My top picks, in a nutshell.

This thread was inspired by someone sharing a story with me (I won't provide details) about someone hurting them, then trying to say that their way of atonement is to run for office to make a place where that won't happen again. But that doesn't actually help. It's self serving and arrogant.

so, i'm asking you to do the hard work more often. You'll find it actually doesn't take much. I've had many people tell me how much it means to just have someone listen, to be patient with them, to gently correct them when they misstep instead of monstering them.
We need connections

But there's a whole host of reasons people balk at this. It's sometimes hard work. It requires patience and love. Far better to speak high minded ideals that don't require that kind of action. Far better to cover up your own failings by refusing to address them and universalizing them. It's easier

Let people catch their breath. Let them bind their wounds. Tomorrow will come and they'll face it so much better if they've had a chance to heal together. I cannot tell someone the ways we will build the future if they are starving. I must feed their bodies and souls first before grander work begins

my fellow transfems and queer women in general, suffer from isolation, disconnection from community, and stability. We're cut out from family, from gatherings, from public spaces, etc. Some of the best things you can do is make a group call or a movie night or invite friends over for dinner

your neighbors to start. In fact, I often cannot trust that you will build a better world if you don't even know how to shape the foundation of it. One thing I do a lot is be open about sexuality, gender, and trauma in a way that invites others to talk and learn, because so many people, especially

are you feeding people? Are you providing ways for them to take shelter from the evils of the world? Are you guiding them through their traumas or sharing your own for communal cathartic release? I don't need you to run for mayor and declare you'll build a perfect world, I need you to be better to

can have. Yes yes it's good that you post about the ideal communist future or how the Dems need to shape up and such or important dissertations on patriarchy. That is important work at times. But if you want to make a difference, have you tried making space for vulnerable people to heal? 2/