Urgo, confused and needing cake...
@urgocakelord.bsky.social
25yrs teaching, SENCO at an AP. Crohns, Arthritis, AuDHD, you name it, I’ve probably got it or my family has…😬. Passionate about what I do, and shiny things.✨🤩
One incident described was of him, at 18, harassing and intimidating a 9 year old with his comments.
An adult abusing primary aged child.
An adult old enough to legally have a child themselves, and work in childcare settings. Not a 'kid'.
An adult abusing primary aged child.
An adult old enough to legally have a child themselves, and work in childcare settings. Not a 'kid'.
December 6, 2025 at 10:53 PM
One incident described was of him, at 18, harassing and intimidating a 9 year old with his comments.
An adult abusing primary aged child.
An adult old enough to legally have a child themselves, and work in childcare settings. Not a 'kid'.
An adult abusing primary aged child.
An adult old enough to legally have a child themselves, and work in childcare settings. Not a 'kid'.
Doubt it's his first time...
December 5, 2025 at 6:27 PM
Doubt it's his first time...
But very much practised behind closed doors by all those patriotic Christian evangelicals...
December 5, 2025 at 6:26 PM
But very much practised behind closed doors by all those patriotic Christian evangelicals...
'Though I've ended 492 wars, all the wars, except the Russian one, as Ukrainians keep pushing their land under Russian troops' feet, the world is still dangerous, terrible. Fentanyl. People say to me, your ballroom is safe, so safe, the greatest, so we will keep the World Cup there, for the world.'
December 5, 2025 at 6:24 PM
'Though I've ended 492 wars, all the wars, except the Russian one, as Ukrainians keep pushing their land under Russian troops' feet, the world is still dangerous, terrible. Fentanyl. People say to me, your ballroom is safe, so safe, the greatest, so we will keep the World Cup there, for the world.'
Does the 'medal' have a button on the back he can press for help, if he falls? (And is this the only way they could get him to wear one?)
December 5, 2025 at 6:18 PM
Does the 'medal' have a button on the back he can press for help, if he falls? (And is this the only way they could get him to wear one?)
This, also today! 😭😖
December 5, 2025 at 6:17 PM
This, also today! 😭😖
I told the assessor my mum is dead (true) & I've no other close family who can provide insight re: early years (partially true, I've many, but they're all various ND, and in denial, so insist I was 'normal'!).😒
Been with the Husb since I was 18, so they let him do it. He provided heaps of info!😂
Been with the Husb since I was 18, so they let him do it. He provided heaps of info!😂
December 5, 2025 at 6:15 PM
I told the assessor my mum is dead (true) & I've no other close family who can provide insight re: early years (partially true, I've many, but they're all various ND, and in denial, so insist I was 'normal'!).😒
Been with the Husb since I was 18, so they let him do it. He provided heaps of info!😂
Been with the Husb since I was 18, so they let him do it. He provided heaps of info!😂
That's really crappy, I'm so sorry. I was lucky, in a way, that we had no local service for adults when I started, as it meant using Right to Choose from the outset.
It should never take 4+ years for you to get something I got - still via the NHS - in 4 months.
It should never take 4+ years for you to get something I got - still via the NHS - in 4 months.
December 5, 2025 at 6:06 PM
That's really crappy, I'm so sorry. I was lucky, in a way, that we had no local service for adults when I started, as it meant using Right to Choose from the outset.
It should never take 4+ years for you to get something I got - still via the NHS - in 4 months.
It should never take 4+ years for you to get something I got - still via the NHS - in 4 months.
Absolutely! I used this for both my dx (we didn't even have an NHS adult ADHD dx service in area🙄).
We promote RtC in our school.
Unf, one of the fab, local RtC providers is looking likely to have to pause on accepting referrals for children and teens again, soon, as they are becoming overwhelmed.
We promote RtC in our school.
Unf, one of the fab, local RtC providers is looking likely to have to pause on accepting referrals for children and teens again, soon, as they are becoming overwhelmed.
December 5, 2025 at 5:08 PM
Absolutely! I used this for both my dx (we didn't even have an NHS adult ADHD dx service in area🙄).
We promote RtC in our school.
Unf, one of the fab, local RtC providers is looking likely to have to pause on accepting referrals for children and teens again, soon, as they are becoming overwhelmed.
