Libby Banks (is querying a therapy book)
@libbyiscomplex.bsky.social
Autistic therapist/author/thinker. Developer of a modality! LPC/LCDC/MA. She/They. Bisexual goofball. Elder millennial. Happily partnered to my AuDHD dreamboat. POTS/hEDS. http://www.libbyiscomplex.com
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- Leftist/elder millennial/autistic/chronically ill/practitioner-researcher/writer
- Happily partnered with my AuDHD dreamboat, @fuzzymac505.bsky.social
- Developed a radical therapeutic modality and writing a book - more info at www.libbyiscomplex.com
- Leftist/elder millennial/autistic/chronically ill/practitioner-researcher/writer
- Happily partnered with my AuDHD dreamboat, @fuzzymac505.bsky.social
- Developed a radical therapeutic modality and writing a book - more info at www.libbyiscomplex.com
This is hard to share. Relocated to New Mexico from Texas 6mo ago for Wyatt’s food truck/safety/need for more familial support, Houston house still unsold despite $50k price drop. Old mortgage + new business + medical costs = underwater. Raising $6k to sustain until house sells.
gofund.me/6b47f89ff
gofund.me/6b47f89ff
Donate to Help Libby & Wyatt Stay Afloat During Transition, organized by Libby Banks
What happened:
Six months ago, we made a big move: we relocated to New M… Libby Banks needs your support for Help Libby & Wyatt Stay Afloat During Transition
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November 19, 2025 at 5:23 PM
This is hard to share. Relocated to New Mexico from Texas 6mo ago for Wyatt’s food truck/safety/need for more familial support, Houston house still unsold despite $50k price drop. Old mortgage + new business + medical costs = underwater. Raising $6k to sustain until house sells.
gofund.me/6b47f89ff
gofund.me/6b47f89ff
Reposted by Libby Banks (is querying a therapy book)
Watching disabled people around the world mourn Alice is a reminder of the good aspect of the internet. 30 years ago, few people outside of SF would ever have known Alice existed. I never would have met her. The internet connected us all. Let’s honor Alice’s memory by using that power and community.
My social media is wall-to-wall love for the incomparable Alice Wong, and I need more words. What captures sadness and/also affection for a community that knows what's been lost?
Alice could not eat food for years.
And yet at Christmas she would bake cookies and mail them to me—such was her desire to provide care for the people she loved.
And yet at Christmas she would bake cookies and mail them to me—such was her desire to provide care for the people she loved.
November 16, 2025 at 4:56 AM
Watching disabled people around the world mourn Alice is a reminder of the good aspect of the internet. 30 years ago, few people outside of SF would ever have known Alice existed. I never would have met her. The internet connected us all. Let’s honor Alice’s memory by using that power and community.
Reposted by Libby Banks (is querying a therapy book)
Alice Wong was one of the most effective people challenging the Whiteness of disability communities and its many flaws, but who believed fiercely in us as a community, in disabled people as oracles.
Alice brought so much to so many of us, it’s hard to measure the kind of gratitude I have for that.
Alice brought so much to so many of us, it’s hard to measure the kind of gratitude I have for that.
November 15, 2025 at 1:34 PM
Alice Wong was one of the most effective people challenging the Whiteness of disability communities and its many flaws, but who believed fiercely in us as a community, in disabled people as oracles.
Alice brought so much to so many of us, it’s hard to measure the kind of gratitude I have for that.
Alice brought so much to so many of us, it’s hard to measure the kind of gratitude I have for that.
I think the Elyse Myers thing is a vivid example RE: norms that are about power differentials/preventing structural harm are not “arbitrary neurotypical etiquette.” Autism does not preclude responsibility and power.
November 15, 2025 at 10:13 PM
I think the Elyse Myers thing is a vivid example RE: norms that are about power differentials/preventing structural harm are not “arbitrary neurotypical etiquette.” Autism does not preclude responsibility and power.
The Disability Visibility Project taught me so much about disability as culture, community, and resistance and that although I have access needs that will exist in any society I am in, the violence against those needs is socially constructed. Grateful for Alice Wong's advocacy - it changed my life.
November 15, 2025 at 9:27 PM
The Disability Visibility Project taught me so much about disability as culture, community, and resistance and that although I have access needs that will exist in any society I am in, the violence against those needs is socially constructed. Grateful for Alice Wong's advocacy - it changed my life.
Reposted by Libby Banks (is querying a therapy book)
I don’t want to formulate words yet, but my friend Alice Wong, @sfdirewolf.bsky.social of the Disability Visibility Project, has passed.
Here are the words she left behind:
www.instagram.com/p/DREMDNBjnq...
Here are the words she left behind:
www.instagram.com/p/DREMDNBjnq...
Alice Wong on Instagram: "ID: Yellow background with black text "This is Alice's friend Sandy Ho, posting. Per Alice's wishes, this message is being shared at the time of her passing. Hi everyone, it ...
