D.L. Chandler
@dlchandler123.bsky.social
Journalist/Editor. Hip-Hop, NBA (Let's Go WIZARDS), MMA, & cocktail hobbyist/studier in that order. Born in DC, Raised in PG. Notable mumbo sauce expert. An actual writer, not an activist.
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I am so fatigued by the gender wars and divide. Men, women, transwomen and transmen and non-binary peoples...we all need each other. I won't turn my back on another human being because of how they identify and I will never platform one over the other EVER (unless you're an asshole then fk u)
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People can tell that you’re navigating out of hurt and anxiety, hell we all are.
But it’s not fair to project your baggage onto others, and people can tell when you’re doing so.
But it’s not fair to project your baggage onto others, and people can tell when you’re doing so.
November 28, 2025 at 7:41 PM
People can tell that you’re navigating out of hurt and anxiety, hell we all are.
But it’s not fair to project your baggage onto others, and people can tell when you’re doing so.
But it’s not fair to project your baggage onto others, and people can tell when you’re doing so.
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Your pessimism within dating leaks into your actions.
We need to be more aware of how our jadedness and pessimism subconsciously influences how we date.
Everyone has a “story” but don’t let your story stop you from creating new ones.
We need to be more aware of how our jadedness and pessimism subconsciously influences how we date.
Everyone has a “story” but don’t let your story stop you from creating new ones.
November 28, 2025 at 7:38 PM
Your pessimism within dating leaks into your actions.
We need to be more aware of how our jadedness and pessimism subconsciously influences how we date.
Everyone has a “story” but don’t let your story stop you from creating new ones.
We need to be more aware of how our jadedness and pessimism subconsciously influences how we date.
Everyone has a “story” but don’t let your story stop you from creating new ones.
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I get this idea 100%, & women deserve SO much better, but I also believe people have to stop applying the one strike rule to everything then go off about being unsupported. We need to do the work IN the relationship. You have to open & be open. Healing together always does much more good than harm.
November 28, 2025 at 4:03 PM
I get this idea 100%, & women deserve SO much better, but I also believe people have to stop applying the one strike rule to everything then go off about being unsupported. We need to do the work IN the relationship. You have to open & be open. Healing together always does much more good than harm.
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Many of us cause harm & have no intention of doing so. It's also not one-sided, but that convo can't happen yet because it always becomes a battle of the sexes.
We too crave being sought out, desired, & deserve apologies when we share that you hurt us. Not to shift power, but because are humans.
We too crave being sought out, desired, & deserve apologies when we share that you hurt us. Not to shift power, but because are humans.
November 28, 2025 at 4:03 PM
Many of us cause harm & have no intention of doing so. It's also not one-sided, but that convo can't happen yet because it always becomes a battle of the sexes.
We too crave being sought out, desired, & deserve apologies when we share that you hurt us. Not to shift power, but because are humans.
We too crave being sought out, desired, & deserve apologies when we share that you hurt us. Not to shift power, but because are humans.
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Most of us crave vulnerability & want to be in love. Hell, I am. But beyond our vulnerability being weaponized, it also becomes harder to be forgiven for any misstep ever. We then make the list of "seven deadly exes" when all that needed to happen was a simple addressing of a behavior or language.
November 28, 2025 at 4:03 PM
Most of us crave vulnerability & want to be in love. Hell, I am. But beyond our vulnerability being weaponized, it also becomes harder to be forgiven for any misstep ever. We then make the list of "seven deadly exes" when all that needed to happen was a simple addressing of a behavior or language.
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I never chime in on this stuff online because relationships are too niche for this discourse in my opinion, but I don't believe that idea helps reduce the patriarchal harm (decent) men are expected to reduce. It still supports that we are only worth the time based on what we do. I agree.
That a man gotta love you more than you love him shtick is rooted in insecurities but ima hush 🤐maybe one day we will all stop moving according to what society says should be the norm.
