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Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer

@focalfemme.bsky.social

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📸 Fantasy boudoir photographer 👙 Freelance branding model 🔥 Lingerie + latex + costumes 💋 Latex designer 🩷 Confidence creatix 👀 Pleasure advocate Follow me on IG! www.instagram.com/focalfemme www.instagram.com/femme_tog

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Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

They allowed me to honor my holy shrine and to release the negative self-talk that had crippled me my entire life.

It was a game-changer.

And really fun at the same time 😜

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

It took me a long time to get comfortable with someone's tongue between my thighs - especially when reciprocation was taken off the table.

I'm grateful for the person who gave me that opportunity to come home to myself.

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

Pleasure should be give and take.

It doesn't matter if you're a sub, domme, switch or vanilla as cake.

YOU ARE WORTHY OF PLEASURE.

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

It took me awhile to fully believe I was worthy of pleasure - not just in the moment - but to change my mindset from one of not being worthy - to becoming a SEXUAL GODDESS hellbent on discovering forms of pleasure which I previously didn't give a second thought to unless I was on the giving end.

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

I remember the first time a friend drunkenly went down on me - no reciprocation required.

I was nervous.
I fidgeted.
I started to disassociate.

Feeling my apprehension, she said "Relax. You're safe. You deserve pleasure."

And for the first time in my life, I believed it.

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

Most associate "sexual awakenings" with your teenage years - but I was 41.

I was coming out of my shell and into my confidence and starting to explore my bisexuality all at the same time.

And it was beautiful.

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

It took me longer to associate body acceptance with my desire for my own pleasure - but the two really went hand in hand.

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

It took me a long time to realize WHY.

Part of it was clearly because no one was advocating for my pleasure - if I wasn't going to advocate for myself, he sure as hell wasn't going to. I mean, why would he when he was used to having me 100% devoted to HIS PLEASURE?

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

The end goal was always HIS pleasure.

I would disassociate and go into some fantasy porn world in my head, pretending I was someone else. I would moan and fake orgasms and, once finished, roll over and quietly masturbate after I was sure he had fallen asleep.

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

I've always been a very sexual person - but it wasn't until my early 40's that I learned how to ACCEPT pleasure.

I was always the giver - giving, giving, giving to my lover and never expecting (or even desiring) anything in return.

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · 2h

A big part of "reaching your sexual peak" is learning to love your body.

You can't completely let go and experience the full depths of erotic pleasure until you can learn to quiet the nagging voice in your head that says you're not sexy or worthy of pleasure.

But once you finally do, holy smokes 🔥

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · Sep 4

When did you first feel confident in your own skin? When did you first recognize the power of your pleasure?

Shot by ScorpioTog (*Insta)

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · Jul 29

Caption this you pervs -

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · Jul 28

Thank you gorgeous!! 🥰😘

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · Jul 21

So cool! I'm an audiophile so this pattern was made for me 🤗

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Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · Jul 3

Such a hottie!! 😻

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · Jul 2

The only thing preventing me from opening an only fans at this point is time - I have none. So it will stay on the "someday" list along with becoming a burlesque performer and hosting an entire fashion show filled with my latex designs...

#curvy #tattooed #showerscene #lingerie #boudoir #sexuality

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · Jun 25

Let them eat cake 🍰

*Can you spot the cake I'm referring to? 😉

#bootysky #bbwsky #curvy #nsfw #lingerie #creativeportrait #boudoir #curvygirl #over40 #sexy #lingeriemodel #rococco #baroque #fineart #curvymodel #pinklingerie #mirrorpose #creativephotography #fantasy #spicy #classy

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · Jun 10

Good girls read dirty books 📚

And REALLY good girls write them 😸

#goodgirl #naughty #smut #dirtythoughts #nsfwsky #womenwhowrite #spicy

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · Jun 9

My first boudoir shoot changed my life.

Have you done boudoir?
What did you get out of it?

Help me hype up the ladies who are on the fence!

And check out today's post on Insta for more on my 1st boudoir experience!

#boudoir #lingerie #sexy #blackandwhitephotography #fishnet #curvy #thisis40

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Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · May 30

It's Friday, I'm in love - with multiple genders, cuz that's how I do 😘💟

#boudoir #bigirl #queercreator #thick #thickthighs #thickthighssavelives

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · May 25

Save a horse, ride a bisexual
🩷💜💙

I'll be sharing more from this set on Insta soon. Make sure you're following so you don't miss it 😉

#yeehaw #cowgirl #lingerie #giddyup #cowboy #nsfw #buttsky #thickthighs #tattooed #curvy #boudoir #fashionbranding #lingeriemodel #ugc #ugcmodel #boudoirinspo #sexy

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Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · May 10

Here kitty kitty 🐈

#curvy #boudoir #selfportraits #catsuit #fishnets #cougar #spicy #pleasure #thisis40 #milf #mommy #switch #bisexual #unicorn #femalesexuality #confidence #fineart #nsfw #nippleclamps #bdsm #boobsky #lingerie #therealnsfwsky #nsfwsky #curvyandtattooed #lingeriemodel #curvymodel

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Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · May 8

The bow tattoos were supposed to be red but I didn't notice he didn't color them until he was done 🤦🏼‍♀️ hoping they can still be colored in and look good 🎀

I'm wearing nude hose today and it legit looks like I'm wearing seamed stockings 👌🏼💕

#lingerie #boudoir #fineartphotography #newink #legs #tats

Focal Femme | 44 | Curvy Lingerie Model + Boudoir Photographer @focalfemme.bsky.social · May 6

Stunning!