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Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 6h

#LGBTQChildren #Parentsofqueerchildren #IAmProudofmyGayChild

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 6h

Make parental accountability visible in your circles by sharing stories of repair and modelling phrases that open conversation.

Call to action: Post one line parents should say to show they’re learning, tag two friends to share, and use #ParentsWhoStay.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 6h

Repair practices are concrete: attend a support group, read testimonies, practise non-defensive listening, and make visible amends gestures that children and chosen families can see. When parents move from silence to active curiosity, they rebuild trust and create safer futures for their kids.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 6h

Parental support is less about advice and more about witnessing: saying the name out loud, committing to repair, and staying present through hard conversations.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 6h

Parents who reject queer children often lose the chance to learn how to hold them with tenderness; reconciliation can feel impossible until someone models a different way.

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Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 1d

Visit www.rainbowchai.org for more information about joining.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 1d

Ready to join us?
Register at the link in our bio or at www.rainbowchai.org

Looking forward to seeing you there.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 1d

This is a safe space where you can share your experiences, ask questions, and connect with other parents on similar journeys. Whether you're struggling to understand or further along in accepting your child, everyone is welcome.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 1d

Our October Rainbow Chai session is this Tuesday, 28th October at 6.30pm.

If you're a parent of South Asian heritage with an LGBTQI+ child, this online support group is for you.

It's led by Saima, a proud mum of two LGBT children who understands exactly what you're going through.

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Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 5d

Share pictures of your found family with the #NazandMatt hashtag to take part in instilling hope in those who haven't yet found theirs!

#LGBT #ComingOut #ParentalAcceptance #FoundFamily

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 5d

Still, there is life after exile. There are people who will remember your name, not as a warning but as a story worth honouring. There are communities that will hold space for your grief and help you rebuild.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 5d

The ache of being erased by those who raised you doesn’t vanish. It settles in the unconscious and resurfaces in unexpected ways—through dreams, smells, even songs. Loss of family can often mean loss of culture.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 5d

For the queer person, it lingers in ignored birthdays and lonely holidays. You mourn a family that still exists but no longer sees you. There’s no closure, just a slow fading of connection. Some find healing in chosen families, in new rituals, in spaces where they’re seen.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 5d

When a queer child is emotionally disowned, there’s no ceremony, no mourning, no acknowledgement of loss. They just disappear from family photos, group chats, and prayers. The absence is treated like a correction, not a tragedy. The grief, however, is real.

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Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 7d

We at Naz and Matt Foundation can help you battle the trauma of gendered spiritual control. Please reach out via the link in bio.

#LGBT #ComingOut #CulturalMisogyny #FoundFamily

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 7d

There is a way forward. It begins with naming the harm and reclaiming the right to define your own spiritual path. You deserve spaces where your gender is not a test but a truth. You deserve rituals that honour your whole self.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 7d

The cost of authenticity is high, and many walk away not because they’ve lost belief, but because belief included them. The spiritual home they were promised never had room for them.

And still, many carry fragments of that faith, trying to reconcile what was sacred with what was harmful.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 7d

For non-conventionally feminine women, trans-masculine and nonbinary individuals, the pressure to perform femininity can feel relentless and suffocating. Faith becomes a place where gender is tightly policed. You’re praised when you conform and punished when you don’t.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 7d

Religious spaces often come with a script, especially for those assigned female at birth. You’re expected to be modest, quiet, obedient. Your body becomes a battleground for purity, and your future is mapped out without your consent.

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Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 12d

We are allowed to demand more from our leaders.

Share this post via stories to spotlight a faith leader who has spoken up and ask others to amplify them.

#LGBT #ReligiousHomophobia

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 12d

Leadership without courage isn’t leadership. It’s a performance that leaves the most vulnerable behind.

And yet, many still show up to these spaces, hoping for change, hoping to be seen. There are leaders who are ready to speak and there are certainly communities ready to listen.

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Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 12d

For queer people of faith, the quiet support is diminished by the lack of public support. It sends a message that their dignity is negotiable, that their place in the community depends on continued secrecy.

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Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 12d

They fear backlash, losing status, or disrupting tradition. Their silence ultimately doesn't protect anyone, it only isolates further.

Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 12d

There are religious leaders who understand the pain queer people carry. They’ve heard the stories, offered quiet comfort, and nodded in private. But when it comes to speaking out, they choose silence.

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Naz & Matt Foundation @nazandmatt.bsky.social · 14d

If you are your family’s cautionary tale, consider sharing this (safely!) to begin conversation.

#LGBT #QueerChildren #FoundFamily

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