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Bisexual. Queer. Bookworm. Survivor. Books are my comfort food. They/them. Spoonie. Chronic pain. Social worker. #booksky
One that right now is wreaking havoc amongst too many people in too many places, exactly as intended. In ways that are truly heartbreaking and triggering for many. I don't want the 2000s back in any way, but especially not in the "hate yourself & make yourself sick" kind of way.
November 29, 2025 at 2:20 AM
One that right now is wreaking havoc amongst too many people in too many places, exactly as intended. In ways that are truly heartbreaking and triggering for many. I don't want the 2000s back in any way, but especially not in the "hate yourself & make yourself sick" kind of way.
And I refuse to go back to a time when pointing that out and trying to educate ppl on why hating fatness is something learned & trained that can and should be unlearned instead isn't the right things to do. Bc at the end of the day the whole idea is not about the individual, it's a designed system.
November 29, 2025 at 2:18 AM
And I refuse to go back to a time when pointing that out and trying to educate ppl on why hating fatness is something learned & trained that can and should be unlearned instead isn't the right things to do. Bc at the end of the day the whole idea is not about the individual, it's a designed system.
Nobody is trying to tell anyone how to live their life. I can't and won't stop anyone from doing what they want to do with their bodies.
That doesn't change the fact that the self-hatred and misery we've been taught from the moment we could stand in front of a mirror will go away with a diet.
That doesn't change the fact that the self-hatred and misery we've been taught from the moment we could stand in front of a mirror will go away with a diet.
November 29, 2025 at 2:15 AM
Nobody is trying to tell anyone how to live their life. I can't and won't stop anyone from doing what they want to do with their bodies.
That doesn't change the fact that the self-hatred and misery we've been taught from the moment we could stand in front of a mirror will go away with a diet.
That doesn't change the fact that the self-hatred and misery we've been taught from the moment we could stand in front of a mirror will go away with a diet.
That's the thing that really drives it home for me. That trying to talk about the harm this whole oppressive system and exploitative industry is somehow being twisted into "Don't police women's bodies!"
THAT'S policing women's bodies but bringing back size zero as a beauty standard isn't?! What.
THAT'S policing women's bodies but bringing back size zero as a beauty standard isn't?! What.
November 29, 2025 at 2:13 AM
That's the thing that really drives it home for me. That trying to talk about the harm this whole oppressive system and exploitative industry is somehow being twisted into "Don't police women's bodies!"
THAT'S policing women's bodies but bringing back size zero as a beauty standard isn't?! What.
THAT'S policing women's bodies but bringing back size zero as a beauty standard isn't?! What.
It breaks my heart that conversations about the unhealthiness of diet culture get derailed by appropriated cries about not commenting on people's bodies. When all we're trying to do is to have an honest conversation abt diet culture resulting in disordered eating, eating disorders & body dysmorphia.
November 29, 2025 at 2:11 AM
It breaks my heart that conversations about the unhealthiness of diet culture get derailed by appropriated cries about not commenting on people's bodies. When all we're trying to do is to have an honest conversation abt diet culture resulting in disordered eating, eating disorders & body dysmorphia.
I heard someone call ozempic the great equalizer bc "finally everyone can be skinny!!" and it breaks my heart so fucking much how that is the conversation we have amidst far celebrities losing unhealthy amounts of weight in surreal amounts of time & red carpets looking fucking scary.
November 29, 2025 at 2:08 AM
I heard someone call ozempic the great equalizer bc "finally everyone can be skinny!!" and it breaks my heart so fucking much how that is the conversation we have amidst far celebrities losing unhealthy amounts of weight in surreal amounts of time & red carpets looking fucking scary.
But bc they go through a barrage of self-hatred to aspire to an ideal that they might know intellectually is rooted in oppression, but aren't able to apply that knowledge to their own bodies and minds. The messaging everywhere might be more subtle than it used to be, but the damage is so visible.
November 29, 2025 at 2:07 AM
But bc they go through a barrage of self-hatred to aspire to an ideal that they might know intellectually is rooted in oppression, but aren't able to apply that knowledge to their own bodies and minds. The messaging everywhere might be more subtle than it used to be, but the damage is so visible.