We promote RtC in our school.
Unf, one of the fab, local RtC providers is looking likely to have to pause on accepting referrals for children and teens again, soon, as they are becoming overwhelmed.
It shouldn't be a postcode lottery, and should be available at any age.
Failure to diagnose and support in school impacts their entire future - we should be getting better at early dx and support, not worse. The dream would be for nobody to need late dx, like us.
Failure to diagnose and support in school impacts their entire future - we should be getting better at early dx and support, not worse. The dream would be for nobody to need late dx, like us.
December 5, 2025 at 5:00 PM
It shouldn't be a postcode lottery, and should be available at any age.
Failure to diagnose and support in school impacts their entire future - we should be getting better at early dx and support, not worse. The dream would be for nobody to need late dx, like us.
Failure to diagnose and support in school impacts their entire future - we should be getting better at early dx and support, not worse. The dream would be for nobody to need late dx, like us.
Oh, absolutely!
I was dx'ed at 44 for ADHD and 47 for Autism, but through right to choose on the NHS, both took under 6 months. In the same district & NHS Trust, children/teens take over 4yrs via CAMHS, about a year if they can get right to choose (some places closed lists as they were swamped).
I was dx'ed at 44 for ADHD and 47 for Autism, but through right to choose on the NHS, both took under 6 months. In the same district & NHS Trust, children/teens take over 4yrs via CAMHS, about a year if they can get right to choose (some places closed lists as they were swamped).
December 5, 2025 at 4:58 PM
Oh, absolutely!
I was dx'ed at 44 for ADHD and 47 for Autism, but through right to choose on the NHS, both took under 6 months. In the same district & NHS Trust, children/teens take over 4yrs via CAMHS, about a year if they can get right to choose (some places closed lists as they were swamped).
I was dx'ed at 44 for ADHD and 47 for Autism, but through right to choose on the NHS, both took under 6 months. In the same district & NHS Trust, children/teens take over 4yrs via CAMHS, about a year if they can get right to choose (some places closed lists as they were swamped).
Thanks, 6 years as a SENDCO, and I'm beyond disbelief at the 'system'...
December 4, 2025 at 11:31 PM
Thanks, 6 years as a SENDCO, and I'm beyond disbelief at the 'system'...
Yes please, more evidence - through speedy, accessible assessment for children on the NHS - and diagnoses which are believed (FFS!).
That's what families I work with are literally crying out for.
I have heaps of examples. Come and visit any AP, Mr Streeting...
That's what families I work with are literally crying out for.
I have heaps of examples. Come and visit any AP, Mr Streeting...
December 4, 2025 at 10:52 PM
Yes please, more evidence - through speedy, accessible assessment for children on the NHS - and diagnoses which are believed (FFS!).
That's what families I work with are literally crying out for.
I have heaps of examples. Come and visit any AP, Mr Streeting...
That's what families I work with are literally crying out for.
I have heaps of examples. Come and visit any AP, Mr Streeting...
The NHS Autism/ADHD assessment waiting time for children/teens in our area is 4-5 years.
If you ask for your 11y/o to be referred in their 1st year of secondary, they may be diagnosed just before they sit GCSEs. That's 4-5 years w/o medical support, causing additional trauma & barriers to learning.
If you ask for your 11y/o to be referred in their 1st year of secondary, they may be diagnosed just before they sit GCSEs. That's 4-5 years w/o medical support, causing additional trauma & barriers to learning.
December 4, 2025 at 10:45 PM
The NHS Autism/ADHD assessment waiting time for children/teens in our area is 4-5 years.
If you ask for your 11y/o to be referred in their 1st year of secondary, they may be diagnosed just before they sit GCSEs. That's 4-5 years w/o medical support, causing additional trauma & barriers to learning.
If you ask for your 11y/o to be referred in their 1st year of secondary, they may be diagnosed just before they sit GCSEs. That's 4-5 years w/o medical support, causing additional trauma & barriers to learning.
Initially, I thought he looked like a rabbit caught in the headlights.
Since becoming more familiar with his actions and dangerous incompetence, I prefer to imagine his expression is connected to some kind of terrible chair/barbed prong/colorectal calamity...
Since becoming more familiar with his actions and dangerous incompetence, I prefer to imagine his expression is connected to some kind of terrible chair/barbed prong/colorectal calamity...
