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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 48m

“trauma”, bc there’s a baseline expectation of “what makes one human”, tracing all the way back to when morality & religion were conceptualized then used as a tool to control

Traits like kindness/empathy are not viewed as an act of conscious choice with effort but a default we shall naturally have

ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 54m

My baseline is that I love all non-humans out there

It’s deeply tragic that certain traits in animals are “normal and instinctive” bc it helped them survive, while the traits our brains similarly inherited or acquired through creative adaptation to adverse experiences are demonized and framed as

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 1h

Huge charm point ngl. I’m a firm defender of them having a space to vent and be “edgy” with likeminded gangs, but I do, and cannot help thinking it’s meaningful to understand this (and why specifically aspd. Other cluster bs don’t appear to be triggered by autism mention much)

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 1h

they were misdiagnosed with autism and just have aspd (while largely describing alexithymia and lack of empathy internally)

There’s quite a lot of…interesting things to unpack in the cases of co-occurrence. Smth about “I’m not a ‘naive autist’ I’m secretly an antisocial edgy psycho”

ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 1h

and becoming a data point but the state of therapy is pretty woeful. Seeing others talk abt experiences, esp humorously, on the other hand, is therapeutic)

Also learnt there’s apparently a trend of aspds getting triggered by autism? Can’t help recalling the poster I saw on Twitter who insisted

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 1h

Due to my experience I’m naturally invested in exploring the co-occurrence of neurodevelopmental conditions (like ASD) and PDs

Numerous discussions and threads kinda confirm my suspicion that certain combinations are under-diagnosed (sorry for being part of the problem by not going to therapy

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 5h

So we can share our knowledge, experiences and unique perspectives, and make this planet a better, more sustainable, and interesting place together

ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 5h

I don’t use “harmful” coz harm is so subjective and I felt harmed just as much ppl felt harmed by me due to incompatibility in our values, emotionality, prefs, communication - aka brains wired differently. What matters is not who is more right but how to productively navigate our differences

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 5h

No longer feeling self-pity, and no longer feeling shame for my brain being the freaky way it is despite taking accountability for irrational and unproductive behaviors that are a net negative for both others and myself is the best thing that has happened to me recently mental health-wise

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 5h

the first step to mental health is to have real empathy and respect for yourself then you can work on extending it to others. If your community/therapist is teaching you the opposite or that being a victim makes you better, RUN. All the answers you need can be found within you. You can help yourself

ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 6h

ig it’s pretty much expected in any mental health community but there’s so much self-hate and pity across the board (sometimes from both those with the conditions and the “victims”) Not blaming them I think having a space to vent and be raw helps

I hope they’ll one day too realize

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 6h

I’m also like, perhaps it’s the best for your mental health to not visit a space supposedly full of ppl “just like your abusers”. Why would you do this to yourself if you hate them so much

That’s honestly so funny and…dare I say, cute in a way

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 6h

Also I’m personally not a fan of the rhetoric of attributing complex psychology and past wrong behaviors to trauma. I don’t need trauma to justify any disorder or abnormality. No one needs to be a victim first to justify having flaws

ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 6h

If your response to anything is first and foremost to posit yourself as better, purer, morally superior to the other party you can only be that “good”. Are they even aware

Want to preach to me empathy - use it yourself first. You can’t even show urself any empathy if you are so afraid of being bad

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 6h

First of all I think cluster b communities could benefit from only allowing participants from those with the disorders (like the tumblr group) instead of open membership

Second I dislike victim complex with a passion and my bullshit radar is high enough to detect that crap

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 7h

I’ve seen this rhetoric many times like they all use the same rhetoric to frame themselves as perfect victims to justify the rights to be rude in spaces not for them

ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 7h

I wonder if they’re even aware their behaviors show:
- A sense of superiority (I’m a victim too but UNLIKE YOU I’m GOOD and PURE)
- Lack of willingness to empathize/understand others
- Disrespect of boundaries

Almost make me wonder if this is one of those “hate ppl who remind me of myself” cases

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 7h

Self-identified abuse victims hanging out in npd spaces just to be rude and trauma dump rly need to do some unpacking themselves. The amount of victim complex in their post history (my parents sister and exes are all evil narcs and I’m just a poor little perfect victim) is mind-boggling

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Ca-ke 🍰 @paperca-ke.bsky.social · 17h

htsk 💛💙

#AveMujica
#Ca-keCommissions

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 20h

He has to love my trusted agents. Anomalous dandelion 🫶 Totally not carnivorous

ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 20h

Still not older than Ed in the respective scale, ig. Only 2x the average lifespan. Ed’s like 5x that of a human

ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 20h

Me? I’m a fcking cat. Ofc I eat meat

However, I’m very picky about my meat. Like the average kitty cat, my stomach is very sensitive, esp being a 30-yr-old geriatric. Prep my meal incorrectly and I’ll throw it up all over you

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ネコビーム @nekkobeam.bsky.social · 20h

Lore drop: Towa’s vegetarian. Prey animal coded 😋

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Gigi Bama @gigibama.bsky.social · 1d

Halloween kitty is ready for fun. 😻
#Caturday
#HalloweenCats

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Yuumei Art @yuumeiart.bsky.social · 2d

Thank you all for the well wishes towards my move to Sweden! I realized there was some misunderstanding about my web shop and people have been panicking. All the prints, artbooks, koi lanterns, etc will still be sold as before.

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