Kip Ioane
@kipioane.bsky.social
Dad, Husband, & Founder TeamsOfMen | Empowering coaches to reimagine manhood with their players | Head Coach South Salem HS | Best Selling Author #MirrorTraining
My convo w/JP Nerbun & Betsy Broderick on the TOC Coaching Culture Podcast — about what happens when you stop teaching boys to “tough it out” & start teaching them to feel it through.
Its why I built #TeamsOfMen.
This is what reimagining manhood looks like.
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Its why I built #TeamsOfMen.
This is what reimagining manhood looks like.
podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/4...
October 5, 2025 at 4:42 PM
My convo w/JP Nerbun & Betsy Broderick on the TOC Coaching Culture Podcast — about what happens when you stop teaching boys to “tough it out” & start teaching them to feel it through.
Its why I built #TeamsOfMen.
This is what reimagining manhood looks like.
podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/4...
Its why I built #TeamsOfMen.
This is what reimagining manhood looks like.
podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/4...
Thank you to @intervalhousehamilton @mentoraction for having me kickoff the "Rewriting the Playbook" (Reimagining Masculinity, Prevention, & Possibility) Summit in Hamilton, Ontario today!
#teamsofmen #changestartswithme #mirrortraining
#teamsofmen #changestartswithme #mirrortraining
September 16, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Thank you to @intervalhousehamilton @mentoraction for having me kickoff the "Rewriting the Playbook" (Reimagining Masculinity, Prevention, & Possibility) Summit in Hamilton, Ontario today!
#teamsofmen #changestartswithme #mirrortraining
#teamsofmen #changestartswithme #mirrortraining
This piece is SO FAR OFF I didn't know where to start a rebuke...but here's a five point 🧵 anyway on disagreement with @ezrakleinbot.bsky.social piece
September 11, 2025 at 10:18 PM
This piece is SO FAR OFF I didn't know where to start a rebuke...but here's a five point 🧵 anyway on disagreement with @ezrakleinbot.bsky.social piece
47k likes for the post on the left.
But what about the reframing on the right?
If your players mirror your definition of manhood as much as your practice habits…what are they really learning from you?
Full blog here: www.teamsofmenmembership.group/30-second-ti...
#TeamsOfMen
But what about the reframing on the right?
If your players mirror your definition of manhood as much as your practice habits…what are they really learning from you?
Full blog here: www.teamsofmenmembership.group/30-second-ti...
#TeamsOfMen
September 5, 2025 at 9:43 PM
47k likes for the post on the left.
But what about the reframing on the right?
If your players mirror your definition of manhood as much as your practice habits…what are they really learning from you?
Full blog here: www.teamsofmenmembership.group/30-second-ti...
#TeamsOfMen
But what about the reframing on the right?
If your players mirror your definition of manhood as much as your practice habits…what are they really learning from you?
Full blog here: www.teamsofmenmembership.group/30-second-ti...
#TeamsOfMen
(1/3) Two different coaches—20+ year vets who’ve been leading male athletes their whole careers—called me after my latest #TeamsOfMen blog. Both said the same thing:
“I’ve always believed I was connected to my guys… but I just realized I’ve NEVER had a conversation about porn with a player.”
“I’ve always believed I was connected to my guys… but I just realized I’ve NEVER had a conversation about porn with a player.”
September 4, 2025 at 5:00 PM
(1/3) Two different coaches—20+ year vets who’ve been leading male athletes their whole careers—called me after my latest #TeamsOfMen blog. Both said the same thing:
“I’ve always believed I was connected to my guys… but I just realized I’ve NEVER had a conversation about porn with a player.”
“I’ve always believed I was connected to my guys… but I just realized I’ve NEVER had a conversation about porn with a player.”
If they DON'T see it, can you really claim "Details Matter" in your program?
If they DON'T call it out and say 'this is BS we don't cosign', can you really pub your CULTURE?
This is #TeamsOfMen.
Framing current events to push coaches to be better.
www.teamsofmenmembership.group/30-second-ti...
If they DON'T call it out and say 'this is BS we don't cosign', can you really pub your CULTURE?
This is #TeamsOfMen.
Framing current events to push coaches to be better.
www.teamsofmenmembership.group/30-second-ti...
August 24, 2025 at 5:22 PM
If they DON'T see it, can you really claim "Details Matter" in your program?
If they DON'T call it out and say 'this is BS we don't cosign', can you really pub your CULTURE?
This is #TeamsOfMen.
Framing current events to push coaches to be better.
www.teamsofmenmembership.group/30-second-ti...
If they DON'T call it out and say 'this is BS we don't cosign', can you really pub your CULTURE?
This is #TeamsOfMen.
Framing current events to push coaches to be better.
www.teamsofmenmembership.group/30-second-ti...
(1/2)
Coach Cliche #1394: "Winning is in the Details"
Great.
So, can we take 5 minutes next practice to ask if our guys "vision" picks up the tone shift here at 1AM
(this is a screengrab of a post from X that got 4 million views)
Coach Cliche #1394: "Winning is in the Details"
Great.
