unfortunately i definitely have a nasty head cold of sorts 💔💔 but thankfully it's going away prety quickly with plenty of medication and rest, so i should be good as new in a few short days!🤍🫂

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DIA!!!!!!!

shess sooooo cute aww ml!! i love her eyes!!!!

life would be easier if i could vom purge but also no the fuck it wouldn't because i would do it all the time and that sounds miserable

you too ! hope you and your guests enjoy your silent feast tonight 🤍

not her fault at all really, if i had the chance to get out of here and choose parties and a boyfriend over our fuck ass parents then i would make them spend every holiday alone too. shes only coming around these days bc she feels guilty tbh and that makes it worse.

my best (and worst, he was an asshole) relationship was also a qpr, i definitely went through that whole phase where i threw myself into regualr relationships bc i thought i was supposed to to be "normal" +and if they're not willing to have you sick then they're not good enough for you when healed 🫂

also, if you like micro lables then Quoiromantic or Cupioromantic could also help you understand and find community for your feelings a bit better

–You can still be someones special person without it being a traditional relationship, you can still have a special connection that feels comfy for you and your desires, you can still be cared for and appreciated and share those things with someone else in a way that other people wouldn't understand

ive read through all this and just wanted to say as an aromantic person: you don't have to give up that hopeless loving yearning side to be aro!! attraction, love, and relationships are a total spectrum, and maybe some type of a QPR could be right for you.—

—at least he eventually felt comfortable enough to open up about it now, and hopefully that means he can be better about it in the future since the reaction was productive 🤍 i'll bet the both of you will feel better abt the situation as time goes on and things will get more comfortable

i totally relate to not feeling approachable and the "ugh you're too intimidating" thing because of my autism, but i imagine it's worse with the layered misogyny on top of it 😕 im glad that you guys were able to have a good conversation about it, just keep in mind that even if it came out late,—

–again, obv i dont know any of the context here but i can definitely relate to feeling like im not welcome to be open with my bad feelings, not because of the person im trying to open up to or how they would react, but exclusively because ive been taught it's not socially okay to be vulnerable 🫂

–that isn't good and happy or straight up mean and angry, then we're "just being a sensitive little bitch, its not that deep" and to "just let it roll of ur back", there could be tons of reasons why he didn't open up about this earlier, it likely wasn't some sort of attack on you or ur behavior 🫂🫂–

i totally sympathize w/ where you're coming from and obviously i dont know any of the context behind his behavior from just one post, but he likely didn't mean to imply anything like that!! we tend to be socialized to believe that if we express the way we're feeling about anyone or any relationship—

aawwweeeee lovely vinnie 🤍🤍