Being bombarded day in day out by ads & campaigns. Creatives in all corners of the internet now including fitness & weightloss journeys in their content, not bc they want to be healthy or strong or be able to move, but to be skinny is terrible. Not bc ppl aren't allowed to do what they want.
November 29, 2025 at 2:04 AM
Being bombarded day in day out by ads & campaigns. Creatives in all corners of the internet now including fitness & weightloss journeys in their content, not bc they want to be healthy or strong or be able to move, but to be skinny is terrible. Not bc ppl aren't allowed to do what they want.
But even for me, a queer chronically ill person who has a ton of body problems completely unrelated to weight & fat, it's becoming harder and harder to simply ignore the trends and their implications. It absolutely does something to me to see wonderful, brilliant ppl "finally getting back on track".
November 29, 2025 at 2:01 AM
But even for me, a queer chronically ill person who has a ton of body problems completely unrelated to weight & fat, it's becoming harder and harder to simply ignore the trends and their implications. It absolutely does something to me to see wonderful, brilliant ppl "finally getting back on track".
Seeing things going backwards now is doing a lot of harm not only to the young, but also to all of us who fought so hard to be happy with ourselves in any way, shape or form. For me chronic illness and deconstructing for myself where these ideas were coming from and why they exist changed a lot.
November 29, 2025 at 1:59 AM
Seeing things going backwards now is doing a lot of harm not only to the young, but also to all of us who fought so hard to be happy with ourselves in any way, shape or form. For me chronic illness and deconstructing for myself where these ideas were coming from and why they exist changed a lot.
I'm glad the majority of the teens I have right now are horrified by what we did to ourselves and each other, because at least in my corner of the world things were really, really bad.
And I know a lot of us had to with so fucking hard to even have a feeling for our bodies again.
And I know a lot of us had to with so fucking hard to even have a feeling for our bodies again.
November 29, 2025 at 1:58 AM
I'm glad the majority of the teens I have right now are horrified by what we did to ourselves and each other, because at least in my corner of the world things were really, really bad.
And I know a lot of us had to with so fucking hard to even have a feeling for our bodies again.
And I know a lot of us had to with so fucking hard to even have a feeling for our bodies again.
I see some different tendencies in the younger generations and I'm glad for it. Bc I don't wish the 2000s as a teenager, especially one struggling with their bodies more than others, on anyone. The bullying of ppl we thought of as fat, the disordered eating, the constant control & policing.
November 29, 2025 at 1:56 AM
I see some different tendencies in the younger generations and I'm glad for it. Bc I don't wish the 2000s as a teenager, especially one struggling with their bodies more than others, on anyone. The bullying of ppl we thought of as fat, the disordered eating, the constant control & policing.
I don't have official studies, I don't know how well that's been researched, but I can safely say that at least in my environment during the heights of heroine chic all of us were affected by it. Girls and femmes maybe a bit more in different ways, but all of us were struggling.
November 29, 2025 at 1:54 AM
I don't have official studies, I don't know how well that's been researched, but I can safely say that at least in my environment during the heights of heroine chic all of us were affected by it. Girls and femmes maybe a bit more in different ways, but all of us were struggling.
Ooof, yeah. And yet... It's the same with the audiobooks "counting" and all romance being trash and whatever else we cycle through throughout the year. We always hope for the best, but somehow we always end up back here 😂
November 29, 2025 at 12:28 AM
Ooof, yeah. And yet... It's the same with the audiobooks "counting" and all romance being trash and whatever else we cycle through throughout the year. We always hope for the best, but somehow we always end up back here 😂
But not bc of the arbitrary number you tracked, but bc I genuinely like talking about stuff we read. And if I realize someone I'm trying to talk to hasn't read what I want to talk about even though they might have said otherwise, the number is still irrelevant, it's just the end of the conversation.
November 29, 2025 at 12:26 AM
But not bc of the arbitrary number you tracked, but bc I genuinely like talking about stuff we read. And if I realize someone I'm trying to talk to hasn't read what I want to talk about even though they might have said otherwise, the number is still irrelevant, it's just the end of the conversation.
