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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 1d

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You do not owe it to anyone to pretend that you want something that you do not want.

Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 1d

My heart-mission is to help LGBTQIA+ folks build self-compassion, process buried emotions, & show up for themselves in ways they once thought impossible. Interested? In box me, or 1st option in my URL.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 1d

You are valid regardless of your career choices and whether they meet others' expectations.

--Ang Woon (they)
Self-Compassion Coach for LGBTQIA+, Poet, Food-Allergy Access Specialist, & Professional Speaker

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 1d

~ You are valid regardless of your desires, favorite things, & life choices. ~
5s video
Content: mental health. Captions on.

You are valid regardless of your likes and dislikes for: activities, hobbies, colors, flavors, music, fonts, aesthetics, etc.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 4d

--Ang Woon (they)
Self-Compassion Coach for LGBTQIA+, Poet, Food-Allergy Access Specialist, & Professional Speaker

My heart-mission is to help LGBTQIA+ folks build self-compassion, process buried emotions, & show up for themselves in ways they once thought impossible.

Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 4d

~ Caption these 2 photos! ~
Content: aging

Complimentary prompts for you:

What do you want to think about aging?

What do you wish more people realized about aging?

How is your experience of aging, as related to your racialization and LGBTQIA+ identity (if applicable)?

side-by-side before-and-after photos of Ang Woon, a light-skinned non-binary Chinese-American adult with straight dark-brown hair.
Left: Jan 2023 Ang: tight lined winged eye makeup, long hair, black sweater. Indoors.
Right: Nov 2023 Ang: no makeup, short hair, lavender top over bright orange strappy top. Indoors.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 5d

My heart-mission is to help LGBTQIA+ folks build self-compassion, process buried emotions, & show up for themselves in ways they once thought impossible. Interested? In box me, or 1st option in my URL.

Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 5d

~ Please enjoy this optical illusion I made! ~

If you were represented by an optical illusion (existing or one of your own invention) what would you be like, and why?

--Ang Woon (they)
Self-Compassion Coach for LGBTQIA+, Poet, Food-Allergy Access Specialist, & Professional Speaker

upside-down photo of Ang Woon, a Chinese-American adult with straight past-shoulder-length dark-brown hair, purple shirt, rectangular-framed glasses. Upside-down, it seems like Ang is smiling, but if viewed right side up, they're actually grimacing. Indoors.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 7d

Your experience is valid, regardless of whether you knew what was happening at the time, or ever.

Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

Ultimately, being charismatic is not fulfilling in and of itself.
Charisma is a side benefit of inner work and growth, and congruence.

Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

Realize that not everyone will like you, and that's okay.
When you accept that, you regain some power.
Spend time with gender-affirming folks whose presence you enjoy, as much as possible.
Conversely, spend as little time as possible with transphobic people.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

Ask for support when you could use some. It's a resilient, assertive thing to do, and can help you get what you want, both big and little desires.
Find and/or make time for rest whenever possible: physical rest, spiritual rest, emotional rest.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

Have something you want that's not related to how you're perceived by others.
Admit when you make a mistake and change actions to address the issue, if applicable.
Do actions that help you grow your confidence. This can be different for each person.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

When you feel comfortable, you generally feel more confident. Others can often sense that, and it can come off as being charismatic.
Next, have a mission statement for the month, season, year, etc, to help you with what you want.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

Find comfortable affirming clothes when possible: go to free clothing swaps, thrift stores, ask around, maybe join a buy-nothing group online.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

Basically, examine your own beliefs and find where you can be more fair to yourself and to others.
Sonder and genuine curiosity: recognize that others are having complex life experiences just like you, and ask them about their interests, beliefs, and reactions.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

Give compassion for others via actions.
Learn to understand others' perspectives and support marginalized folks.
Challenge your own preconceived notions about yourself and others.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

Go on a hike or read a book because you want to, not because of others' wants or expectations.
Center and affirm yourself via actions. Refuse to do optional things that would over- work you whenever possible.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

Transcript:
How to increase your charisma, especially as a non-binary, trans, or gender-expansive person.
A non-exhaustive list. Inner work: learn and grow as a person through thinking, talking, and most importantly, actions.
Do things just for you, if you tend to be an overgiver.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

Interested? In box me, or 1st option in my URL.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

-Ang Woon (they)
Self-Compassion Coach for LGBTQIA+, Poet, Food-Allergy Access Specialist, & Professional Speaker

My heart-mission is to help LGBTQIA+ folks build self-compassion, process buried emotions, & show up for themselves in ways they once thought impossible.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

You'll also learn what’s more important/helpful than being charismatic!
The actions in my examples will be accessible for only some folks, so please do things that are accessible for you, & substitute actions as needed.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 9d

~ How To Build Your Charisma (& What Matters More) ~
2m 24s video
Content: mental health, eye contact, thin person, body movement, ocean. Captions on.

Enjoy these throwback videos of me doing movement I enjoy, as you learn how to level-up your charisma.

Thumbnail image:
Top: photo of Ang Woon, a laughing, squatting, light-skinned, nonbinary, Chinese-American adult w/ straight dark-brown hair, brown monolid eyes, gray metal-framed rectangular glasses, orange and purple shirt, grayscale leggings, sneakers.
Bottom center: Ang w hoodie & leggings, doing headstand w/ 1 straight leg & one bent leg, at beach.
Bottom left: Ang smiling w top bun & purple shirt, outdoors.
Thumbnail image text: How to Build Charisma: TGNC Edition. 2m 24s
Video: bottom left: Ang is talking, occasionally smiling.
Center: Ang does kneeling pirouettes outdoors, then variations of headstands at beach.

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Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 10d

2013 photographer: JH Photography; 2024 photographer for onstage photos: Frida Calvo Huerta

Ang Woon 💜🏳️‍🌈 SelfCompassionCoach @angwoon.bsky.social · 10d

My heart-mission is to help LGBTQIA+ folks build self-compassion, process buried emotions, & show up for themselves in ways they once thought impossible.

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