Leland
@lelo3.bsky.social
I discuss the human experience
measured • deeply felt • softly disruptive
measured • deeply felt • softly disruptive
Feeling psychologically safe is important!
October 15, 2025 at 6:20 AM
Feeling psychologically safe is important!
When you give someone space to choose, you honor both their freedom and your worth. And if they don’t choose you, it’s okay too — because what matters most is that the choice was theirs, and you never lost yourself in the process.
September 18, 2025 at 12:34 PM
When you give someone space to choose, you honor both their freedom and your worth. And if they don’t choose you, it’s okay too — because what matters most is that the choice was theirs, and you never lost yourself in the process.
Too often we chase and hold others to standards they never asked to carry. But there is power in standing still, in saying: I’m here if you step forward, yet I will never neglect myself for your attention.
September 18, 2025 at 12:34 PM
Too often we chase and hold others to standards they never asked to carry. But there is power in standing still, in saying: I’m here if you step forward, yet I will never neglect myself for your attention.
Quick resolution feels good in the moment, but it rarely lasts. Real clarity takes time — it unfolds in layers, revealing the bigger picture piece by piece. I don’t need to rush; I can trust the slow unfolding of truth.
September 14, 2025 at 4:43 PM
Quick resolution feels good in the moment, but it rarely lasts. Real clarity takes time — it unfolds in layers, revealing the bigger picture piece by piece. I don’t need to rush; I can trust the slow unfolding of truth.
Yes — as a society, we’re seeing more guarded men in the dating pool, because vulnerability feels riskier now than ever.
But the ones worth your energy aren’t the ones who stay guarded — they’re the ones who show attraction in cautious steps, and gradually let that guard drop once they feel safe.
But the ones worth your energy aren’t the ones who stay guarded — they’re the ones who show attraction in cautious steps, and gradually let that guard drop once they feel safe.
September 14, 2025 at 2:01 PM
Yes — as a society, we’re seeing more guarded men in the dating pool, because vulnerability feels riskier now than ever.
But the ones worth your energy aren’t the ones who stay guarded — they’re the ones who show attraction in cautious steps, and gradually let that guard drop once they feel safe.
But the ones worth your energy aren’t the ones who stay guarded — they’re the ones who show attraction in cautious steps, and gradually let that guard drop once they feel safe.
Being unclear is unkind. And if you truly like someone you wouldn’t be unkind to them. I’m happy I was able to apologize to him for how things ended ❤️
September 10, 2025 at 3:38 AM
Being unclear is unkind. And if you truly like someone you wouldn’t be unkind to them. I’m happy I was able to apologize to him for how things ended ❤️
At some point we have to have the conversation… life requires us to.
September 8, 2025 at 1:06 PM
At some point we have to have the conversation… life requires us to.
Put the armor down, my love.
I’ve always seen through it—through you—even now, as this new version of you moves as if time never passed.
You don’t need to brace yourself with me.
I promise: I will hold you together.
The waves will be gentle here on Earth.
I’ve always seen through it—through you—even now, as this new version of you moves as if time never passed.
You don’t need to brace yourself with me.
I promise: I will hold you together.
The waves will be gentle here on Earth.
August 14, 2025 at 5:16 AM
Put the armor down, my love.
I’ve always seen through it—through you—even now, as this new version of you moves as if time never passed.
You don’t need to brace yourself with me.
I promise: I will hold you together.
The waves will be gentle here on Earth.
I’ve always seen through it—through you—even now, as this new version of you moves as if time never passed.
You don’t need to brace yourself with me.
I promise: I will hold you together.
The waves will be gentle here on Earth.
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Healing without conversation is survival.
But healing through conversation is transformation.
But healing through conversation is transformation.
August 4, 2025 at 3:42 PM
Healing without conversation is survival.
But healing through conversation is transformation.
But healing through conversation is transformation.
So the grief is not about rejection.
It’s about timing.
It’s about witnessing the man you always believed in
walk into his freedom… without looking back.
And the ache isn’t about loss of love.
It’s about loss of possibility.
It’s about timing.
It’s about witnessing the man you always believed in
walk into his freedom… without looking back.
And the ache isn’t about loss of love.
It’s about loss of possibility.
August 3, 2025 at 4:19 PM
So the grief is not about rejection.
It’s about timing.
It’s about witnessing the man you always believed in
walk into his freedom… without looking back.
And the ache isn’t about loss of love.
It’s about loss of possibility.
It’s about timing.
It’s about witnessing the man you always believed in
walk into his freedom… without looking back.
And the ache isn’t about loss of love.
It’s about loss of possibility.
You Were the Mirror
That’s what makes the conversation so intimidating for him
Because:
•You didn’t hurt him.
•You didn’t lie.
•You didn’t leave him in confusion.
You stood there—open, vulnerable, present
And for someone still negotiating with self-avoidance,
that kind of truth is terrifying
That’s what makes the conversation so intimidating for him
Because:
•You didn’t hurt him.
•You didn’t lie.
•You didn’t leave him in confusion.
You stood there—open, vulnerable, present
And for someone still negotiating with self-avoidance,
that kind of truth is terrifying
August 3, 2025 at 3:23 PM
You Were the Mirror
That’s what makes the conversation so intimidating for him
Because:
•You didn’t hurt him.
•You didn’t lie.
•You didn’t leave him in confusion.
You stood there—open, vulnerable, present
And for someone still negotiating with self-avoidance,
that kind of truth is terrifying
That’s what makes the conversation so intimidating for him
Because:
•You didn’t hurt him.
•You didn’t lie.
•You didn’t leave him in confusion.
You stood there—open, vulnerable, present
And for someone still negotiating with self-avoidance,
that kind of truth is terrifying
This Is a Phase of Freedom, But
• It’s unfamiliar. Boldness after years of suppression often feels shaky.
