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The Widow's Handbook

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http://thewidowshandbook.com - a guide to being widowed from someone who's been there This is not the life I planned but it's the one I have and I'm living it the best I can Helen Bailey blog award winner 2022 #widow #youngwidow #grief #support #LGBTQ

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Nov 10

When I became part of
Widowed And Young
after Tim's sudden death, there was a running joke about who had the latest copy of the handbook. And so, three years later, The Widow's Handbook blog was born. Its aim is to help widows and those around them.

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The Widow's Handbook is about what it's like to be widowed young, and it's for people who are trying to cope with widowhood, or help someone else

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · 26d

I live with depression & have since my teens. It is well-managed, though sometimes it breaks through. Thinking of those who struggle or can't find help. Thank you to the friends, family and professionals who look after us.

#WorldMentalHealthDay
#WorldMentalHealthDay2025
#1in4

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Tron Bonne @heroicmisadventure.bsky.social · Sep 26

“I’d rather try being distracted…
Grief is handled differently by everyone.”

tempo 🎶 @lmn-001.bsky.social · Sep 26

“I. . . know that.”

[Well, sort of. She couldn’t exactly relate. She holds onto Tron’s hand for a few seconds before letting go.]

“Would you. . like to talk about her? Or is a distraction preferable. .? I am unsure of how to approach ‘grief.’”

Tron Bonne @heroicmisadventure.bsky.social · Sep 26

Oh.. it looks as if Tron had been crying again.
“I can’t help how I’m feeling Tempo.”
She accepts the helping hand as she gets up.

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Stephen McCarthy @misterjabsticks.bsky.social · Sep 18

This is good, on grief.

Hacker News 100 @hn100.atproto.rocks · Sep 18

Fuck, you're still sad?
https://bessstillman.substack.com/p/oh-fuck-youre-still-sad

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45290021

Fuck, you're still sad?

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Sep 17

Clearing out after someone dies is hard #widow #grief

From The Guardian - Sort as you go and don’t rush: six steps to clearing out a loved one’s home when they die

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Sort as you go and don’t rush: six steps to clearing out a loved one’s home when they die

From telling the insurers to accepting you may need to get the experts in, tips on dealing with the deceased’s property

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Dilys Morgan @dilysmorgan.bsky.social · Sep 16

"After 3 months, peoples' lives have changed, they've moved on, but your entire world has changed." Dr Bill Webster on #grief #loss #mourning

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Episode 67: Dr Bill Webster

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Sep 16

It does xx

The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Sep 16

Writing got me through #grief. While it isn't specifically about #writing for #grief, if you are in North Yorkshire in early November come along to my #monologue workshop and see if writing works for you.

#WhitbyLitFest #widow

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Suzanne Elvidge – Writing workshop: Writing Monologues That Speak to an Audience - Whitby Lit Fest

Suzanne will guide you through creating a monologue – a story with a single voice – from the idea to the final draft. Whether you are a beginner or an […]

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South West London and St George's Mental Health NHS Trust @swlstg.bsky.social · Sep 12

Grief and loss affects us all differently and you might experience many different emotions, like shock, tiredness, or guilt. There is no right or wrong way to feel - we all react in our own way. If you're struggling after a bereavement, find trusted advice and support: swlstg.nhs.uk/bereavement

Grief is a natural reaction to loss.
There is no right or wrong way to feel.
Find support following a bereavement at www.swlstg.nhs.uk/bereavement

The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Sep 12

I've had a birthday this week.

My birthday has long been a bittersweet day.

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The Widow's Almanac: Bittersweet birthdays

I've had a birthday this week. My birthday has long been a bittersweet day. My first husband's mother died suddenly and unexpectedly on my 24th birthday, nine months before we got married. He rang...

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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · Sep 9

Loss changes everything…

It cuts deep - but when we find the strength to guide the pen and control the flow, love and hope can carve deeper still.

