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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · 4d

For queer leaders and change-makers, moral relativism is not moral compromise, it’s moral maturity.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · 5d

“To know that you do not know is highest. To not know but think you know is flawed.”

For queer leaders and change-makers, moral relativism is not moral compromise, it’s moral maturity.

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Can We Be Moral Without Being Certain?

Exploring how moral relativism invites deeper reflection, ethical dialogue, and human connection.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · 9d

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · 11d

How Do You Choose to Lead a Moral Life?

What the Tao Te Ching and queer leadership teach about leading with conviction in a world that prefers conformity.

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How Do You Choose to Lead a Moral Life?

What the Tao Te Ching and queer leadership teach about leading with conviction in a world that prefers conformity.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · 16d

Are you making this mistake in your leadership?

Without it, you have no integrity.

Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · 18d

May I Ask You for a Favour? Help Me Shape My New Book for LGBTQ+ Leaders.

I’m collecting real questions from real queer leaders before I start writing—will you share yours?

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May I Ask You for a Favour? Help Me Shape My New Book for LGBTQ+ Leaders.

I’m collecting real questions from real queer leaders before I start writing—will you share yours?

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · 19d

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The REAL Truth Behind Gaza Ceasefire

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · 22d

What does it really mean to accommodate others, not as a service or an act of compliance, but as a practice of respect and human dignity?

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Accommodation Is Not Compromise — It’s Leadership

Rethinking inclusion, language, and the quiet power of human-hearted leadership.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · 29d

Standing up for what's right and trying to make a difference can be HARD!

So what CAN you DO?

DM if you want to strategize how you can make a difference as a queer leader.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 29

Leadership isn’t about control—it’s about the quiet force of how you show up every single day.

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Queer Momentum @momentumcanada.net · Sep 24

Alongside 175+ organizations across Canada, including leading 2SLGBTQIA+ organizations like @egalecanada.bsky.social, @fiertecappride.bsky.social, Pride at Work Canada, Enchanté Network & Dignity Network Canada, we are sounding the alarm about potential cuts to Women & Gender Equality Canada (WAGE)

Navy blue text against a white background reads: Over 175 2SLGBTQIA+ and allied organizations call on Prime Minister Carney to maintain funding for 2SLGBTQIA+ equality and women's rights in the 2025 federal budget.

The logos of Dignity Network Canada, Egale, Enchante Network, Fierte Canada Pride, Queer Momentum, and Pride at Work Canada are also shown.

At the bottom, white text against a blue background reads: "Read more and add your voice: MomentumCanada.net/Budget"

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 19

Leadership is about how you act, behave, and show up in the world with integrity—not a specific role or job title.

I’m curious:

Agree or disagree?

Share your reasoning in the comments.

Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 19

Instead, leadership is about the values you embody, how you lead yourself, and the heartfelt mission you are pursuing to make a difference.

Whether that’s behind the scenes or in public, what matters is your conviction.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 19

Here’s how I define leadership.

Leadership is a broad scope of meaningful actions that can’t be dogmatically defined.

To lead and to be a leader doesn’t mean you must manage or supervise people—nor does it require you to stand for a specific cause in the public eye.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 17

How Blame Erodes Connection and Trust, While Responsibility Strengthens It: Rethinking blame and personal responsibility in leadership and life—Part 2. open.substack.com/pub/darrenst...

How Blame Erodes Connection and Trust, While Responsibility Strengthens It

Rethinking blame and personal responsibility in leadership and life—Part 2.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 15

What's the ONLY thing that will make a real difference? (It's not what you think.)

Do you agree with me? Yes or no?

Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 13

Blame is backward-facing. It assigns fault for something that’s already happened, involves judgment, shame, and punishment. It focuses on who caused the problem, who’s “at fault,” and leads to defensiveness or avoidance rather than growth or understanding.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 12

When the Shit Hits the Fan, Do you Blame Others or Take Personal Responsibility?
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When the Shit Hits the Fan, Do you Blame Others or Take Personal Responsibility?

Rethinking blame and personal responsibility in leadership and life.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 10

When your mind is preoccupied — chasing that elusive needle in the haystack — you’re taken out of the moment. And if you don’t feel well, you can’t lead well.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 8

Where morning routines get really messed up is when people insist, “You have to wake at 4am, splash your face with a tonic, take apple cider vinegar, go for a run — follow my template or you’ll never accomplish anything.”

Nonsense!

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 8

What's Your Needle in a Haystack?
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What's Your Needle in a Haystack?

On hidden obstacles, subtle refinements, and the ripple effect of well-being in leadership.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 6

If you’re a queer-identified leader or a 2SLGBTQIA+ advocate who’s asking, Why does my leadership still feel unfocused, inconsistent, or uncertain?, I have something to support you in the getting clarity, direction, and peace of mind you need and deserve.
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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 5

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Join my new subscriber chat

A private space for us to converse and connect

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 2

Do your work, then step back: the only path to serenity.

The challenge as a leader is knowing when enough is enough.

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Darren Stehle | Queer Leadership Coach @darrenstehle.bsky.social · Sep 1

In this video, I reflect on a line from the Tao Te Ching, “Do your work, then step back. The only path to serenity,” and how it speaks to queer change-leaders who feel pressured to overwork, over polish, or perfect everything.

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When Enough Is Enough: Leadership Lessons from Taoism and Lived Experience

Desire, discipline, and doing less: A DREAM framework for LGBTQ+ leaders.

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