423 likes, 73 comments - alicatsamurai on November 14, 2025: "ID: Yellow background with black text "This is Alice's friend Sandy Ho, posting. Per Alice's wishes, this message is being shared at the t...
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November 15, 2025 at 5:57 AM
I don’t want to formulate words yet, but my friend Alice Wong, @sfdirewolf.bsky.social of the Disability Visibility Project, has passed.
Here are the words she left behind:
www.instagram.com/p/DREMDNBjnq...
Here are the words she left behind:
www.instagram.com/p/DREMDNBjnq...
Reposted by Libby Banks (is querying a therapy book)
I’m heartsick to hear that the incomparable Alice Wong has passed. Her loss will be felt keenly, by many, and for a long time. She is a force, a generous leader and storyteller, and an oracle for disabled futures. Much love to Alice and to all our crip kin and comrades. ❤️🩹
November 15, 2025 at 5:47 AM
I’m heartsick to hear that the incomparable Alice Wong has passed. Her loss will be felt keenly, by many, and for a long time. She is a force, a generous leader and storyteller, and an oracle for disabled futures. Much love to Alice and to all our crip kin and comrades. ❤️🩹
Yesterday, I was thinking about my life online as a autistic psychotherapist. In my 5 years of sharing my thinking publicly, I've gone from "how I try to navigate a ableist system ethically" to "let's dismantle the mental health industrial complex and reimagine better together." Growth remains wild.
November 11, 2025 at 8:17 PM
Yesterday, I was thinking about my life online as a autistic psychotherapist. In my 5 years of sharing my thinking publicly, I've gone from "how I try to navigate a ableist system ethically" to "let's dismantle the mental health industrial complex and reimagine better together." Growth remains wild.
Wrote about body dysmorphic disorder and its global impact on my visual processing (among other things). CWs: body dysmorphic disorder, visual processing dysfunction, mental health misdiagnosis.
The Kenneth Effect: When Your Brain Sees Everyone Wrong
Content warnings: Body dysmorphic disorder, visual processing dysfunction, mental health misdiagnosis
www.libbyiscomplex.com
November 11, 2025 at 6:28 PM
Wrote about body dysmorphic disorder and its global impact on my visual processing (among other things). CWs: body dysmorphic disorder, visual processing dysfunction, mental health misdiagnosis.
New essay about pathological demand avoidance/pervasive drive for autonomy and friendship.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/comet-frie...
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/comet-frie...
November 5, 2025 at 1:29 AM
New essay about pathological demand avoidance/pervasive drive for autonomy and friendship.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/comet-frie...
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/comet-frie...
Wrote about disenfranchised grief, disability, and neurodivergence today.
The Futures We Never Got to Mourn
CW: Childlessness, chronic illness, trauma
www.libbyiscomplex.com
October 21, 2025 at 10:29 PM
Wrote about disenfranchised grief, disability, and neurodivergence today.
3.5 months into writing essays/flash seriously, Smokelong Fitness gave me what I didn't know I needed: community that understands compression and takes craft seriously. Really grateful for this community workshop as someone who is geographically + professionally isolated.
October 15, 2025 at 1:31 AM
3.5 months into writing essays/flash seriously, Smokelong Fitness gave me what I didn't know I needed: community that understands compression and takes craft seriously. Really grateful for this community workshop as someone who is geographically + professionally isolated.
I spent years labeling myself as "anxiously attached" until someone showed up consistently - then I ran. Turns out disorganized attachment can be a brilliant shape-shifter.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-attach...
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-attach...
The Attachment Style That Hid from Me
Why I Couldn't Recognize My Own Avoidance
www.libbyiscomplex.com
October 15, 2025 at 1:24 AM
I spent years labeling myself as "anxiously attached" until someone showed up consistently - then I ran. Turns out disorganized attachment can be a brilliant shape-shifter.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-attach...
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-attach...
Reposted by Libby Banks (is querying a therapy book)
US farmers are saying they "just need temporary help, until things get better."
Here's the thing. US farm exports- which are mostly soy- CANNOT get better.
Other countries expanded their soy industries to fill China's demand.
We've walled ourselves out of the global market, folks. This is it.
Here's the thing. US farm exports- which are mostly soy- CANNOT get better.
Other countries expanded their soy industries to fill China's demand.
We've walled ourselves out of the global market, folks. This is it.
September 30, 2025 at 10:40 PM
US farmers are saying they "just need temporary help, until things get better."
Here's the thing. US farm exports- which are mostly soy- CANNOT get better.
Other countries expanded their soy industries to fill China's demand.
We've walled ourselves out of the global market, folks. This is it.
Here's the thing. US farm exports- which are mostly soy- CANNOT get better.
Other countries expanded their soy industries to fill China's demand.
We've walled ourselves out of the global market, folks. This is it.
Reposted by Libby Banks (is querying a therapy book)
Here's the killer follow up question: Why?
Rollins: "It's Biblical - we've got to produce our own food. The president has talked significantly about the importance of onshoring our manufacturing. We also have to onshore our food. We have over the last decade begun to import more than we export, whether it's citrus or berries or even meat."