November 28, 2025 at 4:03 PM
I never chime in on this stuff online because relationships are too niche for this discourse in my opinion, but I don't believe that idea helps reduce the patriarchal harm (decent) men are expected to reduce. It still supports that we are only worth the time based on what we do. I agree.
I ate sweet potato pie yesterday.
Yep. Still disgusting. Everyone else loved it, however.
I'm fine being the outlier.
You can't whoop my ass (without help). Please don't be mean to me.
Yep. Still disgusting. Everyone else loved it, however.
I'm fine being the outlier.
You can't whoop my ass (without help). Please don't be mean to me.
November 28, 2025 at 9:23 PM
I ate sweet potato pie yesterday.
Yep. Still disgusting. Everyone else loved it, however.
I'm fine being the outlier.
You can't whoop my ass (without help). Please don't be mean to me.
Yep. Still disgusting. Everyone else loved it, however.
I'm fine being the outlier.
You can't whoop my ass (without help). Please don't be mean to me.
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November 28, 2025 at 9:22 PM
It's windy on the Eastern Seaboard. That's why for this Black Friday, you need to check out my new & improved WeatherProof Lacefronts...NOW WITH IMPROVED CHIN STRAPS! Call now & we'll send 2, that's right, TWI Sport Edition Lacefronts along with our aerosol-free wig spray! CALL NOW!
Pisces here. Kind of right.
SpongeBob unveils zodiac signs as SpongeBob characters:
• SpongeBob - Gemini
• Patrick - Sagittarius
• Sandy - Aries
• Squidward - Taurus
• Mrs. Puff - Cancer
• Pearl - Leo
• Karen - Virgo
• Mermaid Man - Libra
• Plankton - Scorpio
• Mr. Krabs - Capricorn
• Bubble Buddy - Aquarius
• Gary - Pisces
• SpongeBob - Gemini
• Patrick - Sagittarius
• Sandy - Aries
• Squidward - Taurus
• Mrs. Puff - Cancer
• Pearl - Leo
• Karen - Virgo
• Mermaid Man - Libra
• Plankton - Scorpio
• Mr. Krabs - Capricorn
• Bubble Buddy - Aquarius
• Gary - Pisces
November 28, 2025 at 8:00 PM
Pisces here. Kind of right.
Please do not fix my plate. I'm a fucking adult. And if you want me to fix yours, I will. I don't want my woman doing too much for me. We can cook and clean and serve each other.
November 28, 2025 at 7:44 PM
Please do not fix my plate. I'm a fucking adult. And if you want me to fix yours, I will. I don't want my woman doing too much for me. We can cook and clean and serve each other.
I bet you this man blessed and protected beyond measure and I bet it's good too
My pho guy closes his shop on Black Friday every year and just cooks hibachi out front all day for anyone that wants it for free
November 28, 2025 at 7:43 PM
I bet you this man blessed and protected beyond measure and I bet it's good too
Klay was so full, he ain't know what day it was lol
November 28, 2025 at 7:26 PM
Klay was so full, he ain't know what day it was lol
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The ability to cook and clean is an essential part of daily living, not something determined by gender.
November 28, 2025 at 6:41 PM
The ability to cook and clean is an essential part of daily living, not something determined by gender.
The only business I'm supporting today is a Black and woman-owned tea and tincture spot, Calabash Tea. - calabashtea.com
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November 28, 2025 at 3:39 PM
The only business I'm supporting today is a Black and woman-owned tea and tincture spot, Calabash Tea. - calabashtea.com
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I hate when y’all talk about dating. Yall be getting with people to see how you can do the least for someone you’re claiming to care about to get the most. Real users and I don’t like that.
November 28, 2025 at 3:02 PM
I hate when y’all talk about dating. Yall be getting with people to see how you can do the least for someone you’re claiming to care about to get the most. Real users and I don’t like that.