So, can we take 5 minutes next practice to ask if our guys "vision" picks up the tone shift here at 1AM
(this is a screengrab of a post from X that got 4 million views)
August 24, 2025 at 5:22 PM
(1/2)
Coach Cliche #1394: "Winning is in the Details"
Great.
So, can we take 5 minutes next practice to ask if our guys "vision" picks up the tone shift here at 1AM
(this is a screengrab of a post from X that got 4 million views)
Coach Cliche #1394: "Winning is in the Details"
Great.
So, can we take 5 minutes next practice to ask if our guys "vision" picks up the tone shift here at 1AM
(this is a screengrab of a post from X that got 4 million views)
(1/3) This was my desk yesterday.
Not during a game. Not prepping an opponent. Not watching film.
Just building the realest system I run all year.
The #TeamsOfMen calendar for our entire boys basketball program character development.
Not during a game. Not prepping an opponent. Not watching film.
Just building the realest system I run all year.
The #TeamsOfMen calendar for our entire boys basketball program character development.
July 29, 2025 at 6:30 PM
(1/3) This was my desk yesterday.
Not during a game. Not prepping an opponent. Not watching film.
Just building the realest system I run all year.
The #TeamsOfMen calendar for our entire boys basketball program character development.
Not during a game. Not prepping an opponent. Not watching film.
Just building the realest system I run all year.
The #TeamsOfMen calendar for our entire boys basketball program character development.
“I’m afraid to say the wrong thing” is a real thing…and at the same time NOT a reason to embrace the limited knowledge set you have that could lead to BS coming out of your mouth in the first place
July 2, 2025 at 4:48 PM
“I’m afraid to say the wrong thing” is a real thing…and at the same time NOT a reason to embrace the limited knowledge set you have that could lead to BS coming out of your mouth in the first place
There is nowhere to escape or deny the reality of authoritarianism
June 19, 2025 at 8:13 PM
There is nowhere to escape or deny the reality of authoritarianism
(4) So what if we stopped squeezing them down—
and just let ourselves feel (and drink) them as they are?
and just let ourselves feel (and drink) them as they are?
June 16, 2025 at 7:54 PM
(4) So what if we stopped squeezing them down—
and just let ourselves feel (and drink) them as they are?
and just let ourselves feel (and drink) them as they are?
(3) Eventually, they spill.
Not usually in private. They land on whoever’s closest.
And more often than not, that means someone you care about.
Not usually in private. They land on whoever’s closest.
And more often than not, that means someone you care about.
June 16, 2025 at 7:54 PM
(3) Eventually, they spill.
Not usually in private. They land on whoever’s closest.
And more often than not, that means someone you care about.
Not usually in private. They land on whoever’s closest.
And more often than not, that means someone you care about.
(2) I held one up and asked:“Which weighs more—this one or that one?”
The answer: depends on how long you’re forced to carry it.
That’s what emotions are like. The longer you hold them, the heavier they get.
The answer: depends on how long you’re forced to carry it.
That’s what emotions are like. The longer you hold them, the heavier they get.
June 16, 2025 at 7:54 PM
(2) I held one up and asked:“Which weighs more—this one or that one?”
The answer: depends on how long you’re forced to carry it.
That’s what emotions are like. The longer you hold them, the heavier they get.
The answer: depends on how long you’re forced to carry it.
That’s what emotions are like. The longer you hold them, the heavier they get.
(1) #MentalHealthMonth #TeamsOfMen Session Snapshot
40 high school aged male basketball players
We started with water bottles.
Not stats. Not film. Not another hype speech.
Water bottles.
40 high school aged male basketball players
We started with water bottles.
Not stats. Not film. Not another hype speech.
Water bottles.
June 16, 2025 at 7:54 PM
(1) #MentalHealthMonth #TeamsOfMen Session Snapshot
40 high school aged male basketball players
We started with water bottles.
Not stats. Not film. Not another hype speech.
Water bottles.
40 high school aged male basketball players
We started with water bottles.
Not stats. Not film. Not another hype speech.
Water bottles.
(1/5) Am I off or are the folks chiming into the LA discourse like “waving the Mexican flag during the riot is wrong” only viewing it through the lens of: “well of course everything ever is about white people and this won’t move them.”
June 10, 2025 at 8:22 PM
(1/5) Am I off or are the folks chiming into the LA discourse like “waving the Mexican flag during the riot is wrong” only viewing it through the lens of: “well of course everything ever is about white people and this won’t move them.”
“Let’s be honest: as we get older, not a lot of us even want to be challenged…
Young men haven’t aged out of openness. We need to meet them there.”
Young men haven’t aged out of openness. We need to meet them there.”
June 7, 2025 at 6:51 PM
“Let’s be honest: as we get older, not a lot of us even want to be challenged…
Young men haven’t aged out of openness. We need to meet them there.”
Young men haven’t aged out of openness. We need to meet them there.”
Our guys rewrote violence based play calls and verified interrupting language to use with one another.
20 minutes. No adult scripts. Just ownership.
Any coach can make space for this.
Want help starting? We’re here.