Redefine your story 💛

#DaddyBlackbird #Grief #Bereavement #SuicideAwareness #Hope 🐦‍⬛

Two birds sit on a bench. The background is sky blue and there is sun and clouds in the sky. The accompanying text reads: Grief rewrites your story… but you still hold the pen

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Jonathan Teo @jonathantoteo.bsky.social · Sep 9

My therapist said something similar to me. Julian's death created a detour toward my life's destination - a happy and fulfilling life. But, it hasn't ended the journey. I'm just now on it alone and will have to take a new route.

#grief #bereft #widowhood #rerouted #lifejourney

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Sep 9

I have found that #grief really isn't linear - it's more like a pinball machine

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#widow

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Sep 5

Last weekend I was part of Felix Rackow's Virgin Radio Pride documentary Grief in the Shadows - here's the catch up link

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Grief in the Shadows | Virgin Radio Pridecast

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Sep 2

Suzanne Elvidge (she/her) @suzannewriter.bsky.social · Sep 2

On the podcast Living with Dying with @dilysmorgan.bsky.social I talk about the creation of @widowshandbook.bsky.social, support from the amazing charity WAY Widowed And Young & the the taboo topic of the impact of the loss of intimacy for a #widow

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Episode 66: Suzanne Elvidge

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Aug 30

WAY Widowed and Young Chair Jo Sedley-Burke and Andrew and I, both Way members, have been interviewed for VirginRadioUK Pride for Grief in the Shadows, exploring how being LGBTQIA+ can complicate the process of grief and bereavement.

7-8pm Sun 31 August

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Aug 16

My beloved late husband was 5'3" and I'm 5'7". Height made no difference to how much I loved him.

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Without Fear | End-of-Life Doula @withoutfeardoula.bsky.social · Aug 7

Healing doesn’t happen just by moving forward. It happens when you stop long enough to feel. Don’t skip that step.

#Healing #GriefWork #MentalHealth #LifeCoach

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Oseäna 🤍🧿🍰 @starlitfaecakes.dubstep.lol · Aug 7

Reminder that grief does not have a designated time frame. Insensitive weirdos.

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@mikeythedeathdoula @mikeythedeathdoula.bsky.social · Aug 1

When grief feels overwhelming, come back to your senses.
Try the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method:
5 things you see
4 things you can touch
3 things you hear
2 things you smell
1 thing you taste
Breathe. You’re still here. You’re safe.#GriefSupport #GroundingTools

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Pattie Vargas 🫘💙🫶🏼🇺🇦 @pattiev123.bsky.social · Jul 22

A common theme in our Grief Circles is "I thought I was doing better." You were. Yesterday.
But today the reality hit you in the face anew.
It's ok. You'll never be "over it" but you will find new ways to co-exist with your pain.
There's no timeline for healing.
#GriefJourney #ODAAT

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Ekimellnea @ekimellnea.bsky.social · Jul 22

Every photo, every letter, every joke becomes more precious. Grief teaches us to hold tighter to those tiny things.
#GriefAndHealing #SentimentalQuotes
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Memory Becomes a Treasure: Finding Comfort After Loss

When someone you love is gone, their memory becomes a treasure—a lasting source of comfort, love, and healing through grief.

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MAiDHouse Canada @maidhouse.ca · Jul 20

At @dyingwithdignity.ca 's blog, a new feature spotlights BIPOC Death and Grief Talk, a collective care group located in Tkaronto that supports racialized and Indigenous folks through #grief and loss.

Learn more at DWDC's website: www.dyingwithdignity.ca/blog/bipoc-d...

BIPOC death and grief talk | Dying With Dignity Canada

Kaylce Carter (they/them) and Carmen Galvan (she/her) are the co-founders of BIPOC Death and Grief Talk, a collective care group…

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Jul 10

My late husband was 5'7" and was utterly awesome

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Caroline Roodhouse @daddyblackbird.bsky.social · Jul 5

Here’s to the semicolons.

To the pauses that hold us.

To the strangers who show up with kindness.

And to the ongoing sentences - messy, painful, hopeful - that we’re still here to write 💛

#DaddyBlackbird #SuicideAwareness #Grief #Loss #Semicolon #Hope

Hope in small symbols

Daddy Blackbird #12

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The Widow's Handbook @widowshandbook.bsky.social · Jul 3

So true xxx