I'm gonna just start replying "Congrats On The Sex" because it's clear that they want us to know they're out there getting it in.
Idc about whether a married or single person posts The Disheveled Doll™; it only aggravates me when someone is posting it repeatedly. Now you up outta here fucky mc fuckerson 😒
November 28, 2025 at 3:37 PM
I'm gonna just start replying "Congrats On The Sex" because it's clear that they want us to know they're out there getting it in.
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That a man gotta love you more than you love him shtick is rooted in insecurities but ima hush 🤐maybe one day we will all stop moving according to what society says should be the norm.
November 28, 2025 at 3:33 PM
That a man gotta love you more than you love him shtick is rooted in insecurities but ima hush 🤐maybe one day we will all stop moving according to what society says should be the norm.
Getting high and sipping beer with my dad in the man cave
November 27, 2025 at 7:46 PM
Getting high and sipping beer with my dad in the man cave
Stick shift mode
November 27, 2025 at 5:52 AM
Stick shift mode
I just know he got them itchy scratchies on his tender bits.
Ray J Claims He Had Sex With 10,000 People, Throws Party to Celebrate
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November 27, 2025 at 1:55 AM
I just know he got them itchy scratchies on his tender bits.
Despite the high and low emotions and the heavy workload and the irritation of Washington DC area traffic, and mourning my mom, I am in one of the best moods I've experienced in a long while.
November 27, 2025 at 12:04 AM
Despite the high and low emotions and the heavy workload and the irritation of Washington DC area traffic, and mourning my mom, I am in one of the best moods I've experienced in a long while.
If you need some cannabis suggestions for "Danksgiving," check out this roundup I just published for my day job. #cannabis #thanksgiving #danskgiving - hiphopwired.com/2923117/gree...
Check Out Our Green Wednesday 2025 Roundup, Just In Time For "Danksgiving"
While everybody will mostly focus on the bird and fixings, Green Wednesday is for those of us who want to, ahem, elevate our holiday.
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November 26, 2025 at 10:00 PM
If you need some cannabis suggestions for "Danksgiving," check out this roundup I just published for my day job. #cannabis #thanksgiving #danskgiving - hiphopwired.com/2923117/gree...
My least fave thing about social media are fake debates or "this or that" black and white convos. A lot of people are too stupid to discuss things with any manner of nuance, or they're too hellbent on proving their mental superiority instead of having a collaborative conversation.
November 26, 2025 at 9:50 PM
My least fave thing about social media are fake debates or "this or that" black and white convos. A lot of people are too stupid to discuss things with any manner of nuance, or they're too hellbent on proving their mental superiority instead of having a collaborative conversation.
I just got this in the mail. I wonder if I made a balsamic vinaigrette with this, if it would work? - www.lehuabrands.com/brands/ouid-...
Oui'd Chef- Drizzle not Sizzle
Oui’d Chef was created as a tasteful, welcoming, health-consciousintroduction to cannabis. Our goal was simple: to craft something thatbelongs in every kitchen, regardless of who you are or where you ...
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November 26, 2025 at 9:20 PM
I just got this in the mail. I wonder if I made a balsamic vinaigrette with this, if it would work? - www.lehuabrands.com/brands/ouid-...
I won't be mean spirited in response or act incredulous as some might but I would like to ask where problematic comes in. Maybe I missed something.
I do not like rom com as a genre, and seeing how problematic most seem to be in hindsight, kinda proud of that lol
Speaking of Black movies.
What is your favorite Black rom-com / Romance movie?
(ALL THE LOVE & BASKETBALL FOLKS SIT THIS ONE OUT ❤️)
What is your favorite Black rom-com / Romance movie?
(ALL THE LOVE & BASKETBALL FOLKS SIT THIS ONE OUT ❤️)
November 26, 2025 at 7:12 PM
I won't be mean spirited in response or act incredulous as some might but I would like to ask where problematic comes in. Maybe I missed something.