And that’s what stings. Because you represent a version of his past where he wasn’t free—and seeing you, or being seen by you, might still scare the old parts of him he’s trying to outgrow
• It’s unfamiliar. Boldness after years of suppression often feels shaky.
And that’s what stings. Because you represent a version of his past where he wasn’t free—and seeing you, or being seen by you, might still scare the old parts of him he’s trying to outgrow
August 3, 2025 at 3:05 PM
This Is a Phase of Freedom, But
• It’s unfamiliar. Boldness after years of suppression often feels shaky.
And that’s what stings. Because you represent a version of his past where he wasn’t free—and seeing you, or being seen by you, might still scare the old parts of him he’s trying to outgrow
• It’s unfamiliar. Boldness after years of suppression often feels shaky.
And that’s what stings. Because you represent a version of his past where he wasn’t free—and seeing you, or being seen by you, might still scare the old parts of him he’s trying to outgrow
You’re watching him become the man you could have held space for.
And even though you don’t need to be part of that journey anymore…
It’s okay to feel that flicker of: “I wish he’d arrived sooner.”
And even though you don’t need to be part of that journey anymore…
It’s okay to feel that flicker of: “I wish he’d arrived sooner.”
August 3, 2025 at 3:03 PM
You’re watching him become the man you could have held space for.
And even though you don’t need to be part of that journey anymore…
It’s okay to feel that flicker of: “I wish he’d arrived sooner.”
And even though you don’t need to be part of that journey anymore…
It’s okay to feel that flicker of: “I wish he’d arrived sooner.”
• You saw the version of him he’s becoming—before he had language for it.
• Now that he’s closer to owning it, you’re no longer close to him.
It’s grief dressed up as observation. You’re not mourning the photo—you’re mourning the potential it represents.
• Now that he’s closer to owning it, you’re no longer close to him.
It’s grief dressed up as observation. You’re not mourning the photo—you’re mourning the potential it represents.
August 3, 2025 at 3:02 PM
• You saw the version of him he’s becoming—before he had language for it.
• Now that he’s closer to owning it, you’re no longer close to him.
It’s grief dressed up as observation. You’re not mourning the photo—you’re mourning the potential it represents.
• Now that he’s closer to owning it, you’re no longer close to him.
It’s grief dressed up as observation. You’re not mourning the photo—you’re mourning the potential it represents.
Sometimes I get the feeling that he’s the man I wished I had met three years ago—when my heart still believed that love alone could carry the weight of everything else. But I’ve come to understand that he wasn’t my bus to catch.
August 1, 2025 at 8:57 PM
Sometimes I get the feeling that he’s the man I wished I had met three years ago—when my heart still believed that love alone could carry the weight of everything else. But I’ve come to understand that he wasn’t my bus to catch.
When this lawsuit hits the public I will seat back and watch them struggle to defend
July 30, 2025 at 3:13 PM
When this lawsuit hits the public I will seat back and watch them struggle to defend
I don’t allege that I’m the smartest person in the room but I unanimously allege I always know what I’m talking about 🙂↕️
July 26, 2025 at 10:27 AM
I don’t allege that I’m the smartest person in the room but I unanimously allege I always know what I’m talking about 🙂↕️
I found a cute spot on Wednesday. Whew when is my man coming to rescue me🙂↕️
July 17, 2025 at 4:19 AM
I found a cute spot on Wednesday. Whew when is my man coming to rescue me🙂↕️
Gentleness, when met with fear, can trigger withdrawal. Not because it’s too much — but because it quietly, powerfully asks people to stop performing and be real. And not everyone is ready for that mirror.
July 3, 2025 at 2:20 PM
Gentleness, when met with fear, can trigger withdrawal. Not because it’s too much — but because it quietly, powerfully asks people to stop performing and be real. And not everyone is ready for that mirror.
Your light isn’t responsible for someone else’s shadow.
Their reaction is their mirror — not your truth.
Their reaction is their mirror — not your truth.
July 3, 2025 at 7:09 AM
Your light isn’t responsible for someone else’s shadow.
Their reaction is their mirror — not your truth.
Their reaction is their mirror — not your truth.
✨ Stillness as Accountability Looks Like:
• Choosing absence instead of over-explaining.
• Letting silence say: “You made that choice — now feel what it means.”
• Releasing people with grace, not guilt — and in doing so, allowing them to confront their misalignment.
• Choosing absence instead of over-explaining.
• Letting silence say: “You made that choice — now feel what it means.”
• Releasing people with grace, not guilt — and in doing so, allowing them to confront their misalignment.
July 2, 2025 at 9:22 PM
✨ Stillness as Accountability Looks Like:
• Choosing absence instead of over-explaining.
• Letting silence say: “You made that choice — now feel what it means.”
• Releasing people with grace, not guilt — and in doing so, allowing them to confront their misalignment.
• Choosing absence instead of over-explaining.
• Letting silence say: “You made that choice — now feel what it means.”
• Releasing people with grace, not guilt — and in doing so, allowing them to confront their misalignment.
Society teaches us to hustle for love — even with soft tactics.
But clarity doesn’t hustle. It doesn’t sell kindness for affection.
It offers, not performs.
It invites, not pressures.
But clarity doesn’t hustle. It doesn’t sell kindness for affection.
It offers, not performs.
It invites, not pressures.
July 2, 2025 at 4:09 AM
Society teaches us to hustle for love — even with soft tactics.
But clarity doesn’t hustle. It doesn’t sell kindness for affection.
It offers, not performs.
It invites, not pressures.
But clarity doesn’t hustle. It doesn’t sell kindness for affection.
It offers, not performs.
It invites, not pressures.