly rules of behaviour, but simply about being observant of the people around you and showing consideration.
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent
The At Home chapter in our new and update Guide for the Modern Gentleman features our list of the Ultimate Record Collection - the albums that every modern gentleman must own. What would be on your list?
#debrettsmoderngent #music #albums #ultimaterecordcollection
#debrettsmoderngent #music #albums #ultimaterecordcollection
May 7, 2025 at 8:21 AM
The At Home chapter in our new and update Guide for the Modern Gentleman features our list of the Ultimate Record Collection - the albums that every modern gentleman must own. What would be on your list?
#debrettsmoderngent #music #albums #ultimaterecordcollection
#debrettsmoderngent #music #albums #ultimaterecordcollection
The revised and updated edition of our perennial classic, the Debrett’s Guide for the Modern Gentleman, is out today!
Purchase your copy today! And ensure that you are well-equipped to cut a gentlemanly, and thoroughly modern, dash.
#debrettsmoderngent #gentleman #manners
Purchase your copy today! And ensure that you are well-equipped to cut a gentlemanly, and thoroughly modern, dash.
#debrettsmoderngent #gentleman #manners
May 1, 2025 at 10:34 AM
The revised and updated edition of our perennial classic, the Debrett’s Guide for the Modern Gentleman, is out today!
Purchase your copy today! And ensure that you are well-equipped to cut a gentlemanly, and thoroughly modern, dash.
#debrettsmoderngent #gentleman #manners
Purchase your copy today! And ensure that you are well-equipped to cut a gentlemanly, and thoroughly modern, dash.
#debrettsmoderngent #gentleman #manners
Our essential handbook, Debrett's Guide for the Modern Gentleman, comes out TOMORROW! Place your order today via our website to take advantage of a £5 pre-release discount.
#debrettsmoderngent #gentleman #manners #guideforthemoderngentleman #modernmanners #discount
#debrettsmoderngent #gentleman #manners #guideforthemoderngentleman #modernmanners #discount
April 30, 2025 at 9:16 AM
Our essential handbook, Debrett's Guide for the Modern Gentleman, comes out TOMORROW! Place your order today via our website to take advantage of a £5 pre-release discount.
#debrettsmoderngent #gentleman #manners #guideforthemoderngentleman #modernmanners #discount
#debrettsmoderngent #gentleman #manners #guideforthemoderngentleman #modernmanners #discount
Traditionally men stood up when women came into the room, and younger people stood up for their elders. A courteous acknowledgement of the new arrival, nowadays it is considerate to stand up regardless of age and gender.
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #manners
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #manners
April 28, 2025 at 8:21 AM
Traditionally men stood up when women came into the room, and younger people stood up for their elders. A courteous acknowledgement of the new arrival, nowadays it is considerate to stand up regardless of age and gender.
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #manners
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #manners
What are your views on inviting plus ones to weddings? In our latest blog, we come up with some suggestions for conveying your wishes without alienating friends and family (link ⤵️).
#weddings #weddinginvitations #plusone #weddingguests #debrettsblog #debrettsweddings
#weddings #weddinginvitations #plusone #weddingguests #debrettsblog #debrettsweddings
April 24, 2025 at 10:50 AM
What are your views on inviting plus ones to weddings? In our latest blog, we come up with some suggestions for conveying your wishes without alienating friends and family (link ⤵️).
#weddings #weddinginvitations #plusone #weddingguests #debrettsblog #debrettsweddings
#weddings #weddinginvitations #plusone #weddingguests #debrettsblog #debrettsweddings
Expert tip: The sign of a good champagne is a consistent stream of small bubbles that create a light froth around the edge of the surface. This is called the ‘mousse’.
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #champagne #bubbly
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #champagne #bubbly
April 24, 2025 at 10:07 AM
Expert tip: The sign of a good champagne is a consistent stream of small bubbles that create a light froth around the edge of the surface. This is called the ‘mousse’.
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #champagne #bubbly
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #champagne #bubbly
Happy birthday, Shakespeare.
We love these insults from Shakespeare's works, which are featured in the culture section of our new Guide for the Modern Gentleman. Which is your favourite? Do you know any others?
#shakespeare #guideforthemoderngentleman #debrettsmoderngent
We love these insults from Shakespeare's works, which are featured in the culture section of our new Guide for the Modern Gentleman. Which is your favourite? Do you know any others?
#shakespeare #guideforthemoderngentleman #debrettsmoderngent
April 23, 2025 at 2:59 PM
Happy birthday, Shakespeare.
We love these insults from Shakespeare's works, which are featured in the culture section of our new Guide for the Modern Gentleman. Which is your favourite? Do you know any others?
#shakespeare #guideforthemoderngentleman #debrettsmoderngent
We love these insults from Shakespeare's works, which are featured in the culture section of our new Guide for the Modern Gentleman. Which is your favourite? Do you know any others?
#shakespeare #guideforthemoderngentleman #debrettsmoderngent
#travellingetiquette Be complimentary to local residents about the beauty of their city or countryside. Asking advice about local food and expressing delight about local customs are good ways of showing the positive face of tourism.
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent
April 23, 2025 at 9:18 AM
#travellingetiquette Be complimentary to local residents about the beauty of their city or countryside. Asking advice about local food and expressing delight about local customs are good ways of showing the positive face of tourism.
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent
In a world where many of us are swamped by digital communications, a tendency simply not to reply is becoming more normal. Ghosting other people has become the default for many people. What is to be done? Read our thoughts in our latest blog (link in comments).
#ghosting #manners
#ghosting #manners
April 22, 2025 at 11:53 AM
#travellingetiquette Take the trouble to learn a few phrases in the local language – you should certainly learn basics like ‘Good morning’, ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. It will demonstrate your willingness to respect local life and culture.
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #travelling
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #travelling
April 22, 2025 at 11:06 AM
#travellingetiquette Take the trouble to learn a few phrases in the local language – you should certainly learn basics like ‘Good morning’, ‘please’ and ‘thank you’. It will demonstrate your willingness to respect local life and culture.
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #travelling
#GuidefortheModernGentleman #DebrettsModernGent #travelling