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@emdashery.bsky.social

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Mid-30s demi hypno-nerd with a passion for punctuation. Always glad to talk shop about hypno and kink.

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Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · Oct 23

Twitter Repost: So, I've been deep into hypnokink for two years, and "hypnotic amnesia" still seems like the holy grail for a lot of folks in terms of selling/living the fantasy. I've got a theory about it!

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

(And like all hypno, the best part is that even if the partner knows what you're doing, that doesn't stop it from working. It's a special magic trick that works BETTER when you know how's it done.)

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

It's simple stuff. But it's powerful. It's useful. And when I was in a funk, morning snapped me out of it better than trying to boil things down to the basics.

So if you're feeling stuck, try getting as simple as you can.

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

And then you just throw out the breadcrumbs: And they could notice something changing in their mind, or their breathing, or their thinking, or their feelings. They could notice how nice it is to blink. They could let things slow down.

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

Like, they're always breathing. You can observe if they're standing, sitting, etc. You can talk about their expression, especially if doing so makes them smile or laugh. You can talk about the temperature if you're in the same room, or even just observe that THEY can notice the rooms temperature

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

And if you do it right, and you've built rapport, it's as easy as your partner trusting that what you say will continue to be true.

It's basic. It's easy. Once you know some things that are always gonna be true, it's dead simple--

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

Pacing lets your partner know, unconsciously, that the things you're saying are true. That builds trust and confidence that what you say will *continue* to be true--

And that's leading. After you say what you (reasonably) know to be true, you pepper in what you ✨ want ✨ to be true.

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

Pacing is just saying things that are true to your partner. This builds rapport, because you are validating their lives reality. This can even be really banal shit:

You're there, reading this text. And you're probably breathing. You might even blink at some point.

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

It's a really simple concept, and once you notice it, you can see it in basically every induction and suggestion. Like the name implies, there are two components:

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

But what helped me in the end was letting go of all the fancy stuff I was trying to do and going back to what I consider the absolute most fundamental skill in all hypno:

Pacing and leading

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

Thankfully I had some very generous, patient play partners who were encouraging and open. They let me fumble around and fuck stuff up without making me feel bad about it. They're probably the reason I stuck around and powered through!

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

It was really weird to shoot down and try to do a session with someone only to fumble the ball time and again. I couldn't get out of my own way and just *let* myself do hypno

(I suspect this is not a unique experience)

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

#hypnovember Discourse 6: Pace and Lead

So, I went through a long, weird hypno funk. I didn't okay, I didn't read, and when I tried to come back, I fumbled at things that used to be second nature.

Let's talk about how I got my groove back!

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 10h

No real list, sadly, but also not sadly because the lines between things are really ambiguous and how you classify things for yourself might actually impact your results.

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

Right? It's absolutely a skill, though, for the subject to learn how to do that smoothly and unconsciously, so they can stay in synch with whatever suggestions come next.

I feel like people need to be more empowered to refocus their inner trance without seeing it as like... Conscious failure

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

(This could be some other kink context, if they're less about submission and more about, like, dissociation or corruption or whatever's their preference. Point still stands: Once you know, reasonably, what their answer will be? Leverage that knowledge and their kink.

See what happens 😉)

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

Especially in a kink context, part of the fantasy is demand, submission, control.

When you can successfully make a demand they know how to follow, it'll hit like a steel beam between the eyes because you've now combined their talents with the inherent juice of kinky satisfaction.

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

It's convenient to default to the Ericksonian ambiguity.

Most of the time.

But when you've played enough with a partner to be reasonably confident about their abilities, inner resources, and sensory imagination?

Use it.

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

That being said...

There's a pretty common saying that a lawyer doesn't ask a question in trial unless they know what the answer will be.

I think there's a cool way to use that, hypnotically:

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

(Yes, it's Erickson. It's been Erickson All Along.)

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

"You can imagine being at a beach right? Because there's a lot of them and they can be pretty nice to visit on the right day, so if you could be on a beach, you would probably notice all kinds of sensations that you didn't normally get to experience."

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

So I tend to avoid senses whenever I can. I focus on abstracts or leading statements, leaving plenty of room for them to gravitate towards whatever sensory imagining they feel most comfortable with:

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

It's a doom spiral! Because you've asked them to do something without knowing if they can do it (effectively, unconsciously, easily, comfortably).

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

"Why can't I feel X? Am I failing? Should I try harder? Am I a bad subject? Is this a bad tist? Am I ever going to learn how to do this? Should my brain be this active?"

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

But that's a lot of work, and less experienced subjects might not know how to do it, or have to do it consciously. In either case, they're now caught outside the flow of the trance:

Emdash @emdashery.bsky.social · 1d

"Okay, the twist said I'm at the beach and I can feel the sun. But I can't feel that. But I can imagine seeing it. I can abstractly know that it's warming me up. That's nice. We can just go with that."

(This isn't the subject invalidating the tist. It's them propping up a faulty suggestion.)