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@kstarlight21.bsky.social

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Any pronouns ✨ Level 28 ❣️ Married 💍 Love books, manga, anime, heavy metal and art 📚 Coffee enthusiast ☕ Goth 🖤 Awkward, weird and trying my best 💖 Pro-choice, atheist, LGBTQIA+ rights are human rights🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 Bigots get blocked🙅🏽 Minors DNI 💥

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · Nov 17

My name is Kay, I go by any pronouns. I'm a pro-choice atheist who believes that all people deserve human rights and decency. I do not tolerate any bigotry, bullying or harassment towards others. I don't like bigots and I'll block without hesitation. I'm married, a little awkward but overall chilled

📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 14h

Thank you 💜

📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 14h

Thank you! And it really is hard to overcome, it's not like your brain switches from years of food scarcity to suddenly realizing you have enough food. People really don't realize how trauma works sometimes.

📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 15h

To heal my relationship with food for years and it has gotten better, but the trauma still remains subtle in my head. I can't erase it, I can only live with it and try to ensure it doesn't overtake me. But I wish people were less cruel to me about my weight in general.

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 15h

More toxic coping mechanisms for me. Yummy food is a comfort and cheers me up when I'm distressed or upset. It's unhealthy, but it's the best way I can deal with my issues right now. It just upsets me that people see me and think "ugh, lazy, greedy" when it's really not the case. I've been trying

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 15h

For me to stop eating, even when my tummy hurts, because wasting food was something I was punished for. Not only that, there's a fear that food will run out and I need to eat as much as I can. It's irrational, I know, but it's something that sits in my mind whenever I eat. Food has also replaced

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 15h

And restrictive eating. It didn't work and when it didn't work, I ended up comfort eating and gained even more weight. I'm the heaviest I've ever been and what frustrates me is how people think that it's easy to simply have a healthy relationship with food when you've been through trauma. It's hard

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 15h

Of water to make myself full. When I went to uni, I received an allowance for food. I started eating whatever I wanted because I had access to food and also didn't have to fear sharing. I gained a lot of weight and everyone noticed. Ashamed, I tried to lose this weight in bad ways like fad diets

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 15h

Home before school, my best friend would bring me leftovers to school and I'd have to eat it there because if I brought it home, I'd have to share with my family. Whatever I ate at school was usually my last meal for the day. When we did have supper, it was very little food and I had to drink a lot

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 15h

TW: fatphobia, ED, food insecurity
One of the biggest reasons I am fat is because of food insecurity. When I was a teen, my parents ruined themselves financially and we suffered. Most nights, supper was a cup of coffee cos there was no food to eat. My ex's mom would let me eat breakfast at their

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 1d

This is good. While it's not a guarantee she will show up at your workplace, if she becomes desperate enough to try and force you to return, she will resort to any means. It's good you are setting up precautions in place. At least if it does happen, she will face consequences.

📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 2d

So accepting and supportive. I think you should tell her to cease communication with your ex, cos she's going to harass the heck out of her for information.

📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 2d

Your ex is a horrible piece of shit who will do anything to get her way. It was only a matter of time before she tried to use your mental illness against you. I still urge you to speak to the police in case she becomes more desperate and tries to get them to "find" you. I'm glad your best friend is

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 2d

Glad you have her as a friend. Your ex definitely expected your best friend to try and guilt trip you.

📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 2d

That person can go fuck themselves.

📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 2d

What the actual fuck

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 2d

Oof, this is very, very true. All of a sudden we need to "understand" people saying the most horrible things to other people, simply because they are good friends and that person is "different" or whoever accused them is a "liar"

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 2d

This is so true. I've had to distance myself from so many people over the years for constantly giving me unsolicited dieting advice to lose weight, despite gently saying each time that if I wanted any advice I'd reach out myself or speak to my doctor.

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IMMIGRANTS MATTER. @shinery.bsky.social · 3d

Any country that uses sexual abuse to silence its critics is a failed country.

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 2d

I think even the cockroaches find him disgusting.

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Emissary Of Night | ليلى @diplomatofnight.com · 3d

Greta Thunberg: “Israeli soldiers hit, kicked, starved, and tortured me”

• They placed a flag next to me, and anytime the flag touched me, they kicked me
• Whenever I raised my head to look at Ben-Gvir, I was kicked
• She was filmed while stripped naked

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 3d

Considering that all you've known for the past few years was abuse and coercion, it makes sense why you'd want to form a healthy romantic connection now that you're free to do so. I'd still advise against it until you're more stable though.

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 3d

100% this. She's mentioning this to you so that you'll think "oh poor her, she really needs this fridge, let me be generous in this divorce". That's what her plan is. She doesn't need a fridge like that at all.

📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 4d

If you pay for it, she might drag this divorce out longer because it won't be her purse that suffers. But if she has to cough up money herself, she'll want it over and done with. You have no reason to be kind to her. You escaped an abuser, you didn't just leave for a silly reason.

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 4d

You need to be firm, Skar. If you pay for this, she's only going to demand more. She doesn't care if you're living on the streets or not, she wants to punish you for leaving her. And she knows the easiest way is to target your finances.

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📚🖤GothGirl🖤📚 @kstarlight21.bsky.social · 4d

Why can't she pay for her own lawyer? She loved to brag about her wealth. Don't enable her bullshit. Pay for YOUR lawyer and your fees. She can pay for her own things herself. She isn't your responsibility anymore.

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