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Nicole @ohiokindasucks.bsky.social · 11h

I know. It's so exhausting to always be your own advocate, especially when it's family.

You're incredibly smart and resilient though. You're gonna find a way to resolve this one way or another. I'm happy to give advice or be a listening ear if you need it!

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Nicole @ohiokindasucks.bsky.social · 12h

The only reason I haven't had to have these conversations with my own family is that I transitioned before my siblings' kids were born or old enough to form memories. They've made it very clear that it would have been a problem if that wasn't the case.

I feel for you girl! 🫂

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Nicole @ohiokindasucks.bsky.social · 12h

But if you have a kid, that's your problem and you are being a bad and lazy parent if you are making it someone else's. That goes triple for if that someone else is ALSO a family member.

There are children's books that explain this shit, it's not hard. They're being lazy, bad parents.

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Nicole @ohiokindasucks.bsky.social · 12h

No excuse is a valid one, but if this is seriously what they told you, that's some grade A horse shit. Being a parent means that you need to be able to teach your children about the world and sometimes that's gonna make you uncomfortable.

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Nicole @ohiokindasucks.bsky.social · 14h

If the kids are old enough to remember you pre-transition but still like younger than pre-teens, my guess is that your siblings are punting on having to have that hard conversation with them. You need to make that clear that is their problem and they shouldn't be making it your problem.

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Nicole @ohiokindasucks.bsky.social · 14h

Also how old are the kids? I transitioned before all but one of my nieces and nephews were born and that one is too young to remember me pre transition so I've always been Aunt Nicole. But I've had convos with my siblings about how they don't know how to broach it with their kids if it comes up.

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Nicole @ohiokindasucks.bsky.social · 14h

Write down some thoughts before hand to keep yourself grounded and focused. As soon as the emotions start flowing with me I quickly lose the thread and the coherency and immediately undermine my arguments.

Have someone available to talk to after for decompression if you can.

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Nicole @ohiokindasucks.bsky.social · 16h

I really liked my outfit today. HOWEVER this top was not cooperating with my chest. I had to sit in the front row of the all-hands in the office today and I kept accidentally flashing my bra to the executive leadership team.

Nicole in a bathroom. She's wearing a red and black plaid shirt with a black wrap shirt underneath and jeans.

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Nicole @ohiokindasucks.bsky.social · 19h

Congratulations!!!!! I'm so happy for you!!!! Have a super speedy recovery!!!!

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Nicole @ohiokindasucks.bsky.social · 19h

Good day to be in the office, chatting with coworkers, grabbing coffee with my friend, and not being on this app. 🙂

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