#TeamsOfMen #AthleteLeadership
20 minutes. No adult scripts. Just ownership.
Any coach can make space for this.
Want help starting? We’re here.
#TeamsOfMen #AthleteLeadership
June 2, 2025 at 5:03 PM
Our guys rewrote violence based play calls and verified interrupting language to use with one another.
20 minutes. No adult scripts. Just ownership.
Any coach can make space for this.
Want help starting? We’re here.
#TeamsOfMen #AthleteLeadership
20 minutes. No adult scripts. Just ownership.
Any coach can make space for this.
Want help starting? We’re here.
#TeamsOfMen #AthleteLeadership
No stage. No mic. Just bleachers.
We asked:
“How many words do you say in a day?”
“What sticks?”
The answer? Way more than we think.
And way more than we’ve been taught to take seriously.
How do you handle language culture on your team?
#HealthyMasculinity #TeamCulture #TeamsOfMen
We asked:
“How many words do you say in a day?”
“What sticks?”
The answer? Way more than we think.
And way more than we’ve been taught to take seriously.
How do you handle language culture on your team?
#HealthyMasculinity #TeamCulture #TeamsOfMen
June 2, 2025 at 5:03 PM
No stage. No mic. Just bleachers.
We asked:
“How many words do you say in a day?”
“What sticks?”
The answer? Way more than we think.
And way more than we’ve been taught to take seriously.
How do you handle language culture on your team?
#HealthyMasculinity #TeamCulture #TeamsOfMen
We asked:
“How many words do you say in a day?”
“What sticks?”
The answer? Way more than we think.
And way more than we’ve been taught to take seriously.
How do you handle language culture on your team?
#HealthyMasculinity #TeamCulture #TeamsOfMen
Started with this:
What we say to each other—and ourselves—builds the team we become.
20 minutes with my boys basketball players at South Salem HS.
By the end, they changed what we call a play. And how we call each other in. What would your team change?
#CoachingLife #WordsMatter #TeamsOfMen
What we say to each other—and ourselves—builds the team we become.
20 minutes with my boys basketball players at South Salem HS.
By the end, they changed what we call a play. And how we call each other in. What would your team change?
#CoachingLife #WordsMatter #TeamsOfMen
June 2, 2025 at 5:03 PM
Started with this:
What we say to each other—and ourselves—builds the team we become.
20 minutes with my boys basketball players at South Salem HS.
By the end, they changed what we call a play. And how we call each other in. What would your team change?
#CoachingLife #WordsMatter #TeamsOfMen
What we say to each other—and ourselves—builds the team we become.
20 minutes with my boys basketball players at South Salem HS.
By the end, they changed what we call a play. And how we call each other in. What would your team change?
#CoachingLife #WordsMatter #TeamsOfMen
Alexandria Love’s breakdown of ally vs. accomplice vs. savior gave me a lot to affirm—and a few places I had to pause, challenge, and translate it through the lens of coaching boys and leading #TeamsOfMen.
“Alignment isn’t the same as full agreement. But both can lead to growth.”
“Alignment isn’t the same as full agreement. But both can lead to growth.”
May 30, 2025 at 4:54 PM
Alexandria Love’s breakdown of ally vs. accomplice vs. savior gave me a lot to affirm—and a few places I had to pause, challenge, and translate it through the lens of coaching boys and leading #TeamsOfMen.
“Alignment isn’t the same as full agreement. But both can lead to growth.”
“Alignment isn’t the same as full agreement. But both can lead to growth.”
An excerpt from my book #MirrorTraining and a new offer for coaches of male athletes to get their staff started in our framework
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May 28, 2025 at 4:51 AM
An excerpt from my book #MirrorTraining and a new offer for coaches of male athletes to get their staff started in our framework
a.co/d/4XpZTXx
a.co/d/4XpZTXx
Thanks to Eli Thompson’s WSJ piece for sparking this one.
And to every athlete who’s ever sat in a TeamsOfMen session and asked a brave, unfinished question.
And to every athlete who’s ever sat in a TeamsOfMen session and asked a brave, unfinished question.
May 16, 2025 at 5:06 PM
Thanks to Eli Thompson’s WSJ piece for sparking this one.
And to every athlete who’s ever sat in a TeamsOfMen session and asked a brave, unfinished question.
And to every athlete who’s ever sat in a TeamsOfMen session and asked a brave, unfinished question.
This one’s not about extremists.
It’s about the middle — the athlete who isn’t reposting Tate but has heard him.
The kid who isn’t sure where he stands… but wishes someone would just say something honest and real.
It’s about the middle — the athlete who isn’t reposting Tate but has heard him.
The kid who isn’t sure where he stands… but wishes someone would just say something honest and real.
May 16, 2025 at 5:06 PM
This one’s not about extremists.
It’s about the middle — the athlete who isn’t reposting Tate but has heard him.
The kid who isn’t sure where he stands… but wishes someone would just say something honest and real.
It’s about the middle — the athlete who isn’t reposting Tate but has heard him.
The kid who isn’t sure where he stands… but wishes someone would just say something honest and real.