The same way I didn't give a single fuck of someone actually read what they said they read unless they're trying to either instigate a huge scandal or try to sell me something. I do care about that part.
Other than that, the only part I might be interested in is talking about what you read.
Other than that, the only part I might be interested in is talking about what you read.
November 29, 2025 at 12:25 AM
The same way I didn't give a single fuck of someone actually read what they said they read unless they're trying to either instigate a huge scandal or try to sell me something. I do care about that part.
Other than that, the only part I might be interested in is talking about what you read.
Other than that, the only part I might be interested in is talking about what you read.
I can also say that I have watched a grand total of three tv shows and maybe a handful of new movies.
What does this matter to someone else? How is that in any way relevant to what other people read, watch or listen to? I don't think me reading a lot should be significant to anyone but me?
What does this matter to someone else? How is that in any way relevant to what other people read, watch or listen to? I don't think me reading a lot should be significant to anyone but me?
November 29, 2025 at 12:23 AM
I can also say that I have watched a grand total of three tv shows and maybe a handful of new movies.
What does this matter to someone else? How is that in any way relevant to what other people read, watch or listen to? I don't think me reading a lot should be significant to anyone but me?
What does this matter to someone else? How is that in any way relevant to what other people read, watch or listen to? I don't think me reading a lot should be significant to anyone but me?
I also have a long ass commute which results in a ton of songs being listened to by me every year. Nobody ever looked at my Spotify wrapped and went "That seems excessive, I didn't believe it! Also you probably don't remember half of these songs!"
Bc it's ridiculous. And also so irrelevant.
Bc it's ridiculous. And also so irrelevant.
November 29, 2025 at 12:22 AM
I also have a long ass commute which results in a ton of songs being listened to by me every year. Nobody ever looked at my Spotify wrapped and went "That seems excessive, I didn't believe it! Also you probably don't remember half of these songs!"
Bc it's ridiculous. And also so irrelevant.
Bc it's ridiculous. And also so irrelevant.
Anyways, the work with the teens has been going really well these last couple of weeks and I'm really happy about it.
November 28, 2025 at 10:14 PM
Anyways, the work with the teens has been going really well these last couple of weeks and I'm really happy about it.
The goal is to show the kid that I am a person and a professional will listen, discuss and argue without judgement, will always try to find solutions and will also just be there as a sounding board.
That is hard fucking work in a lot of different ways. And also pretty fucking rewarding some days.
That is hard fucking work in a lot of different ways. And also pretty fucking rewarding some days.
November 28, 2025 at 10:13 PM
The goal is to show the kid that I am a person and a professional will listen, discuss and argue without judgement, will always try to find solutions and will also just be there as a sounding board.
That is hard fucking work in a lot of different ways. And also pretty fucking rewarding some days.
That is hard fucking work in a lot of different ways. And also pretty fucking rewarding some days.
I've had a lot of parents in my day accuse me of trying to get the teen to like me. That's not what this is even right it might happen. Building that professional relationship is not based on being whatever I think will get the kid to find me cool. That's the opposite of what most teens need.
November 28, 2025 at 10:11 PM
I've had a lot of parents in my day accuse me of trying to get the teen to like me. That's not what this is even right it might happen. Building that professional relationship is not based on being whatever I think will get the kid to find me cool. That's the opposite of what most teens need.
Sometimes it's hard to explain what we do and how we do it.
Building a professional relationship with a teenager based on trust and honesty is such a complex process and it is a ton of work. I'm not always sure ppl understand that, or how great it is when you can feel progress being made.
Building a professional relationship with a teenager based on trust and honesty is such a complex process and it is a ton of work. I'm not always sure ppl understand that, or how great it is when you can feel progress being made.
November 28, 2025 at 10:10 PM
Sometimes it's hard to explain what we do and how we do it.
Building a professional relationship with a teenager based on trust and honesty is such a complex process and it is a ton of work. I'm not always sure ppl understand that, or how great it is when you can feel progress being made.
Building a professional relationship with a teenager based on trust and honesty is such a complex process and it is a ton of work. I'm not always sure ppl understand that, or how great it is when you can feel progress being made.