December 4, 2025 at 10:34 PM
Initially, I thought he looked like a rabbit caught in the headlights.
Since becoming more familiar with his actions and dangerous incompetence, I prefer to imagine his expression is connected to some kind of terrible chair/barbed prong/colorectal calamity...
Since becoming more familiar with his actions and dangerous incompetence, I prefer to imagine his expression is connected to some kind of terrible chair/barbed prong/colorectal calamity...
Surely, there's only so many 'bad apples', 'surprise' revelations and 'vetting system issues' before they have to just concede that they're awash with racists, and they know it.
December 4, 2025 at 10:23 PM
Surely, there's only so many 'bad apples', 'surprise' revelations and 'vetting system issues' before they have to just concede that they're awash with racists, and they know it.
Definitely!
December 4, 2025 at 5:52 PM
Definitely!
There are studies which show that children who speak more than one language can often pick up other languages and complex concepts more easily...which leads to better outcomes at school.
And I bet most of those children speak English with greater precision and creativity than his followers.
And I bet most of those children speak English with greater precision and creativity than his followers.
December 3, 2025 at 10:57 PM
There are studies which show that children who speak more than one language can often pick up other languages and complex concepts more easily...which leads to better outcomes at school.
And I bet most of those children speak English with greater precision and creativity than his followers.
And I bet most of those children speak English with greater precision and creativity than his followers.
Oh, this! 😂🤣😂
I recognise that smug, 'Told you it wouldn't [fail/break/set fire to the house/injure me/kill me]!'
I recognise that smug, 'Told you it wouldn't [fail/break/set fire to the house/injure me/kill me]!'
December 3, 2025 at 10:34 PM
Oh, this! 😂🤣😂
I recognise that smug, 'Told you it wouldn't [fail/break/set fire to the house/injure me/kill me]!'
I recognise that smug, 'Told you it wouldn't [fail/break/set fire to the house/injure me/kill me]!'
Guessing most are already on a register, just not a school one.
They'd get short shrift if they rocked up at ours. Enjoy having to explain yourselves when we call the police with a serious safeguarding concern, plus your Prevent referral, and the inevitable, creative verbal abuse from KS4...
They'd get short shrift if they rocked up at ours. Enjoy having to explain yourselves when we call the police with a serious safeguarding concern, plus your Prevent referral, and the inevitable, creative verbal abuse from KS4...
December 3, 2025 at 2:07 PM
Guessing most are already on a register, just not a school one.
They'd get short shrift if they rocked up at ours. Enjoy having to explain yourselves when we call the police with a serious safeguarding concern, plus your Prevent referral, and the inevitable, creative verbal abuse from KS4...
They'd get short shrift if they rocked up at ours. Enjoy having to explain yourselves when we call the police with a serious safeguarding concern, plus your Prevent referral, and the inevitable, creative verbal abuse from KS4...
In my imagination, the on-board radio should be blasting out 'The Vengabus is coming' full volume, on loop.
It's these petty, vicious imagining which help to keep me stable as the world goes to shit...
It's these petty, vicious imagining which help to keep me stable as the world goes to shit...
December 3, 2025 at 1:55 PM
In my imagination, the on-board radio should be blasting out 'The Vengabus is coming' full volume, on loop.
It's these petty, vicious imagining which help to keep me stable as the world goes to shit...
It's these petty, vicious imagining which help to keep me stable as the world goes to shit...
As someone with AuDHD, it's rare that I feel like I might be able to speak for a large swathe of society, but today may be that day:
Seriously, who gives a flying fuck about her teenage chess rankings? 😖
Seriously, who gives a flying fuck about her teenage chess rankings? 😖
December 3, 2025 at 1:50 PM
As someone with AuDHD, it's rare that I feel like I might be able to speak for a large swathe of society, but today may be that day:
Seriously, who gives a flying fuck about her teenage chess rankings? 😖
Seriously, who gives a flying fuck about her teenage chess rankings? 😖
My mum-in-law had to keep proving she had terminal cancer as (apparently most aggravatingly for the disability claims people) she didn't drop down dead in the expected timeframe...🙄
December 3, 2025 at 1:41 PM
My mum-in-law had to keep proving she had terminal cancer as (apparently most aggravatingly for the disability claims people) she didn't drop down dead in the expected timeframe...🙄