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Mary
@batsgirl.bsky.social
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She/her. Warwickshire. Disabled mama, formerly of Ravelry, 4rthur, b3ta, Ouch, and blogger. I have a husband and a 9yo son.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · Mar 31
Steve sent me this photo of our Mother's Day pizza picnic in the park, and I love it.
A woman and a boy sit on a picnic blanket eating pizza and chips.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 18m
My husband used to work with Rat. But not in the music business. The identity revelation was:
"Doing stuff with the band this weekend."
"Oh cool, what sort of stuff you play?"
"Um..."
followed by much boggling of minds.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 5h
Surgery is a big deal. Even when it's necessary, even when life will be better afterwards, even with an excellent chance of success, even when you fully understand the risks/benefits and consciously choose to go ahead, it's not unreasonable to have feelings about being knocked out and cut into.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 7h
That...

... I. ...

... your therapist needs some damn therapy .
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 11h
Because you see, my problems aren't, like, *real* problems. I live in a house made of bricks, supplied with dependable electricity and clean running water, so I've no excuse for not taking everything in my stride.
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Kendra, regular version @kendrawcandraw.bsky.social · 1d
You can't logic your way out of being burnt out. Unless you're me. Who should be able to do it and it's a personal failing that I can't
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 1d
That's a relief in proctology but a bit unnerving when it's a psychiatrist.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 1d
God yes. And a whole bunch of similar destructive urges. Wouldn't ever *do* any of them, but sometimes it plays so clearly in my head it's almost surprising to find myself still sitting politely.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 1d
You get to bypass hospital reception, they just pop you in a wheelchair in the middle of the atrium and spin it to see which department you're off to today.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 1d
I love books, I don't like having hardbacks land on my face when I fall asleep reading...
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 2d
I can do it in 4 letters...

E H C P
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🏰meg⚔️ @Birthright Audiobook! @impavid.us · 5d
In honor of spooky month, share a 4 word horror story that only someone in your profession would understand

I'll go first: Six page commercial lease.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 3d
I am the beneficiary of my husband's life insurance; it should be sufficient to buy a small house and have him taxidermied as a novelty coat stand (his precise words).
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 3d
Reading the child's text messages is the LEAST of the problems in this shitstorm! The "moral high ground" is irrelevant, this GF is messing up the poor kid on so many fronts and it will only get worse when she hits puberty.
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Donaeld the Unready @donaeldtheunready.bsky.social · 4d
This is almost certainly because she thinks she is Lord Vetinari, which in a way is correct because she is in fact Cosmo Lavish.
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Paul Haine @paulhaine.bsky.social · 8d
Kemi Badenoch claiming Terry Pratchett as her favourite author is wild
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 4d
Steve's taken Jamie out for the afternoon, and I'm doing my best to

(a) kick myself up the arse enough to get moving and achieve basic self-care

but also

(b) rein in my motivation and force myself to Use The Opportunity To Rest instead of using the opportunity to Do Things.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 4d
Good grief. I'll buy that "every family" has that one creepy cousin when you tally up all the extended family. But I simply cannot get from there to "so SAing a 6yo is no big deal."
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 5d
Approaching Jamie's 10th birthday, and perhaps it's the exhaustion talking, but every time someone says something congratulatory to me about it, my brain just does a high-speed spool of all the many ways I've screwed up parenting over the past decade.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 5d
When you see the price of a tractor it starts to make a lot more sense.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 5d
I respect these frogs.
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The Oregonian @oregonian.com · 5d
Things are happening at Portland's ICE facility tonight.

Read more of our protest coverage here: www.oregonlive.com/crime/2025/1...
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 5d
Or 100 middle class mums at an NCT Nearly New Sale.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 6d
Packidge!!!!! 🎉
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 6d
Never mind flags, THIS is the sort of urban installation that defines what it is to be British.
Chelmsford - BBC News share.google/BRgjG2G8Aq8f...
Chelmsford tongue-in-cheek signs must end, says Essex Highways - BBC News
A council says the prank signs could "mislead residents and cause confusion".
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 6d
Ouch. Been there - two sudden house moves in two years. The rent was always paid, we never caused a problem, just landlords deciding to sell. Requests for extra time to find a new place fall on deaf ears. It sucks.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 6d
And treat it like the emergency it is. Kids fall asleep in a puppy pile during the third rewatch of Moana in a row? Fine. Breakfast is cookies? As a one off it won't hurt them. Late for school? You tell the office what happened and nobody minds.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 6d
For me it was things that didn't necessarily go together. Like, go to the loo, do 10 reps of whatever stretch. Finish a phone call, do a check-in about whether you need to hydrate. Put some ibuprofen in the breadbin so you remember to eat with it.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 6d
At my worst, I had to define certain things as "medicine". Like "between 7am and 8am I need to make sure I take my cornflakes."

Mentally tying things to other things helped, too. When X happens, Y must also happen. Potential for some weird Pavlovian responses there though.
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Mary @batsgirl.bsky.social · 6d
I get (even if I don't approve of) him panicking and going useless...

... TEMPORARILY.

But when a competent adult is right there handling half of the crisis and telling him what he needs to do, then he needs to have, frankly, enough self respect to not ask stupid questions and just get on with it.
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