October 1, 2025 at 1:32 AM
Here's the killer follow up question: Why?
New piece on autistic pattern recognition, demand avoidance, and why some of us loop through every moral angle before choosing because we understand the cost of getting it wrong.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/its-not-in...
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/its-not-in...
It's Not Indecision, It's Devotion
The worst place to have a crisis of morality is the candy aisle at 10:30 PM.
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September 30, 2025 at 9:50 PM
New piece on autistic pattern recognition, demand avoidance, and why some of us loop through every moral angle before choosing because we understand the cost of getting it wrong.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/its-not-in...
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/its-not-in...
In Agatha All Along, Lilia lives out of temporal order. Wrote about temporal displacement, gestalt integration, and permission to exist non-linearly. (CW: dissociation. Spoilers for Agatha All Along.)
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/living-lif...
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/living-lif...
Living Life Out of Order: What Lilia Calderu Teaches Us About Dissociation and Integration
Content warning: This essay discusses dissociation and dissociative experiences through the lens of a fictional character.
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September 23, 2025 at 9:46 PM
In Agatha All Along, Lilia lives out of temporal order. Wrote about temporal displacement, gestalt integration, and permission to exist non-linearly. (CW: dissociation. Spoilers for Agatha All Along.)
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/living-lif...
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/living-lif...
Reposted by Libby Banks (is querying a therapy book)
Queer and neurodivergent people are biological facts.
We are stable parts of the human genome.
“Human cognitive diversity exists for a reason; our differences are the genius – and the conscience – of our species.”
—Carol Black, A Thousand Rivers
stimpunks.org/philosophy/b...
We are stable parts of the human genome.
“Human cognitive diversity exists for a reason; our differences are the genius – and the conscience – of our species.”
—Carol Black, A Thousand Rivers
stimpunks.org/philosophy/b...
Behold the Spectrum
Queer and neurodivergent people are biological facts.We are stable parts of the human genome.If you believe in a Maker, Maker built us in.Look to Maker and behold the Spectrum!If you don’t subscribe…
stimpunks.org
September 22, 2025 at 8:28 PM
Queer and neurodivergent people are biological facts.
We are stable parts of the human genome.
“Human cognitive diversity exists for a reason; our differences are the genius – and the conscience – of our species.”
—Carol Black, A Thousand Rivers
stimpunks.org/philosophy/b...
We are stable parts of the human genome.
“Human cognitive diversity exists for a reason; our differences are the genius – and the conscience – of our species.”
—Carol Black, A Thousand Rivers
stimpunks.org/philosophy/b...
RE: when chronic misattunement harms your internal scaffolding for connection/the double empathy problem and its aftermath.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-cost-o...
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-cost-o...
September 16, 2025 at 9:51 PM
RE: when chronic misattunement harms your internal scaffolding for connection/the double empathy problem and its aftermath.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-cost-o...
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-cost-o...
My body knew I couldn't fully heal while my father lived. This isn't about blame; it's about how nervous systems wait for safety. A meditation on love, timing, and becoming who you always were.
CW: parental death, grief.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-timing...
CW: parental death, grief.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-timing...
The Quiet That Wasn't Vigilance
Filed under: grief logic and cellular loyalty.
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September 10, 2025 at 5:20 AM
My body knew I couldn't fully heal while my father lived. This isn't about blame; it's about how nervous systems wait for safety. A meditation on love, timing, and becoming who you always were.
CW: parental death, grief.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-timing...
CW: parental death, grief.
www.libbyiscomplex.com/p/the-timing...
For years I performed "writing voice" - translating thoughts into prose. Trauma recovery gave me something unexpected: the capacity to externalize cognition more accurately. My writing sounds like my thinking now, and I think part of that is increased authenticity as a result of safety.
September 6, 2025 at 11:37 PM
For years I performed "writing voice" - translating thoughts into prose. Trauma recovery gave me something unexpected: the capacity to externalize cognition more accurately. My writing sounds like my thinking now, and I think part of that is increased authenticity as a result of safety.
New writing RE: "returing" from dissociation and the complexity of feeling more and more.
Some Days I Locate My Exit
CW: dissociation, complex trauma, chronic pain, embodiment struggles
www.libbyiscomplex.com
September 3, 2025 at 1:35 AM
New writing RE: "returing" from dissociation and the complexity of feeling more and more.
New glasses after not having them for three months due to accidentally stepping on previous pair with a crunch = relief.
August 29, 2025 at 10:26 PM
New glasses after not having them for three months due to accidentally stepping on previous pair with a crunch = relief.
Wrote about dissociation as protective reorganization rather than disappearance - how survival sometimes means not knowing until your system can handle retrieval.
The Library With the Lights Off
CW: dissociation/depersonalization, discussion of trauma survival mechanisms
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August 26, 2025 at 4:54 PM
Wrote about dissociation as protective reorganization rather than disappearance - how survival sometimes means not knowing until your system can handle retrieval.