Thank you

Thank you. I've loved writing about ace stuff and sad to have to give it up.

I'm demi myself and been told my standards are too high for such an average guy. Like... that's not what it's about?

When I was last single, the women I dated were a range of ages and body shapes and sizes.

I was open to anyone who seemed like they were interesting and reasonably intelligent.

Naturally. I've written a few (fairly decent, I feel) sex scenes in some of my books. The main reason I don't do it more often is usually because I want to centre other types of relationship, definitely not because I am against them.

Oh, and prudish too. That's an accusation not exclusively reserved for women. Me not liking strip clubs (when my overall feeling towards them isn't dislike, but confusion that this is a thing people can enjoy) was seen as being a prude

Definitely. Many allos presume that only women can be ace, as demonstrated by a post I saw on Instagram a while back. "Isn't acephobia just misogyny by another name?" Not the first and it won't be the last.

We're that invisible.

presumes our consent by default. "Men always want it!" "They won't ever say no!"

So any man who says "no" is seen as faulty. He is mistrusted. He is shallow or secretly gay. If we're partnered, the knee jerk reaction is "he's getting it elsewhere"

Sex ed NEEDS ace views of all genders 2/2

I think to these people it's just a cheap insult to meaninglessly throw at anyone they disagree with or dislike.

Asexual men challenge the gendered narrative of how men are supposed to act in the pursuit of romance and sex. And rather than unpacking it, they lash out.

Thanks Ell!