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Stefani Goerlich

@stefanigoerlich.bsky.social

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Award-Winning Author, Certified Sex Therapist, Forensic Sexologist, Clinical Social Worker, BDSM/Kink expert ...and PhD student too. ✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️✡️

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 6h

Giving my midterm presentation on the Epistomology of Technology tonight; so of course I’m rocking my QR tank, Clippy earrings and 8bit hourglass hair clip. #weloveatheme

Stefani, wearing the outfit described in the post

Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 3d

The three phases of womanhood:

“I’m a mouse, duh.”

“I’m the COOL coworker.”

“Fuck it, I’m an anglerfish”

A picture of the mouse costume from Mean Girls, a pic of a teacher dressed as Ms Frizzle, and a pic of Stefani in a sequined anglerfish costume.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 8d

Does anyone have a Sora invite code they can send my way? I’m trying to prove a point in one of my PhD classes.

Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · 27d

Apparently overt xenophobia is dress code compliant at my local Target. The family in line right behind me? Was not English-speaking. 😡

Yes, I said something.
Yes, this timeline sucks.

An anonymized photo of a Target cashier wearing a t-shirt that says “speak English” on it.

Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Sep 27

Three! I shared it with @jwgoerlich.bsky.social too.

Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Sep 27

Proving my point:

He had a typo in the first draft of this post when he showed it to me. 👩‍🎓

J Wolfgang Goerlich @jwgoerlich.bsky.social · Sep 27

“You could argue with me. But if you did? You’d be wrong.”

A lesson in confidence, by @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Sep 27

Posts like this are why you’re one of my fav social friends.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Sep 23

Talking about today’s Rapture news and I find out that @jwgoerlich.bsky.social unironically watched the Left Behind movies in the early aughts w/ *no* religious context at all… and kept waiting for the aliens to arrive & explain where all the people went.

My “preacher’s grandkid” mind is reeling.

Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Sep 22

The hyperbaric chamber death that happened here in MI is literal nightmare fuel.

Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Sep 22

Hey, question:

Who do I know that knows people at HushMail? Ideally someone with decision making authority on the legal/compliance side of things.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Sep 5

I made 350 “cybersecurity starter packs” to give out at the ATSA national conference this month. Each one has a sticker, a usb condom, a camera cover, and a card with 10 easy security habits. I’ll also be presenting on Tuesday the 16th- stop by and say hello!

Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Aug 13

Yep- that’s exactly what I’ve been screaming about.

<sigh>

Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Aug 1

Looking for an expert in the philosophy of robots to interview for an episode of Securing Sexuality. Is that you? Or someone you know? Reach out!
#robots #philosophy #digitalethics #cybersecurity #hackers

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misandrist fujoshi @likeadeuce.bsky.social · Jul 29

LeGuin wrote about the desire for 'unassailable safety' as one of the deep roots of evil, and I think about that a lot.

Erika Hall @erikahall.bsky.social · Jul 29

We need to teach people the difference between being uncomfortable and being unsafe. Because the discomfort of the safest people is endangering the most vulnerable, all day every day.

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Chris Bissette 🐻🌈 @loottheroom.bsky.social · Jul 24

There's a direct line from "no kink at Pride" and "no sex in movies and books unless it Serves The Plot" to payment processors feeling completely empowered to censor art globally

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jul 20

Radish
Harvey

(These are the only two that feel right for you in my mind)

Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jul 18

Very niche question:

Who in the #infosec community 1) plays #mahjongg and 2) is gonna be at #Blackhat? I’d love to set up some cocktail bar pickup games while we’re in town.

a group of people are playing a game of mahjong with dice .

Alt: a group of people are playing a game of mahjong with dice .

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jul 9

Oh it’s happening!! And you can preorder it here:

www.routledge.com/Securing-Sex...

Two humanoid androids embrace against a soft background of binary on the cover of a book titled Securing Sexuality: Emerging Issues at the Intersection of Intimacy and Technology.

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J Wolfgang Goerlich @jwgoerlich.bsky.social · Jul 7

Securing Sexuality: the book. Tech drives how we meet, date, marry, raise kids. Attacks on it undermines our agency and privacy. This book, written with @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social, helps therapist, coaches, activists think like punk, act like a hacker, and take back control over our private lives.

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J Wolfgang Goerlich @jwgoerlich.bsky.social · May 10

Stefani Goerlich giving the closing keynote at #BSidesDetroit. “We’re confusing information sharing with intimacy and surveillance with love.”

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Mar 1

So incredibly honored and humbled by the kind words about my work. 🩷

Stefani in a pink sweater standing next to a graffitied wall. There is a quote that reads “Goerlich has emerged as an important voice in the field of sex therapy…a guide to help vanilla people and their kinky partners look across the divide with curiosity and empathy, to understand and affirm their own erotic selves, and to create bridges toward a mutually satisfying sex life.” By Caroline Maykut from the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.

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PuckFutin @puckfutin.fellas.army · Jan 26

🤌

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jan 25

Ew.

We stopped to get a drink & use the bathrooms and now I feel like I’m going to die of dysentery

a pixel art of a horse pulling a wagon

Alt: a pixel art of a horse pulling a wagon

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jan 25

Despite what my certificate from today says, I am *not* a cybersecurity expert. So you don’t HAVE to listen to me. But, c’mon guys… please don’t give your biometric data to effing Steak ‘n Shake. 🤦🏻‍♀️

A counter sign at Steak n Shake guiding people through the process of linking their face to their bank account to pay for hamburgers.

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Stefani Goerlich @stefanigoerlich.bsky.social · Jan 17

I have both a pull-quote and the last word in this new article from EuroNews! Happy birthday to me!

www.euronews.com/culture/2025...

Kink and consent: The new era of sex on screen

At a time when sex-on-screen is dwindling, Halina Reijn’s erotic drama has revived audiences' desire for eroticism and kink-positive cinema.