𝗨𝗻𝗞𝗶𝗻𝗱, by the glorious Victoria Smith, reviewed by Therese Doherty @offeringsfromthewellspring

Rule one of self-esteem: become what you are proud of and others will esteem you.

#bookreview #feminist #emotionallabor #mentalload #UnKind

www.medusarising.org/p/1af16609-4...

The image of frivolous women who've been "radicalised" (because they're too spoilt, passive and stupid to have their own politics) reminds me of how men spoke of feminists when I was growing up. Also of anti-suffragette propaganda. Laughable to be so sexist then call for a focus on "real issues"

Good to be reminded why I wrote Hags. Older women already shoulder a disproportionate burden of work (paid and unpaid). "Nothing better to do" means, I guess, "shouldn't be doing politics, and certainly shouldn't be celebrating any political gains"

📢 Our Summer season is live, running April to July, with talks on how kindness is used to control women @glosswitch.bsky.social, rising inequality, an inspiring vision for the future @robintransition.bsky.social, true crime obsession and so much more!

🎟️ Book now: www.conwayhall.org.uk/whats-on/

If we really want to help boys & men be happier, … we could forge a different & more +ve outlook on masculinity … focus less on how men are purportedly hard done by & emasculated …, & more on genuinely fulfilling opportunities open to them in this brave new world. substack.com/home/post/p-...

This feels like a trap.

Thank you total legend @glosswitch.bsky.social for endorsing Flipping Patriarchy. "I loved this book! Funny & insightful, but also fiercely radical, highlighting all the subtle & not-so-subtle ways in which 'empowerment' and 'be kind' narratives justify women's exploitation & damage our self-esteem"

Really looking forward to this Saturday's event! (Worry a bit about 'in conversation' sounding self-important. But obviously not enough to shut up)
www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/in-convers...

We’re constantly being told that our present moment is one of crisis: a ‘silent epidemic’ of male unhappiness.

This myth has numerous threads.

Chief among them is that boys are underperforming in a schooling system that’s biased towards girls’ aptitudes.

There are further claims:

I'm at Conway Hall on 10th April, discussing the pitfalls of #justbekind. Join me! www.conwayhall.org.uk/whats-on/eve...

Less than two weeks to go! www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/in-convers...

I wrote about the persistence of cruel attitudes and treatments for anorexia sufferers, at a time when we are meant to be 'more enlightened' about eating disorders thecritic.co.uk/why-are-anor...

Really enjoyed taking part in this, on Wages for Housework, men's attitudes to feminism and Unkind! (After spending weeks panicking about it...)
www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m...

It's publication day for Unkind, on why women and girls shouldn't have to make up for the world by "just" being kinder (but men and boys possibly could...)! geni.us/Unkind

I had the privilege of speaking to Julie Bindel about some of the themes (surrogacy, sexual exploitation, raising boys - *not* "why women should be mean to everyone") www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2025/01...

First copy of my new book! (Out 6th Feb - pre-order here! geni.us/Unkind)

Pretty sure it's not up to women to "think carefully" about taking a higher-paid job than their partner. It's up to their partner to get the fuck over himself and be pleased for her.

70,000 men.

One group chat.

How many raped women is that?

**we need radical culture change that dehumanises & de-pornifies & de-commodifies women & girls**

#MakeTheShameSwitchSides

So delighted to see (Un)kind in here! (Published Feb and available for pre-order now!) www.theguardian.com/culture/2024...

Yes, that's what I think, too

I wrote about the bids for sympathy of the accused in the Pelicot trial thecritic.co.uk/should-we-fe...

It's not as if they'd be exploiting women, just people with uterus owning privilege. Punching up, when you think about it.

Would obvs prefer ETA Hoffmann (with wine glass and little Tomcat Murr figure), but very much want this